How should I deal with this situatuion???? Help please, read details!!!?

Daizy35

my advice is to do nothing,unless you absolutely HAVE to!!Telling your husband would only hurt him unnecessarily,especially if his brother has NO plans of divorcing his current wife! I dont know you from Eve,but im sure you love your husband very much! As for your being worried about the brother? Thats only natural! You feel like your marriage may be threatened,and you are worried! You have done nothing wrong.You only danced with the man! That is NOT adultery! If the brother keeps up his advances,though,im afraid you will be forced to tell your husband what is going on to get the brother to stop! Continue to let the brother know, You only have love for your husband! Avoid one-on-one confrontations with him whenever possible!
You control the situation as much as you can!

david

Please don't get caught in that trap. Going after your brother's wife? This guy is a scumbag!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Moondog

Just avoid him as best you can and don't get into any situations where you are alone with him..None.

KittyKat

Don't start letting your sappy feelings get to you. You love your husband so in the future, do not dance with your brother in law and try never to be alone with him. Tell him you don't want to hear anything else about this and for him to leave you alone because you love your husband and you don't want any family problems. Then walk away and don't listen to his nonsense. Even if he calls, as soon as you know it is him, tell him bye and gently hang up the phone. do not stay on the phone and talk with him at all.

Keep temptation away and it won't bite you.

Clare

i think that you should definatley tell your husband after you tell your brother in law to back off

bonjove49

you should pretty much just tell him. because you can't keep secrets from your husband.

Fantene

You should tell your husband - the relationship he has with you is much more important than the relationship between him and his brother.

P. S. Everyone gets flattered when they receive extra attention. It's not worth dwelling on.

ideally_rational

Firmly tell your brother-in-law that he is out of line, and that you will not listen to one more word of such talk.
You may like the attention, but have a little respect for everyone involved, including yourself. The consequences of such actions could lead you to despising yourself, along with everyone else involved despising you if they found out.
There are a few billion people on the planet. If you must fantasize about attention, can't you think of a single other person that is less inappropriate?
Have some class, will ya?

coffee56man

Let it go! You do not even want to go there! Steer clear of the brother from now on!

~*Durty's Wifey*~

tell your husband, he will find out one way or another. better for him to hear it from you than someone else.

rachel m

it could just be that you liked the attention , maybe you are not getting enough at home , in any case that doesn't make you a bad person , as long as you know nothing is going to happen and you could be alright no big deal , except perhaps you feel guilty because you enjoyed the attention, it's alright it's natural i mean you are only human , just because your married doesn't mean you have to stick your head in the sand when someone looks your way or hits on you , just do what is right and everything will be alright , i mean you can tell your husband if you want to , he'll probably figure it was just the alcohol talking as long as that is all that happened you don't actually have to say anything now it is really up to you , however you may want to say something about it just in case he tells your husband that you came on to him so be careful and good luck

John Timothy

Avoid him, Nance, and let sleeping dogs lie. You will not make people happy by telling your husband about this. As long as it does not continue, why tell your husband something that is going to start a big bunch of trouble? And it will cause a BIG bunch of trouble! Your husband will try to go beat him up, if nothing else, and the inlaws will start taking sides and there will be a furor over this. Tell old brother in law to back off and leave you and your marriage alone. Do not be seduced into thinking that the attention is nice. Because the attention is only nice at this stage and only for a minute. If you follow up on the attention and go all the way, I promise you it will end in disaster. Don't tell anyone about this. Tell the brother to leave you alone. And stay away from him before it ruins everything!

mrigank

try to know is there any problem with him

suzlaa1971

Ok, here's how to handle this. Since nothing has happened, thankfully, just keep things to yourself. Now, if he crosses the line and you've warned him, tell your husband. He's going to need to know this. Now if the brother denies this, keep documentation of it (seriously) this is proof. Write down date and time and what was said or done. That way, it can't be a he said/she said kind of thing.

pinniethewooh

You will have to end up either telling your husband or this man's wife.

bianca g

be careful....ur both married and anything can happen that can ruin ur heatlhy relationships in ur family....dont give ur trust its obvious he just wants u for something selfish...remember ur married..

gil3moj@yahoo.com

Stay AWAY, far, far, far away. Stop going to parties. If you find out he is going, do not go, you have a head ache or something. You are asking for BIG trouble if you get involved in anyway. What will the rest of his family think of you if you go to the other brother. BEWARE

luvelyone98

I know that you don't want to. But I would have a discussion with my husband. Not all the details, but just the simple fact that his brother made a pass at you and you immediately reminded him that it was inappropriate. I would leave it at that.

Don't set yourself up for emotional blackmail by the brother. If he is slimy enough to go after his brother's wife, he is probably also the type that would go to his brother, who he knows respects him, and say that you came on to him...leaving you looking not only like a tramp, but it would then be very hard for your husband to accept the real truth. I don't believe in keeping secrets in a relationship...it's the beginning of a disaster waiting to happen.

wizjp

Avoid him and forget it.

mgirl88

Okay, feelings are feelings. I doubt alot of people can tell you that they know exactly how you feel because they probably don't. I'm not going to go into the whole morality side of this because I'm guessing you already thought about that. The fact that you were not totally aghast at what your brother-in-law told you indicates that you do care for him to some degree, which is not really helping the situation. It maybe very flattering that he feels that way, but it may also show that he's looking for something outside his marriage and since your part of the family, it's very convenient that he notice you more.

How you react to this will reflect on how you value your own family and his. No matter how you feel about it now, you are definitely not in a position to indulge in this. Having thoughts about your husband's brother is not unnatural, but if you choose to indulge in it too much, now THAT is bad and ou know it. Instead, try to focus on appreciating your husband more. He deserves it. Discourage your brother-in-law. Having something like this could ruin lives, you dont want to be responsible for something like that, unless your willing to give up your marriage.

jim

Threaten your brother-in-law that, if he continues, you will tell your husband and his wife.

Nena S

Be careful! This is the kind of situation that is a ticking bomb, just waiting to go off!

Avoid your brother-in-law at all costs. NEVER be alone with him, and do not think that what he said means anything at all.

He sounds like a pig, and anyone who is willing to cheat with his sister-in-law deserves to be shot...! I feel sorry for his wife...she probably knows nothing.

Matthew L

What Does your Heart say. No one can answer this question but you.
1)you dont tell him. If he does find out he doesnt trust you or his brother ever.

2)You do tell him. This could be tricky. He could act like your lying or He could believe you and confront his brother who may deny It.

My suggestion: Sit down in a totally non hostile way and tell your Husband you have a concern. Being Honest is the best way. If you have him sit down and you talk one on one calmly about it. With no other distractions.

I had a similiar thing happen with myself. My sisters (now X husband) was hitting on my fiancee, my whole family knew about it but didnt tell me, My fiancee finally did after my sister got a divorce. However the damage was done and now I question what my family is or isnt telling me.

Hope this helps

Boeafitness.com

girl go tell your husband now. if you don't you will end up in his bed and will regret it the rest of your life.

better safe then sorry. cause to me your thinking about it and you need to stop it now!!!!!!!!

Switch

Dont think about it too much. Like you said the attention was nice but thats all it was. What you did was right and now just forget it.

Turbo

im not sure

carolyn h

just keep thinking... is it worth your marriage and your bro. in laws marriage? IF you love your hubby and are happy , you wouldn't be asking the questions!!

Kim

If you dont want to ruin the friendship between brothers, keep quiet. But on the same note, you can not allow yourself to encourage the attention, cant be alone with him, downplay yourself when he is around. Especially if you trully love your husband.

Nad

Sheeeet Girl.I can't believe this Guy. You are going to have to tell your Hubby because otherwise the bro might get paranoid of loosing everything and turn this on you.And you get blamed and your husband might not believe your version then. Then again he also might not want to believe it first time around seeing that he is such a fan of his bro. You are such a good Girl to keep your Cool this far.I am sure you can work something out.You need to tell someone you can trust. Not the mother because she will always take her son's side. What about their father , men sometimes is a bit more logical en less emotional about these things.You need someone on your side.Otherwise this thing can become a big mess for you.Good Luck!

cutiepie

speak to your husband I know it will be hard to do, but you must tell him so his brother will not do more harm to you saying he cares for you etc. Your husband can stop his brother from being bad.

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