How to best react when ex is back? pleaseeeee girls?

have been dating this guy for two months, and his ex is now back trying to cover him with her shadow...he is now indecisive...he wants me to wait a bit more so he can clear up everything with her..
he is now very cautious with me and doesnt force me for any physical contacts not to hurt me if he leaves...

im no more a teenager...approaching 30...so i want to have a professional reaction not to shouting,crying, offencing and leaving like a school girl...

when he talks about the ex and his problem what is the best approach to help him and not to down grade myself too?what are the best things i can say?

blueberry

leave, you're 30 where's your dignity? be superior and leave first why should you wait? he's going to choose her anyway, and even if he doesn't he did have a doubt on who to choose

vince d

Nat,
Everything happens for a reason, In as much as I want you to be cool about this. I don't think it is the best way to handle it. You have to be straight with this guy as calm as you can. Tell him to figure out, where you are in his heart, and give him the time and the freedom to choose. Just let him know how much you care, and it is his happiness that count most. If he chooses you, it will be great. If not, far more you should be thankful, because this thing happened before you are married to him. I do really believe that you have to pour out all the things you have in your heart before you let him go and think. You are a great person to handle it, just believe in yourself and everything will go smooth. Pray, God Bless You.

litlbitty0423

I would say back away. Let him make up his mind. You do not want to go through this over and over. If he still loves her than maybe it is time to move on and let him know you are not going to share him with her. Like you said you are too old to play games. He is not a kid either and if he is confronted with a choice he will have to make it.

brwneyedgrl

the x is back and he's indecisive??? time to say.. "when u make up your mind let me know" and vanish.. im sorry but if he doesnt know what he wants, then u need to move on.. if he truely cared about you.. if he truely wanted to see where things could go with u.. and truely was happy with u.. he wouldnt have to pick and chose, he'd already know what he wants.. you shouldnt be 2nd prize for any man.. its only 2 months in.. get out while your heart still stands a chance.. if its meant to be it will be.. but i wouldnt want to be any mans "settle for" girl..

Douglas B

I think you have a problem here. You got somebody on the rebound and now you are paying the consequences for that rebound. He never got everything right in his head about that relationhip and has too many feelings for her that he didn't contend with. Now you are the one who he isn't sure about. But I think he is going to be that way for a long time because he didn't do the right thing before and is going to be a big risk to take by staying with him. You may wake one morning and find him gone for no other reason than he didn't know why he should stay.

Thandeka

its better live him and carry on life.you`ll get someone else

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