How to deal with jealousy?

candy_girly101

Talk to him, tell him what's up and that you feel uncomfortable with other girls flirting with him
Communication is key in a relationship
don't bottle it up
And if that doesn't work then when there are girls around him just walk up to him and wrap your arm around his, or take his hand right in front of the girls and just casually talk like it's no body's business
They may give you a dirty look but who gives a **** they might just walk away leaving you with your man:)

Hope that helps

reena r

Jealousy in a relationship can DESTROY that relationship even if it is nearly perfect in every other way. That's the harm of Jealousy, that's why it is one of the Seven Deadly Sins. Jealousy is about seeing a normal situation and fearing it because of imaginary potential harm. So there is no way to "fix" the problem other thJealousy is a feeling or emotion we all feel at one point in our lives. However, jealousy in relationships is usually not a good thing. It is a common theme that is discussed by those who are in love, or by their friends, the factors that make you jealous, and the other feelings jealousy creates. Why does one feel jealous? Is jealousy an indication of a weak relationship, or some other problem in the relationship? These and many other questions pepper the minds of those who often feel jealousy. If the relationship is strong, should one feel jealous at all? If you are very sure that you love someone and are totally committed to that person, and if you believe that they are equally in love with you, why should you feel jealous? Is it because some where secretly you are not as in love with them as you think? The questions go on and on, but jealousy is a fact of life. So, let's take a closer look at the jealousy in relationships, and in doing so figure out how to deal with jealousy:
an addressing the actual Jealousy
If the relationship you feel jealousy in is platonic, such as a mother child relationship, then jealousy is a whole different beast to slay than jealousy in romantic relationships. For example, let's say you are jealous of your spouse because they have an ability to connect with one of your children that you can't seem to get through to. This jealousy might eat at you because you know you should be happy that they have a close relationship, but you can't help but feel frustrated and.well.jealous.

But, does that mean you would you try to take away your child from your spouse? Would you confront the spouse about it? Probably not, but what if instead of your child, it is your wife, or your husband, or your boyfriend or girlfriend? Now how would you feel? What would you do? If someone else had the ability to connect with them better than you, how would that jealousy be different? That is why you have to first determine what type of jealousy you are feeling before you can deal with it.

The main difference in these two types of jealousy is faith. You have total faith that your child may run around and play with many people around the day, will be close with your spouse, and have other friends, but will at the end of the day still love you, still come to you if they are hungry, thirsty, or need a hug. You do not have the same faith with your lover/spouse. If you do not have the faith that no matter who they associate with, or who they have relationships with, that at the end of the day they will come back to you for their comfort, you will be jealous. Somewhere in your mind, you are questioning yourself. You will always be wondering about your looks, your intelligence, your relationship skills and all other factors that may break your relationship and make your spouse/lover go into another relationship. This type of jealousy is much harder to deal with, however, it is still possible.

To deal with this type of jealousy you have to work on your own insecurities. So, start doing this by discussing, without hesitation, everything in your mind with your spouse/lover. Any worry or jealous instinct you have should be exposed. Then ask that they do the same. If you can do this and be totally open with one another, that will give you the ability to discuss everything and decide where your relationship is going, and what it means, and therefore, whether or not your jealousy is founded or silly.

If after this discussion you find that you are not totally committed to just one another, then you will know that your jealousy should have been there, it had reason, and you can either work to make your relationship more committed so you do not have to be jealous, or break it off. However, if you find that your relationship is here to stay, it is time to rid yourself of jealousy. Usually you can do this by giving that commitment of love and take that commitment in return. Then reminding yourself of your worth often. Jealousy mainly comes in our mind because we are not sure of the love and commitment in our relationship. So, to deal with jealousy, determine the love and commitment, and if there is not enough, break it off.

cattails143

trust him until you have a reason not to. doubt and not trusting will ruin any relationship you may have with him.

If he goes around kissing, hugging etc other girls that's a different story.

gnarly guy

Jealousy is envy plus anger.
Loosen up some and become more aware.
Flirting is a sign of being untrustworthy.
You need to talk without starting off as feeling jealous, but rather concerned.

hyuga_megami

However you feel, u need to talk to him.. the way you say things is very important, so don't make a big deal out of it but be honest with him. Communication is very important in every relationship.

â™¥The Mrs.â™¥

Is he married?

â™¥ B â™¥

does he get jealous too? love is never jealous. remember that.
just because your boyfriend and them had good times before, doesn't mean he can't have good times with you. so relax cause he could've CHOSEN to be with the other girls that flirt with him, but he chose you right? there's no reason to doubt him, wheres the love? trust him, and he'll trust you.

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Debbie

You have to trust him until he gives you a reason not to.

princessshar

Hey, don't worry everyone gets jealous. First of all I know he doesn't have feelings for them - why? Because he was smoking with these girls before you started dating...if he liked any of them he would be dating one of them and not you. He obviously likes you better or he wouldn't be with you! You're special. I honestly know what you feel, and jealousy is very hard to control but maybe try to discourage him from smoking? Tell him its really bad for him and you want to help him quit. This is the truth, its not like you're lying - smoking is bad for you! Then he won't chill as much with these girls. Or, you could tell him that you're going to spend time with your "guy friends" and see how he feels ;). If he gets jealous as well you can mention these girls. Anyways, I hope this helped somewhat. Gluck.

prfctgal

pray

Jarq

get over it seriously, who wants a dude who smokes and spends all his time with othe females...talk to him about it, see what he says..?

Sue C

I can well imagine how you feel, & I would feel the same as you do! Now that he's going w/you, he honestly should get these other girls completely out of his life. Let him know you just feel there isn't any more room in your relationship but the TWO of you. Let him know how you feel now & just how much it does bother you. IF you don't tell him, he's not going to know how you do feel about it as he's NOT a mind reader! Best to you, & hopefully things w/just work out for the best for you both...:)

Nicky Tarantino

Tell him that you're uncomfortable with him flirting with other girls. Don't push too far, but if you tell him, he should at least be willing to listen. It can't hurt.

Oscar

don't don nothing if you really love him u need to trust him cuz jelousy is da #1 reason for break ups

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