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frankb1124
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Your husband lost his mother and I'm sure at the wake he was a little too preoccupied to worry about someone he dated a long time ago. You can't control how this women acts or if she's looking at your husband or is attentive to him when he speaks etc. Although you say that you are going to see her again I would just mention to your husband that she makes you uncomfortable with the level of attention that she gives him. If, like you say, your husband is a one-woman man, let him deal with it as he sees fit. By confronting this woman you wind up looking insecure and possessive and give her the satisfaction of being able to get under your skin. |
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chik7896
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No woman ever wants to see another woman "touching" her husband in that way. If she does this again, simply tell her "Please quit doing that, it's not appropriate." |
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*Almost ready*
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I don't think that you are overreacting. I would feel the same way if my husband's ex was being touchy feely.
My suggestion is that the next time you see her...YOU put your arm around him and make sure it is clear to her who he is with! And talk to your husband about this beforehand. Tell him that if she touches him he is to pull away. Those should give her the hint. |
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peaches6
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I wouldn't like it, but it's up to your husband to put her in her place. I would have a talk with my hubby and let him know how I feel and he should honor that. Good Luck! |
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missnasa2001
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If you trust your husband then leave it to him to turn her down. She may be embarrassed if he does so. A lot of women that act like that just have it in their head that they can have this guy or any guy for that matter. When they get shot down it's a huge blow to them. And hubby needs to put her in her place instead of giving this gal the big head! When you see her next time, he should be really handsy with you in front of her and if she tries to touch him again he should ask her not to do it and that it is disrespectful to his wife. |
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Kate
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Leave it to your husband to move away from her and prevent the physical contact, or for him to speak to her directly about it if it continues - it can be as simple as "I'm sorry, I'm not comfortable with physical displays of affection, I'm sure you understand, I'm a married man." Doesn't have to be a big deal, unless she doesn't take the hint.
However, if YOU say something, it looks like he can't or won't speak up for himself, and if she thinks it's just YOU that wants it to stop, she won't. She needs to understand that HE wants it to stop.
So, don't say a word, just smile and let him handle it. |
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sweetiepie
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if you dont ant to tell her to back off and you trust your husband let it go granted im only 24 but thats wot i would do |
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ndnqt1966
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Yes she was inappropriate and disrespectful....and your husband should be the one to say something to her about her unwanted advances....
Kate has it right....if you say something to her...it will look like you are uncomfortble with her touching your husband and that he isn't necessarily....It should come from him.... |
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rpetch007
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keep her away from him please as she bad news |
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Tina
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When she is around..........just take your husband to another part of the room or where ever. You can always come up with an excuse to get him away from her. You also need to remind your husband how it makes you feel beforehand. |
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Princess Betty
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You should not have the conversation...Your husband needs to put her in her place... not you. Your husband should be man enough to tell the woman that he USED to date that she is behaving inappropiated to a married man. He needs to ask that woman to respect him and his wife. |
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Michelle
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Make sure your husband tells her that it's inappropriate and it makes him uncomfortable. If it comes from you - she will probably intensify her actions if her intentions are not good. |
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expedigirl
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Dealing with the death of a parent is very hard on some people so he probably was oblivious to her. But now that he knows how you feel it is up to him to stop it. If you tell her that it's inappropriate for her to be touching him, she's going to think that you have a reason to feel threaten by her and she may go after your husband more. If he tells her, she may stop. If she doesn't, then you step in. |
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roadrunner
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It's time for a game plan - next time she is in the room, HE comes over to you, and puts his arm around YOU all the while she is talking, filirting, and making a spectacle of herself. A picture is worth a thousand words. You go, girl! Have a healthy and happy leap year! |
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Flower
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I would let this time go. It might have been nothing. You have a right to be a little upset for your hubby's lack of attention to the situation. Now that he is aware he should know how you feel. The next time she is around he can make it a point to not sit too close to her and try to avoid the same thing happening again. If she is obviously all over your husband then go stand by him. Hold his hand and then ask her why she isn't married. You have nothing to fear if your hubby is faithful. Put her in her place if you have to. |
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♥Sabre♥
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You must be worried about it because it you were - you wouldnt be posting this question -
you have a right to be worried hun
no women wants to see another women all over her man
IS he going to see her again? who knows but If he sees her again make sure you go along with him |
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sweetiepie12
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I would just make sure you are right beside him hold hands or something the whole time. Tell him to say hello to her and that is all ( if possible) make it seem like hes is so in love. And so busy talking to his wife that he can't be bothered talking to her.
It seems like she is trying to be more then a friend. My boyfriend has a girl like that to from his work and I would love to ring her neck but I just smile and act like nothing is wrong and remember hes all mine |
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Julia
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I would walk up to this woman and tell her that you have no problem with the two of them being friends but.......please do not put your hands on my husbands body and just do not touch him physically in any way. Tell her that this looks and is inappropriate to you and that it makes you feel uncomfortable with her. It really is to bad that your husband in a nice way couldn't have redirected her in someway....If I were you I would be the one sitting by my husband and being very loving around him whenever she is around. But yes you have every right to let this woman know that she needs to keep her hands to herself. |
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When that last happened to me I asked the girl [sarcastically] if she needed to borrow my husband for the night. She turned bright red and never touched him again. |
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Client 9-Valerie X
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I agree with the first answerer!!!
If she does it again, call her out on it. Tell her to keep her hands off your husband.
I can't think of any women that would like that, so you are NOT alone in your feelings about this.... |
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cowboys2840
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Go get Gangsta on her. |
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Jane
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You need to tell her to back off now or she and maybe even he will soon take advantage of it. I was once like you, but I wasn't married back then. When I look back, I can't believe how dumb I was to let another female to that to me in front of my man. The worse part was that the guy I was with eventually asked her out after we broke up. |
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celticbuddha
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if anything is said to the woman, it ought to be from your husband, himself. granted she might just be one of those touchy type of people who aren't in conscious of it. but there's no reason why you should be uncomfortable being with and/or around your husband. |
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KJ
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similar thing happened at my wife's step father's funeral, 3 weeks ago.
my wife's ex boyfriend was there, being nice, being touching, etc.. i can sense that my wife wasn't comfortable. i saw him go down for coffee, i followed him and i said "if i see you touch my wife one more time, i'm gonna snap your neck like a toothpick". he got the message and i never found him within 70 feet of my wife after that. try that next time. |
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jimmy.parker06
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I give your husband the benefit of doubt, just because it was his mother's wake. But now that he knows because you told him if he still spends time with her, it means he knowingly is disrespecting you, I would make a bigger deal of it. He should avoid her as much as he can. You know what if you see her getting to touchy feely, make a statement, you should go up to your husband, give him a big hug and a kiss and put your arms around him at all time. |
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patty k
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You are not wrong feeling the way you do. I know when someone is trying to move in on my guy I get real aggressive. By that I mean I hang on him,let the person know that he is clearly taken. I whisper sweet nothings into his ear,make sure that I have his full attention. Let that thing know he is yours. Just remember not to stoop to her level and handle yourself with class. |
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bestofyou
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your husband should care enough about your feelings and not hurting you.if he does he should tell the woman to keep away.it is his duty to deal with the woman and make her behave appropriately.you are not making too much of the situation,you are very correct and have every right to be concerned about such a situation.no woman in her right senses will tolerate that and no man with his right senses should allow that to happen.talk to your husband about it,if he fails to do something about it,mirrow himself and the situation to him, and let"s see if he enjoys it(or is laughing about it).if the situation continues, call it quits.it is immoral and belongs to unfaithfulness even if they have not gone to bed together. that is the road that leads to adultery. |
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yvie
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Don't ignore it. Talk to your husband what you feel about the situation. For me it needs your attention.That girl isn't even respecting your presence . Even if that girl is a family friend she should avoid inappropriate gestures in front of her friends wife, where is her morale. Your husband ?He should not tolerate such act.You already had bad experince with "husband's female friends"... so beware...Men are men. Devil is roaming around finding victims! |
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Leah M
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well thats when you politely grab her by the arm and sweetly let her know that if she doesnt back off and stop touching your man she will be going home in a body cast. |
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