How to handle hot neighbor?!!?
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How to handle hot neighbor?!!?
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I have this super hot married guy that moved in w/his family 2 doors down from me about 4 months ago.
we talk to each other everyday b/c our kids (he has 2 girls ages 3 and 6. I have 3 girls ages 10,7,and 6) play w/each other almost everyday after school.
as soon as he met me, he started asking me all sorts of questions (where my kids go to school, where I work, how old I am,etc). he then asked what type of things I like to do w/the kids and we should take the kids out together sometime (I'm assuming he meant our significant others would come along too-I have a live in bf i've been dating for 4.5 years). I told him it sounded like fun.
i've only talked to his wife twice and both times (including the first time she met me) she was cold,stand-offish and rude to me. she gets home from work about 2 hours after the kids do and immediately makes her kids/hubby come in the house. she won't let her kids inside my home to play either b/c we have a cat she claims to be allergic to (her husband says that his mom has cats though and they are over there all the time). he says he doesn't mind the girls playing in my house (he's even come in a few times w/them). he's very laid back while she seems very uptight and grumpy all the time.
lately, he's been stopping his car next to my house if he sees me outside just to chat or he'll stop and say hi if he passes me while I'm walking to the mailbox.
I was jogging the other day and he stopped me asking if I ever work out at the gym. I told him I'd like to but haven't really done that before so not sure that I would like it. he then suggested that I sign up at his gym and go w/him. I laughed and told him that his wife probably already hates me, I don't need to give her a reason to be more mad. he just shrugged it off saying she's always mad at something anyways and he'd like the company while working out. I just said maybe.
i've been trying to keep my distance somewhat b/c I don't want his wife getting mad but at the same time-he's hot,super nice and I like flirting with him not to mention I don't feel it's right to allow my kids to play in his garage, with his kids' toys w/out me watching them.
he'll always wave hello to me whenever he comes outside his house and i'm outside of mine BUT only if she's not home.
i've never given his wife a reason to hate me and I don't go out of my way to flirt w/her husband. he seems unhappy in his marriage but I refuse to get in the middle of it or even ask him info about it. I can tell she's overly jealous and controlling-he's not allowed to go anywhere very often w/out her or the kids.
if the situation was different and he wasn't married and we were both single-i'd date him in a heartbeat. there is a mutual attraction between us (I can tell b/c of the playful flirting) which is why I try my best to only be near his house if the kids are outside playing.
how can I handle remaining friends w/him without his wife getting all jealous and mean about it?
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to sillerious-obviously you have NO manners!! the only reason he's been inside my house is b/c his kids were in my daughter's room playing and he was trying to get them out!! after several mins of me telling them it was time to leave, he had to come inside to round them up!! i have never invited him the house for no reason. and you're comment about me thinking i'm too good and being flirty-you've got nerve lady!! i've only talked to him when he talks to me first.
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Jane D
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well my dear your both married. he doesnt' sound to happy in his . but that doesn't mean you can stray from yours. it takes two to tangle. if your husband is good to you and all is well. don't start the flames. your best bet is to stay away from him. you know in time it would lead to something else. he's obviously not happy and is trying in his round about way to see if your interested or can get you interested in time. i dont' think thats fair for your marraige if your happy.
and his wife is cold cause she's not dumb she probably suspects already and this isn't his first time I imagine he seems to go slowly and knows the moves. So be careful this could get messy. and unless you both want to have an affair i'd stay away you already know how you feel and what he does for you.
R u unhappy in your marriage as well? or is your hubby the cats meow and he treats you well? you know what will happen in the end right. have an affair and neither of you will leave your family and it can't go anywhere if your both okay with that and your spouses are blah towards you then you decide your both adults.
but this is a touchy subject as soon as you have a fight with your husband he won't have a chance against this other guy. are you really being fair to your marriage. so think long and hard .. think of the worst here and if you can handle the outcome and dont' care then do as you wish. but if you still love your husband and you have a good life i'd say walk away. its not worth it. |
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sillerious
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i must be flat out honest....i'd be a grumpy wife too if i had a scumbag of a husband who chases my neighbor and a low-self-esteem-thinking-she-is-so-much-... neighbor that flirts and invites my husband in as if she doesn't know that's not ok. |
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djadul
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You cannot be friends with this man. Read your story. Pretend your best friend was telling you this. It's crazy talk. Get your kids out of there and pay attention to your boyfriend. Ask your boyfriend to marry you or get out. Get a new boyfriend. Move on. But stay away from this one!!! |
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Schmuck
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A jealous wife will just get you killed. Stay away from this one. |
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Lindsey
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She has a right to be jealous and mean about it because by the way her husband is acting towards you, this might not be the first time he's trying to hook up with another woman; it may not be your fault, but it is surely her husband's fault, and you're just caught in the middle of it! Stay away from her and her family; otherwise, you're going to get yourself caught up in a whole, unwanted mess of drama if you don't. |
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smilewaitsyou
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I don't blame her, it sounds like you do a great deal of flirting with him, you need to keep your distance and stay in your place, seems like you use every opportunity to get close to him, which might give the the idea you are interested. Stay away and avoid future problems. |
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Craig c
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There are other people out there. Leave this one alone. |
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marina
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He probably has a history of cheating on her. You are next on his agenda and she knows it.
I would stay away from both of them. Move if you have to. |
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Ryan
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I wonder if he has cheated in the past.. what would make her act that way towards women he talks to.. There are two sides to everyone and he may not be as nice a guy as you think. |
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Dave C
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After reading that whole question out it doesn't seem like you can |
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Star
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YOU KNOW I AM SLOWLY GETTING SICK OF HEARING QUESTIONS LIKE THIS........AND FROM THE SAME PEOPLE. Go for the guy why the H*LL not. You deserve him WHY HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU TOO> and you'll deserve it being that your so willing to flirt with another woman's man. He is an *** and since that's what your attracted too then you meant for each other. HE WILL GET BORD OF YOU ALSO. You should tell his wife that he asked you to sign up at his gym that he is flirting with you. SO SHE CAN DIVORCE HIM and you can have the ***. Then His wife can be happy and YOU can have what you deserve. WHICH IS AN A** FOR A MAN WHO WILL FOREVER CHEAT ON WHO EVER HE IS WITH. ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER. They way the wife acts he has cheated on her, besides the way he asked you to sign up at his gym I guarantee you he has cheated on her and is trying to cheat with you.
ARE YOU THE HOMEWREAKER?????? BECAUSE KARMA'S A B*TCH!!!!!! You'll get yours.
WHY DON'T YOU JUST SAY TO HIM LISTEN STOP FLIRTING WITH ME YOUR MARRIED OR DID YOU FORGET THAT!!!!! Don't be surprised when the wife pays you back for flirting with her husband. |
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Ooo May Day!
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and now i understand why his wife is rude, she knows her husband is tooo friendly
if u want to earn her respect and friendship, cut off the chatting with her husband and start ask his wife abt kids activities, invite her over for coffee just you ladies, she'll be more comfortable and trust with you if u want to be smart and earn that good neighbor friendship. |
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imonetoremember
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I think I'd be grumpy all the time if my husband was always flirting with the neighbors too. You're putting yourself in the middle by being in this situation that you could just wisely avoid. He doesn't sound like a trust worthy type guy if he's asking you to hang out with him. I wouldn't involve myself with someone whos so flagrant about flirting with you when he can't even handle his own marriage issues. Married people are always off limits to be close friends with because there is always heartbreak whether it's you or his wife or both. Saying maybe just put in his head that you will probably say yes and there for you've involved yourself because he will now ask again. Had you stuck with your guns and said no and reiterated that you both are involved he may have backed off. Things are going to get real complicated at this rate. |
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WUWEI!!!
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what missing in the picture is your husband.
I didn't nowhere have you mentioned him in your story.
You should invite them over for dinner and meet your husband
if you have one supposedly..Problem solved.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lp0IWv8QZY |
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Shannon T
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Join that Gym, girl! |
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