How to tell your arranged marriage husband you love someone else?

ok so i am muslim and got an arranged marriage to make my parents happy...BIG MISTAKE i know now...i regret this every day of my life and i know how stupid i am. however for 2 months we were ok because i was in a different country and scared to tell anyone how i felt. i came to like him since i didnt want that time to go to waste. but since neing with him alone i know i can never be myself and be 100% happy. i love someone else who i hurt along the way by getting married but i felt like i had no choice so that's why i did it. i dont want to go through life losing the one i love. will my arranged husband ever understand? he's from a differenet country and i brought him here.

i know my aranged marriage husband loves me alot. but i just cant be with him. but i cant leave beacause no one in my family will talk to me again. i was thinking if he loved me so much then he should let me go. is it crazy to think we could lead seperate lives until i finished school in about 5 years and then he could go on his seperate way out in the open and give whatever reason to our families......i m desperate!!!!!!!

blueberry

couldn't you think of this 6 months ago? he's never going to let you go

E&L

Will he understand . . . no. That should have been a conversation you had with your parents BEFORE you married this man. Not only will your husband not understand, your parents will also wonder why they went thru the effort to arrange the marriage, and you went thru with it, but had no plans on 'actually staying married'. It will reflect badly upon them too.

It's not 'if he loved me so much he should let me go', but if you were a mature woman you should have made your feelings known. Don't you think the man who you loved thinks differently about YOU now?!? He really questions your love for him since you should have had the backbone to speak up to your parents about your choices in this matter, and not just let them happen.

DianeP

You have already answered your own question. You need to look at the situation objectively by taking a step back.
You have to make a decision, your family or this other man.
Your life is what YOU make it. You can't spemd your whole life living for other people and they aren't you.

elizabeth

shame on you why did you marry this innocent person just to decieve him and ur heart is like garbbage it can be thrown anywhere love bird no brian i wish ur husband leaves you bcoz keeping you with him is like he is wasting his time and you say ur muslim muslims r never like this.do one think go and tell him ur problem as story like u can be daha he can be reda and ur lover can be sasa so tell him this story that is hidden in ur heart and ask him does the girl should go to her lover or stay with her husband if he says no then get ready to bring the truth and if yes again tell him truth but first hear the conclusion from his mouth.think before u leap bcoz u never know if ur lover have started his new world in that case dont leave ur husband.

Jay

the love of my life has just done exactly the same thing to me.he left and married some1 else instead of me because his family never approved of me. he deserves to live with his decision(not 2mention he'd been married and divorced prior to our love by his family's choice too) and so do you.ur husband wont leave u and dont be silly and tell him, he will probably stop loving you, tell every1 what u tell him including both ur families.not 2mention that ur previous man wont still want u.u left him to endure his pain, suffering and humiliation on his own, he would have moved on.he wont want u after u left him to marry some1 else despite whatever reason u may have.every1 must live with the consequences of their actions.

if ur husband is good to u, endure it, try loving him and move on.

u shut the door.

dont expect ur ex lover to be ther standing there with his arms wide open for u just by opening it again.

it isnt that simple.take back his pain and then maybe he would possibly consider taking u back.and dont believe it if he ever says he will take u back if u leave ur husband.its a lie.he;d just humiliate u like u did him and even worst.

be smart and stick with what u have if u have a good thing going for you.

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