How would I tell my friend that she is cheating?

fishba81

What makes it tough is the emotional ties you have with friend, knowing your friend is doing wrong in one way, yet knowing she's attempting to re-cover and find semblance of sanity in life of love, so it's tough. For both of you. You care. She wants to care. Different levels of seeing things.
If thinking you still know who your friend is--and she trusts you; which you'll have to gently find out by re-calling ol'times between you--as one given example--then listen to why she's doing it..You may cry as much as she will.
About the guy she's seeing, is he cheating on her---sounds likely--and how you know this means you're up pretty close to both of them, yes?
So you're deeply involved and want rectifying this mess before it buries all of you. You have a conscience.
Sometimes, as you know, friends have to go separate ways for a while, some friendships need much space/time/further experience to see what counts and what doesn't..You may need doing this unless you need your friend's emotional (and otherwise) support. And some friendship's never can return 'the way it was,' or not at all which may be a good thing, okay?
You've much deciding pending in your life, only wanting to make things better--at least for your friend and friendship between you, yes?
Tell her with caring love you have for her as a friend---showing that concern in a setting of both of you with time and away from pulic ears, perhaps a day's drive, a park setting, something where familiar ears aren't imposed by what you communicate.
Be her sister, because it seems you value your friendship, you seem having firm moral standards and a heart that can only hold so much before it begin screaming at you.
m.

Thomas

There are some things which we should never get involved with in our friendships without them specifically asking our views.

Their marriage
Their business
Their religion

To step into any of these areas without an invitation is to tread where angels fear to go.

Melissa S

I don't understand, which is the one who is cheating? Why would you have to let someone know they are cheating? Wouldn't they already be aware of that? I'm confused.

albrightlesa

M.Y.O.B. But be there if your friend needs you.

run_becky

I agree with Thomas.

Something Monstrous

You need to stay out of it. It is not your job to be your friend's conscience. She's a big girl, and she'll figure things out on her own. If you get involved, she may not appreciate your intervention in her life and may wind up resenting you in the end.

You have good intentions, but remember: the road to hell is paved with good intentions.

-Kat-

ya she is cheating.....

Du Ma

Signs are 99.9% that he is cheating. Ask her a very simple question: remember the Golden Rule: treat people the way you want to be treated. Why would you want to cheat on someone but you don't want to be cheated on?

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