How would you feel if you shared a very hurtful childhood with your husband?

If you shared a very hurtful childhood with your husband, things you want to open up about just to feel better, and later had a big fight about other things, and he tells you that you need medicine because your physco and tells you your the one that said you might need meds because you have issues. I mean he is my husband and I opened up to him about my devasting life, then had nerve to tell me - after a fight that I do need help and meds. I feel so betrayed. Im suppose to be able to tell him anything.I feel awful. Has this ever happend to any of y'all. After the fight I even told him how dare him throw that in my face and he started making excuses. Blaming everything on me. And how do you handle a spouse that never ever owns up to being wrong. No matter what... Im always wrong.

Magic 8 Ball (Call me BILF)

First of all, by telling him about your terrible childhood and how you think you need to be on meds because of it, you were asking for his opinion or using him as a sounding board to get some help. You opened yourself up to his opinion.

I was really shi tty of him to bring it up during a fight.

Go see a shrink and see about getting counseling or put on meds. He was probably telling the truth even if he did it in a crappy way.

rachel2009

Husbands want to fix things- they do not understand venting. My guess is he was overwhelmed and wants to fix it for you all at once, which isn't possible. He is trying to help you but he is coming from a male perspective.
This is a funny 8 minute (ish) clip that may help :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0BxckAMaTDc

As for the part where you started blaming each other, that is simply the product of frustration at his inability to do for you what you want. Men will blame you because they do not feel like you are telling them what they need to do or to know about you.

The clip is really funny. I hope this helps.

Bibi

ignore him

if you know your not psycho oh well let him think and say what he wants

when my husband tries to tell me that im wrong on something and I know for a fact im right I just agree with him and tell him sure honey the sky is green

like I said before it takes two to continue an argument

Creole Beauty

I just got out of a situation like you. My (very soon to be) exhusband thought that he was always right & would throw things back at me that I told him when opening up when we were arguing. I felt hurt and betrayed like I couldn't tell him anything because he would just use it against me. Not all men are like that, but I guess these two are a few of the many. You could try to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel and tell him that it makes you feel and hopefully you'll get better results than I did. Try to keep good communication or the marriage will fail....trust me I know from experience. Good Luck!

Kimmy

once you find the answer let me know!

good luck

Luna F

My Boyfriend is the same....I`m always wrong,
I don`t know what to tell u

olaolaeh

the same exact thing happend to me with my ex. he turnd out to be abusive.

Are you bringing a lot of your baggage into the marriage with you? My mom did this for years with her bad childhood and finally dealt with it. It really hurt my dad. I suggest you talk to someone and try to work through your issues and keep it separate from your marriage... your hubby probably is saying something that has a grain of truth in it-though he went about it in a hurtful say (probably because he's hurt, too).
Ignore his meds comment. You don't need meds, they only numb you and hinder you from tackling the real issues.

I had a best friend with terrible childhood, and her problems seeped into every area of her life, ruining them. She refuses to seek help, and she even lost me as a close person in her life. If she had only sought help from someone to sort through those things that haunted her, I think her life would be much easier and relationships a lot healthier.

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