How would you handle this situation?

On Sunday my mother confessed that my ex-husband (we divorced 10 years ago) came to her crying that he needed $3,000. This was in November. My mother, stupidly, gave him the money because he was crying and said someone was out to get him, etc. In other words, she fell for his act. He swore he would repay her and has yet to give her a dime. He also made her promise not to tell me. She ended up telling me this past weekend after I told her how he cries poor all the time.

I called him today to tell him that it was wrong of him to take advantage of my mother and he kept saying it was none of my damn business and to stay out of it.

Would you have been pissed? Would you have called him to tell him he'd better pay your mother back? What would you do? I am just so livid over this situation. My mother does not have the money to just be handing over to him and he knows that she is gullible. He's totally taking advantage of her. Not to mention, he didn't go to anyone in his family to ask them for money. Probably because he knows they wouldn't be stupid enough to give it to them. I'm also kind of mad at my mom for not telling me about this until now. I feel a little betrayed (we ended on very bad terms...he cheated, hit me, etc.) and I can't believe she would give someone like that money.

Happy-2

I think you should shut up and let your mother learn her $3,000 lesson. It's expensive but if it teaches her never to do it again, it's money well invested.

Kelli

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Say it Like it Is :)

You have every right to be pissed. You need to tell your mother to stay away from him. Did he father any of your children, maybe that's why she felt a need to help him. Actually if I were you I would be livid, I would track him down.

My husband's former wife did this behind his back, too. He was angry and humiliated when he found out. His parents were well-meaning, and all too many times, good people fall victim to preying people.

Tough lesson to learn, but it's best not to aggravate the situation by calling the ex. What's done is done, and there is nothing to be gained by letting the ex know (again) that you are aware of his scamming ways.

Sympathize with your parents, but you all would be better off putting it behind you.

Christopher W

Hire a ninja to throw shurikens in his privates. If you can locate a ninja..........

flsr1229

Livid is a good word - he's playing her like a fiddle, and ur the violin. You and mom need to talk more often apparently. Too bad she gave him the dough, cuz she'll never see it again. His reply to you was proof right there that he has no intention of paying her back. Sorry he's doing this to you, but it sounds like y'all need to cut your ties completely. 100%.

Queen of Beer

I'd be livid too and probably would have given them both grief about it. I'd make his life a living hell til he paid my mom back.

Danielle

No your completely right about being upset and it is your business. He is obviously an azzhole and that is why he got so defensive about the situation. Did your Mom make him sign anything promising to repay her? If so then you could sue him for the money. If there is no proof that she gave him the money then she might be sh*t out of luck. I would be a little upset with Mom but you can't really fault her for having a good heart. Keep in mind what goes around comes around. For your Mom for being so generous and for him for being a greedy SOB. If he won't give you any response then have your Mom call him and see what he says when she confronts him.

Honey

To be honest, I would be more upset with my mother than I would my ex, if I was in that situation. I would be upset that she gave him money knowing that he was no longer family because of actions he took against me. I would feel betrayed and it wouldn't matter what her reasons were.

My mother would never give money that she didn't have. I wasn't raised that way either. If fact, if my mother was so gullible that she could get conned like that, and she couldn't live with me, I would have to put her in a retirement home because it's unfair to leave her by herself when she can't take care of herself.

I'd be upset with my ex but if my mother didn't give him money, I'd have no reason to be upset with him. So, it still boils down to my mother. People are going to try and con. That's just how it is. How far they get, depends on whomever they're dealing with and if that person or people are wise to the game, it won't matter what that con is trying to sell because they won't get anywhere except by force. I wouldn't have gone to him and asked for the money back. It wouldn't be his fault that my mother is gullible because if my mother had said no, none of this would be a problem.

Dawn

I would be upset too. He probably will never pay her back. Did she get anything in writing that she gave him the money and that he would pay her back? If she did he will have to pay her back , if not she probably will never see her money If she can't resist saying no to him the first time he will probably ask her again when he needs money . Hopefully she can say no. Why don't you ask an attorney what you can do to stop him from bothering your mother for money.

Bill P

It really isn't any of your business since u r divorced. Maybe you should take over your mother's finances? If not, mind your own business. She could take him to small claims court, but then again, can she handle that?

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