How would you have reacted?

Brutally Honest

I would nicely tell the friend that while you appreciate their concern for your emotional well-being, you'd like to let this person decide for themselves whether or not they're ready to settle down.

The bottom line is that if YOU are happy and the guy is happy, then it shouldn't matter a whit what other people think or say. I'd have assumed that by your age you'd have figured this out!

luscious

Your 29 yr old aquaintance should mind his own damn business.

amentofreedom

i would tell them, that you are having a hard time picking out the wedding invitations, lol

Tracy H

Why would you even take into consideration what the 29 year old acquaintance thinks? They're not the one who knows how wonderful he is, nor do they have any idea what it is like to be widowed with 3 children. Go for it, everyone in life deserves to be happy.

LeeH

Some people just have to express their opinion. Don't take it too seriously. I would never say something like that to an acquaintance. A good friend, yes.
If you are comfortable with his maturity and your age difference, that's all that matters. I know some 27 year old's that are very mature and others who are in their 30's who are irresponsible children.
Good luck with your upcoming marriage!

â™« Mad Luv â™«

i would thank them and move on!
yeah for the most part i would ignore it!

this aquaintance is he/she a conculer? or a relationship guider (whatever it's called)
if not then they are not qualified to make statements about relationships.

age is a number! and it's your life not this aquaintance your the one who has to live with your partner not them!

Honey

I would've asked, "how long did you and he date?" If my friend had said anything other than, "I have never dated him so I'm sorry for judging him on something that I have no clue about," I would've told her off. I don't entertain conversations like that because unless they were in a position to judge that person from a first-hand perspective, they're just talking out the side of their neck based on what they may have seen someone do to or with them.

However, if I were you, I would definately consider whether or not this guy is ready to handle a family. It has nothing to do with maturity because I know 45yr old men that don't want to step into a new family. My first husband passed away when I was 27 and I'm now 32. I just got remarried and we just had a baby. The best advice my mother gave me (she was also a widow by 27 but she had 3 children and I only had 1) was to ensure that I was emotionally together so that I didn't emotionally depend on whomever I ended up dating/marrying, if at all. I was still dealing with my first husband's death when I met my current husband and I wasn't emotionally intact. I happened to be blessed with a good man who didn't take advantage but there are some guys out there who would. Even if your man wouldn't, if you aren't emotionally stable, you'll leave yourself open to the possibility and you don't want that.

So, I think you should tell your friend to put a sock in it. But, she's not exactly talking nonsense. She just doesn't know if it can be said about your man. Only you can determine that. Just watch yourself and be careful.

folklaw62

That's only 8 year diffrence. I wouldn't take any notice of him/her

Tilley

Thats cause he is secretly in love with you...,

lwomar

I would have told them to mind their own business. Just because they (acquaintance) may not be ready doesn't mean your fiance is not.

jay

Nothing. If you don`t believe that and that`s not the case, then shove it off. That person doesn`t know him or the situation. People love talking and especially to criticize. Next time just be like...oh so you know him really well to know he`s so imature?

Paula

People will always have their opinions, it is so easy to cast judgment on others. You and your fiance are the ONLY ones who can really know what is right and good for you and your children....

I would have reacted calmly, hear what they have to say, but I would choose not to listen or let their careless opinions affect my life. Age really doesn't matter. What does matter is what works for you two, nothing more nothing less. I speak from experience when I say that not many men are willing to love your children and truly be good to them. Sure a lot of men say they will accept another man's children like his own, but the proof is in the pudding and it doesn't happen all that often. So, if he is good to your children as well as to you, let him be, this is hard to find. I wish you all the best. Have a happy life together.

smithlette

It is absolutely no body's else's business! Tell them you'll thank them to keep their opinions to themselves.

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