How would you take this?

ShortieStock

Uhm...wow. First of all, if that was ME I would question my taste in men and file a divorce. A good relationship does not have secrets from one another, you have to have trust in each other. Clearly you don't trust him. If I were you, I would hop in your car and drive along the highway. :-)
Btw look at this question you posted... (Yourself)
Did we rush our marriage?
My husband and I lived in seperate states when we met. I spent the whole month of January flying to see him. I thought I knew him but quickly found out, that I did not. With only two months under our belt, he proposed. Then in the third month we got married. It seems like as soon as the I Do's were said that he figured he would never lose me. He has had a very uncaring attitude with me. My grandfather just died and he is starting a fight with me a day before the funeral. Also, he asked if I wanted to go to a theme park the DAY of the funeral. We tried to talk, but whenever it's his turn to speak his mind..everything that has gone wrong in our relationship is my fault. We are having a huge wedding in three months. I don't know whether to just say screw it, or try and work things out. It's just that I feel like he is not the same person I met a 6 months ago.
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Doesnt that sound a little WRONG to you???? The relationship was bad from the start! I would reccomend taking a break. Ask yourself if you really and truly love him. If you do decide to stay with him, I would consider marriage counseling and confronting him. But trust me, if you stay you are digging a deeper hole and eventually you won't be able to get out.

Here is a list of his faults:
He is doing *** behind your back
He is keeping secrets
He showed no support to your Grandfathers death
He invited you to a THEME PARK on the day of his funeral
He is a control freak
He jumped on your marriage
He threatens a lot

And there are probablly more cons but I want you to write a list of pros and cons and see if it is worth it to stay with him.
You want a man who is kind, supports you, doesnt lie or keep secrets, is geniune and caring, loves you for you, thinks your beautiful, and has a balance between what you want to do and what he wants to do. Does this sound like your relationship? For more advice on marriage help check out these websites:

http://www.stopyourdivorce.com/?gad=CNuw2s4CEgjSFhkOtKQuDhiU4MH_AyCn3N0c&gkw=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.stopyourdivorce.com%2Fgoto.htm

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http://www.retrouvaille.org/

http://marriage.eharmony.com/

Best of luck!
Love, Shortie

dingobluefoot

If I were you, I'd already be out on the highway with my thumb out.....

Scooby Doo

it sounds like he is a control freak. Take the highway.

Anastasia K

Get a divorce or leave him. He doesn't deserve you.

â˜…G Atkins â˜†

id be gone already sorry... maybe contimplate that one

pussnboots333

Well, that depends. Are you willing to put up with this and have no self respect or can you get out now and save yourself!!

Who are you?

say you would rather take the highway!
men... geeze. lol.

snacky snack

I can't stand it when men are like this! He is being stubborn and pig headed, if you actually did leave him he'd probably appoligize and come crying for you to take him back.

ageorgiahotboy2005

ITS OVER

additude

Tell him to take the highway then.

Dont let him bully you.

Jill

Life is a highway! you don't need the disrespect
If he isn't nice to you and treat you good get on that highway
trade up to a newer better model

equnn w

first of all if i were ur husband i would have never said that or acted like that
and if i were ur husband i would have acted as ur tailor maid

oh and btw i would take the highway

kreaven_fallen

Well I dont know the **** that he has been doing. But a marriage is a compromise. Its never my way or the high way. One way or another he is going to have to realize that. How you go about doing that is up to you. Anything from a civilized talk to you leaving him.

ManBeast

Leave his teenaged acting butt and find a real man who values his woman equally.

Ga girl

I would say see you later he and tell him the highway is looking good right now.

Mike C

Leave him! As long as he thinks of himself first, he is still single in his mind and will do whatever he feels like. Now if he really was in the marriage you would be equal partners. I don't know what the argument is about but the solution is for each of you to compromise, you shouldn't feel like you got a raw deal.

KbabyxOx

Ok he was doing stuff behind your back?!? That would have me fuming!!!
You shouldn't have to kiss his hairy a.s.s!!!
You explain that what he did was wrong and that and explain to him you aint going taking it if he says thats it its it!!
But if I was you Id be long gone!!!!

grammie

If there aren't any kids involved tell him to kiss off, I'm not saying if there are kids to stay, but if you have children and you leave the house with the kids you could loose the house and anything else you might have. You know what he is, do you want to be married to that? if not leave or tell him to.

RIP mommy 8/16/08

he needs a drug test

sadwife

My husband basically says the same thing. Everything is his way and if I get upset and short tempered he makes e apologize to him and the children. It is so belittling and I personally can not take it anymore. I want someone that wants to make me happy not just has me make them happy. He does nto allow me to be myself, that is why I have decided to leave. You can always try counseling if he is willing. We tried but my husband did not admit to anything he says everything is my fault and I think he honestly believes that. Be a strong woman and tell him you wont take that. And if he is serious about your marriage he will be willing to compromise.

opiongirl23

Sounds like you are both having some power struggle. I suggest you be the one to man up, since he doesn't want to, and talk to him in a calm way about how he is acting and how its making you feel. Try to be sweet about things. No name calling, cursing, threaths, none of that stuff is necessary. Just sit down together....and talk about what kind of stuff you would like him to do and listen to what he has to say about it. Good luck. Sorry but I don't know the full extent of what he did, therefore I am not sure how to fully offer good advice on this one

CoCkRoAcH

it sounds like he obvisilly doesnt respect you at all...i would get divorced..no man is worth being miserable over.

thinKdffrN

stand up for yourself now or else this will continue.
take a breather from this to get a calm and clear thought process.
give him time to cool down
then have a mature and focused serious conversation
but make sure you get your point accross that it is a joint unity and it should be mutual with give and take.
depending on the context of course.
good luck

Trying to figure things out!

I would tell him not let the door hit him in the *** on the way out. He would hit the road, not me.

jitterbug

He's putting his foot down. Now its time for you to stomp on it. He will cry in pain for you. I know its an analogy, but believe me it works!!!!

Arash

you should show him ur own highway. if he loves you, he respects you and he does anything to make you happy. if he doesn't love you, then it's ur decision on what to do next...

fluttergirl2004

next time he looks at you hold up your thumb and show some leg

Michelle B

It depends on the situation. Is this his typical attitude and response to things or just this particular matter. If this is his first time behaving this way, well maybe he has a point. Try to figure out what is so importnat to him in this matter that he is sticking his ground. If it is his typical behavior then you have an issue, because marriage will be very difficult without equal compromise. You will be one very unhappy wife if things always have to go his way. You may want to share that with him. Husbands arent happy if there wifes arent happy, ya dig.

kinkz36

say the high way and leave. if he doesn't come after you, he's not worth your time honey.
or just stay at home and just act like you don't carea bout anything that happened. just go on throughout your day w/ your normal routine. he'll catch on and hopefully change.

Jimmy B

go gold digging. that will show him when he see's you sporting a brand new BMW

alias0110

It depends if you think that he's still the man you want to spend your life with then go to counseling.
If you are not willing to put up with that and think you deserve better then hire the best divorce attorney you can find.
Personally it's not something that I could forgive especially since he seems unapologetic so I would opt for the second option.

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