How would your treat your friend if you found out she made out with your hubby?

If you have a common married couple as friends with you and your hubby, and several other married couples as that is normal after marriage to hangout with people in the same boat. Anyway you find out this one woman who is also married, she made out with your husband 7 months ago. I confront my husband about it, he says he kissed/made out with her on her couch one evening for a few minutes, then they hugged, and he walked out and again when they saw each other at a group party, he told her he cannot see her cause he is married. I asked him if he likes her, my hub admits to it but he says he loves me. I have not talked to the woman, but assuming they really are done, and I have to be face to face with her again at another party, do I talk to her, not talk to her? If my hub really does not talk to her and proves to me he is committed to me again, is that good enough?
I mean would you be able to be friends with a woman who cheated on you with your spouse, especially when you know it was one kiss and that it's over. Has anyone here been in this situation and were you able to be friends with that other person? Did your spouse seem to not care about that person anymore either, or did they continue wanting to be friends with so and so?

34B

If there is any anger it should with your hubby, not the woman. He is the one that made the commitment. You could have fun with the situation and make her feel really uncomfortable. Or ask tell her that she has to make out with you too to even things up. That should stiffen her up. There is no need to be angry at her though.

Mrs. Heather Schabby

What friend? We would no longer be friends. I would be civil with her in the necessary environment if we were forced to be around one another, but I would not be social with her. I'd have pretty big issues with my husband, too.

morbidlybeautiful

she wouldn't be my friend anymore.

Satanic Brainsmasher

A shotgun and shovel.

Mera

I'd wanna hear her answers to my questions,"What the h*ll were you thinking, B*tch, making out with my husband? You got a deathwish or what?" Depending on her answers and the fact that it went no further and she's not continually hitting on him (or vice versa), we could stay friends. Otherwise, adios amiga. Husband - same song, 2nd verse.

Amanda

She wouldn't be my friend anymore.

goddess

She's not your friend, She is a homewrecker Get it......

lwomar

I would not be friends with her anymore, and I would get rid of him.

cjmessy

she would not be my friend anymore. he may not be my husband anymore either.

unsung hero

Jese...thats rough. She wouldn't be my friend anymore, and if she EVER tried talking to my husband again at anywhere in my presence I would rip her apart with words and publicly humiliate her. If she got pissy then I'd just beat the crap out of her.

If your husband wants to still be friends with this woman, you better believe it'll happen again, what a two timing creep.

sarah

My friends wouldn't touch my husband. If they did both my husband and the friend would be out the door.

Katrina

Friend?? She's no friend of yours. Don't confront her about it. Be a better person than her. She knew what she was doing and who she was doing it with. It wasn't a surprise. If you have to see her socially, just keep space between you and her. You don't need people that you socialize with see you acting crazy. You can be cordial and gracious without being her friend.
As for your husband...seek marriage counseling. I don't think you'll be able to trust him until you guys get this resolved.

Doc Phil

you have a strange description of friend

Quasimodo

Yeah well lemme tell you something Allison......if I had a friend like Sarah I wouldn't need enemies. And shame on you for not grabbing your so called husband by the balls and ripping them off and jamming them down his throat.

What's the matter with you anyway?

lorbell

I think I would confront her and tell her how I was feeling. And I would really try to not hang out with her again, even if it meant missing some parties or get-togethers.

TRIXIE

with friends like that who needs enemy's.

â™¥SEVENâ™¥

Double murder

LeeH

No, both of you need to cut all contact with her off or you are asking for more trouble. They are obviously attracted to each other.
Can you say "time bomb"?

benjamin m

I have been in this situation about 2 years ago and my hubby was caught red-handed with one of my (so-called) best friends. They had a history many many years before he and I got together. It was awful. I didn't find out for about 3 months after it happened and at that point I had found out that we were expecting. I wasn't going to leave him over a kiss, but it hurt so bad! I completely understand where you are coming from.

My situation my have been a bit different seeing as she and I were VERY close. She found out that I knew and tried to call me non-stop for a few months. I wouldn't answer her calls and he was not allowed to be around her without me EVER! Since then though she and I have talked and I'm basically over it. Our friendship will never be the same but I can stand to be in the same room with her now. All of our friends know what happened and they have stood up for me on this and things are pretty much back to normal. I don't have any trust issues with him anymore either, however he never said he liked her to me, he (and I) just chalked it up to a very drunken mistake.

Blue T

Keep your husband. Ice the b*tch. Do not go anywhere near her and get your husband out of there.

Anny

wat friend? i wouldn't be caught dead around this woman wat he and she did was disrespectful to u. if he really loved u he wouldn't have done that then u had to confront him think about it he wasn't even honest to tell u this happened. i would get rid of him

melouofs

I wouldn't be in her company ever again, and I would be very hurt by my husband. I don't know what hell he'd have to face.

willn2pleaze

tough one here. sounds like some swinging going on. that is your call, but keep in mind that you husband is not free of guilt as well.

krungkrung8

im gona talk to her for the last time and tell her how great she is as a friend to make out with my husband. and leave and wont even talk to her anymore after that.

Alan S

I think you should be a lot more upset with your husband than the other woman, since your husband is supposed to be faithful to you. The other woman couldn't have done anything wrong if your husband wasn't a willing participant.

I would not have anything to do with this woman, and it doesn't matter even if you are certain that it won't happen again. You and your husband should not socialize with this woman, period. If you are going to a party and she happens to be there, you should just ignore her and not talk to her, and your husband should do the same thing.

Clementine

I am not sure if I could be friends even with my husband if he made out with another woman. Couldn't care less for the woman. She has obviously no respect for you. Just ignore her. If she comes to talk to you, you can forgive her, but you don't owe her a thing. Go to the party, and have a good time, don't be rude or anything, keep your grace, just ignore her, and let her feel like sh...

Aire Lights

If she was a good friend, she wouldn't have done that. Talk it over, see how she feels about it. Be forgiving if she's truly sorry about it; don't label her as a friend if you know she'd do it again. He's your husband, not her's.

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