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Happy Murcia
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I think i would have a serious talk to him, cheating is unacceptable always. You need to find out why he feels the need to contact this woman or any for that matter. Maybe a nice dinner, bottle of wine etc without the kids so you can have a good heart to heart..
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mewonder
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I am so sorry. My husband has cheated on me for years. Not just women either. I'm disgusted. We are going through a divorce now, but I shutter at the thought; and I have many gay friends but, this is insane. We have children. Listen, you are NOT alone. So many of us are going through something like this and you got to realize you have value and you're a great person and you deserve better. Don't allow your husband's insecurities overshadow the beautiful person you are! I'm sorry for all of this, I could use a hug too, but here's one anyway:
:: HUG :: |
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Aslan
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you could contact the lady too and point out that your husband has a mental illness and her life would be easier without someone who is such high maintenance
then have it out with him and find out why he finds that kinda behaviour necessary |
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switchmistress
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there is always help......if you really want to get out, make a plan and stick with it..........have you confronted him on it and are you sure he has cheated? |
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wantsshy
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I know it sounds like a simple answer, but it sounds like it is time to leave - or kick him out. From what I am reading I am to understand that 1. Your husband has already cheated and 2. He has joined a dating website. Clearly he is not a participant in your marriage. I am sorry. He is a pig, no doubt about it. Best of luck to you. It will be a long grieving and healing process but you can do it |
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Angelx
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awwwwwwwwww so sorry to here that,id be very upset if it was my hubby too,confront him about it,ask him why he feels the need to go looking for other women when he has u.i wouldn't be able to trust him again,have u not got a friend u can get some advice from??i wish u the best of luck Hun,hope things work out for you...xx |
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notagain49
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That dating site sounds like one for single parents so he must plan on being single soon.To protect you and your child you need to find another place to live and get a divorce.Sorry.Good luck. |
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Amy H
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Do what my mum did get the house and the mortgage endowments in the divorce settlement then sell the house and buy a smaller one then you'll end up with loads of money that you can enjoy yourself with and make a point of showing him how much fun your having without him. my dad is so jealous of the fact that my mum's been doing this. |
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♥Ģŕāħăm´ŝ ĢîŕĻ♥
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You have plenty of places to go.... divorce court, for starters. |
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Sadie
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Right...it's time to be the strongest person you can be. Confront him, tell him that his behaviour is unacceptable and that you will not be treated like this in a relationship. It's up to you whether you give him another chance, but if you do, get out of the relationship at the first sign that he's playing away. again. You deserve much better than this. |
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winter gerzy
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Hey there topshopcitybeachbabe I've just broken up with my partner and she keeps our 10 month old daughter from me, so i know just how heartbroken and lost you feel right now cos so do i. What do i do? Nothing really works but keeping busy like always have something to do cos if u like me my mind works overtime when im idle, I've joined the gym&swim a lot 2-3 times a week, you have to find something to change the routine you were used to with him or you will get even more depressed, they say it's better to have loved than not but at times like this it doesn't feel like it for sure, but you must involve yourself in different things, i don't know how active you are but there's loads of stuff you can do just to be in a different circle of ppl helps, think about joining a class of something that interests you, college or short courses. My heart really goes out to you but your not alone im sure that you will overcome this. Good Luck sweetheart xxx |
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ursobustedmr
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Well, if you have no place to go, the first thing I would do, it let him know that he has been busted. I would attempt to stop him and see where things go. In the mean time, I would try to start lining a place for myself and save some money. Open a savings account for yourself and begin putting $25 or $50 every pay period into my account. Ask the bank to send you electronic statements so that he doesn't find your statements in the mail. If things don't improve, at least you'll have a little money when you leave. |
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Stacey-Marie J
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Is there a family member/friend you can go to until you find some numbers of people who can help you with a place to stay?
If you are in Britain/England there are places to say such as Signposts - they might be called something else though.
Could the Salvation Army help - they will at least have numbers of those who can help - likewise with your local council.
Better still can you kick him out?
Could you talk to your husband and find out where the both have you have gone wrong? Is he likely to be able to resolve it with you? Could you go to therapy/counselling together and works things through?
I hope the situation gets better for you. |
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lindsay o
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my hubby cheated before we got married but we got through it by spending more time together .it hard to trust them.(sorry men before i write this but there is not many men out there
who dont cheat.)
a couple of weeks ago i found out he joined a dating site and cause i know him well i guessed his password and added to his profile without telling him then told him to sleep down stairs and when he gets a place to move out. he not been on comp since but he still going. |
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diamonds
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if my hubby did that - our marriage would be over...i could never trust him again! however..only you can decided if thats the way you will go too ...good luck & keep your chin up! |
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carriegreen13
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Honey, I am so sorry, I really am.
Why don't you just go to a woman's shelter, look in the phone book and they are there, we have one where I live and they are wonderful, just take what you need and they will take you in, they will help you get your feet back underneath you, and help you start a new life.
Do not give up hope, stay strong, and remember where you came from, you are strong, you are beautiful, and you can do this!!!!!
Just look in the phone book and go to a shelter!!!!! they are there!!!!
I am so sorry this happened to you!!!
But later on, you will look at this as a good thing, you will be much better off and you will be living the kind of life you want, and you will be happy!!!!!
You can do this girlfriend!!!!
I am reaching out my hand, take it, and together, we will be strong!!!! Go to a shelter today!!! Make that first step!!!!! |
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Lynsey W
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Hi sorry to hear this, do you know if he met her, or is he just talked to her over the web? You say you have children, so it is so much harder than being single and on your own, so if this was me and it was my husband, i would sit him down and talk to him about it, and tell him how i was feeling, and if he didn't listen i would trow him out on his ear, but if he didn't met her, it could be that he feeling trapped or lonely, so talk to him and see how it goes from there you have kids to think about! Well good luck |
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reese1
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Hello, Just wanted to give a little advice. I am a 34yr. old woman married for 6 yrs. what I would suggest you do is confront your husband that you are aware of his cheating. First, you need to find out if this is an only online relationship, you need to find out if he has been intimate with her. If so, get all of your facts together before confronting him. Evaluate your marriage, is it worth saving, can you forgive him and move on. It'll be alittle harder if you have children because they will be affected with your decision. I believe that if the marriage can be restored and you really love your husband, it'll work out. If not, if your husband continues to cheats and lies and it seems that he really does'nt care about your feelings, you need to be strong and end this relationship and focus on you. Believe me, worrying where he's at and who he's with can drive you crazy and you'll lose focus on you. Maybe first, before ending the marriage, separate for a while. Like that he can see how it'll feel to lose you.
Hope everything works out.
P.S. Remember its not the other woman's fault, its him. (But if you catch him with her, it does not hurt to slap her after beating him down) |
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sonny
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u dont av to go anywhere kick him out, |
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mamag
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When my husband and I got together I made it very clear that if he ever stepped out on me that,that ment he was ok with an open marriage. As far as I know he has never and didn't like the sound of it. (Get my drift)? |
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Angel x x x
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you do need to sit him down, and get this sorted does he know you know if not tell him, if he does ask him, where he wants it go. i know this must be heart breaking, you will get over this it will take time, and if you do get it sorted will you trust him any way, i dont think so, he has broken the most important vow where can it go but no where it doesn't say if you have kids or how long you have been together be strong and i hope all goes well keep your chin up tomorrow is another day good luck |
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I would confront him and demand he tells you exactly what has been going on. You might want to wait a while until you tell him this so you have a plan of action and have saved up some money to rent somewhere. Don't despair - you are a strong, independant woman. You can now take hold of your life and start afresh. You can get a new guy who will treat you with the respect you deserve. So, get your plan and save up money or you could contront him straight away and then sell the house dividing the money between you and get a divorce as soon as. Good luck, I'll be praying for you :) |
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999pheebs
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Pack your pags that is betrayl at its best.
Don't stay for it, you'll be much better off without :)
Goodluck and take care xxx |
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clio
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I know this wasn't the question asked, but I think Rowlfie illustrates exactly why it is that fewer and fewer women these days want to get married, or stay married. Women can provide their own security, so what is the point of marriage? God knows, I'm happier out of it. And single women live longest. |
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Whitney
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Has he actually physically cheated? If not dont let it bother you, I a married woman have chatted online with someone, not to cheat, but just because I was bored out of my mind. I would just ask him, maybe its something silly like that, I know its not right, but it better than actually cheating. |
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oh_jo123
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have you tried talking to him first and tell him how you feel about it if he is willing to give it up then maybe some cxounseling will help |
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tadm
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Not much info. Well whats wrong in your marriage? Why are you two not spending time together? Why are you two not talking two each other? It takes two. You both are at fault for what is going. So do not be made at him. What is going on in the bed room? I hope you two work this out. |
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jude
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he has joined some dating website, so u know whats in his heart. just go to him, ask him if this is really what he wants, but ask only once, and if it is i would certainly consider filing for divorce. it is better to live alone than live with someone who has no respect for u, who makes u unhappy. why not make him leave the home? |
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AUNTY EM
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I am so sorry to hear this - you must be devastated. I don't understand why you have to leave though. He is the one cheating on you. If you have the nerve, wait until he goes off to work and have the locks changed. Leave his bags outside and tell him to get going. Failing that, pour water down the side of his computer and pull the plug on his online cheating. He is determined to have an affair by the sounds of it so I think you can safely say that today, you are separated. Get a good divorce lawyer - get angry and get even. Good luck. |
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lazycat
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I would confront him and leave. What do you mean you don't know what to do? Do you want to stay married to a cheater? I don't mean to be mean but apparently he isn't that interested in you if he's pursuing someone else. I would cut the ties and seperate and divorce. You don't need him. And apparently he doens't need you either. sorry. |
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