Husband asked me a ridiculous question.?

Do You Trust Me?

It sounds to me like he just wants to try new things and doesn't know how to ask.

Or, he is worried you are board.

kimberly_frye06

He's probably just curious about past experiences you've had with other people, I wouldn't take it as a "weird question", probably just something that popped into his head. You shouldn't tell him that its a "stupid question", no question is stupid, but rather ask him why he would ask you something like that.

Berzirk

Keep a open mind, you have made it this far and it's a plus. Don't anticipate his action, it could only be curiosity.

???

He wants to make the lovelife more interesting, but probably doesn't want to ask you to do anything you wouldn't or haven't already done.

gilmore_girls_fan_213

maybe he feels insecure.. have you done anything to make him feel this way? my advice is that if he brings it up again you should just tell him. i mean you guys have been together for 6 years after all honesty is the key to marriage.. if he askes you and expects an answer.. ask him. make him tell you :]
hope this helped!

It means he wants to try something different in the bedroom and is phishing to see if you have any hidden skills LOL

POLLYPOPPY

hey sweety maybe think thats normal just awnser it and tell him that you dont miss a thing tell him some thing u done with them but say but u the best one think he asked becouse he curiouse and he may feel he not doing things right and that he what to know to maybe make him feel good try fun things and dont worry all works out good luck tc

Lynn

Maybe he's afraid that you're getting bored with him.

Jonny B

It means that he feels that there is something missing in the bedroom. Either he is not satisfied or he senses that you are not.

It sounds like you two need to communicate before its too late.

bobe

He is either trying to find out more what pleases you in bed or he is contemplating an affair. With a question like the one he asked you pacifying him might be the best answer. Tell him your past lovers before he came around were dull compared to him. Tell him that is the reason why I married you! I miss nothing from them but I would miss everything from you if you weren't in my life. Don't you feel the same way to me? Just turn his stupid question into a positive re-affirmation that he loves you very much.

slinkywizzard

It sounds like he might
a) want to do something that he is uncomfortable asking you up front about
b) be insecure about your love and attraction for him. If he is afraid that he is not satisfying you, he will think that you are comparing him to the other guys.

renegade4him2

Could be that he is feeling inadequate in that department. Often having children take a lot out of the intimacy. Maybe ask him what it means to him. Think of some things as an answer and be prepared to share. What can it hurt?
Good luck.

sohabe

men have ego problems.. he is concerned that he isn't satisfying you or he wants to be the king of the castle.. he wants to make sure they don't compare

just pretend a bit to boost his ego.. tell him i don't want to go into my past.. but i married you for a reason. you are the best love i had.. your manhood is so big.. etc

yourguy22

see us men we ask questions that we might regret knowing about because we have our jeolous ways and maybe he doesnt want you to think about other men. he probably wants to be the one who last did all those things with you . he may want to spice things up a bit. but ask him does he really want to know seriously then tell him even if it hurts

cynthia m

tell him how you feel and see if he is bored or nosy

dptvegas

maybe he thinks he is not giving u all of his best or he sees you don't enjoy it like it was before .That is a weird question for him to ask hope he is not being a bad boy

teamepler@verizon.net

It means that he has self doubt.
Try to redirect the road he is going down. Maybe there is something neither of you has tried (but would try if the chance came).
If this is hard for you, just suggest that you two get away for a while and do those things you used to do in private that you are not doing now.

bobby m

As a guy I think their is something that he misses. It is his way to get you to ask him what he wants without being the pervert that ask you to do something.
My guess is he has done something with an ex a long time ago and wants you two to try it together.
His way of trying to spice things up I believe.

Kamho.

Maybe he just wanted to know about your past.
Or he just got nothing to say in that moment and this thing came up in his mind , so he ask.

Good luck and all the best.
Wish you and your family live happily for life. (:

Warmest Regard,
Kamho.

LITTLE BEAR B

he has a right to know and should already....so should you know about his past.....I know its been six years but people have a right to know where their spouse's naughty parts have been. are you insecure about your past?

Deac

As a married man I think I know what he's going through. He wants to be your everything. When you think of a certain act in the bedroom he wants to be the one you think about every time. He also doesn't want to feel like you might be holding some of yourself from him. He wants you to trust him as much as you've trusted all the other men you've ever beeen with. I don't think he's coming from a bad place. In fact I think this desire shows that in his heart he's given himself completely to you and want some assurance from you that you done the same.

My wife and I actually had this conversation before we got married. But it was definitely more important to me than it was for her. We're coming up on our ten year anniversary.

Deac

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I dont know but my guess is he may just be curious. Sometimes guys wonder about what went on before he found you. He probley wants to find out if you miss it becuase hed love to show you a good time.

hope it helps!

BWes

it could be he feels insecure about himself and feels he's not satisfying you. i wonder the same things sometimes, but i don't ask. it may be he wants to be everything they were and more. my GF asked me the same thing. her reasoning is that she feels i think about my ex's while i'm with her. she wants to do what she can to make me not think about them, even though i don't anyway.

I've Got My Answer

He probably just got into a conversation at work or with a friend about past lovers or even heard/seen something on television that was talking about past relationships. This conversation could've came out of anywhere. It shouldn't really be a big deal. Just tell him that you've done more with him than anyone else and that he's the best you've ever had. Stroke his ego, he'll love it!!!!!!!!!

Dan S

You are right it is a ridiculous question.

My sister gave me some excellent advice on this; never discuss your past loves, that is your past and it should remain so.

No matter what your answer is your husband will not be happy. If you have had more experience and lovers then he has then he will feel inferior and if you have had less then he will feel that he rushed you into your relationship. He will also hate the fact that you have had other relationships before him. Now he canâ€™t hold this against you because even if you did know him back then, you chose him over the others. The problem is that subconsciously he will hold it against you.

The best thing to say is this: â€œHoney, it doesnâ€™t matter because you are the one I picked. No matter what I say you wonâ€™t be happy, think about it. You really donâ€™t want to know about my past loves and you really donâ€™t want to have to compare yourself to them. Not that you will come up short, but you may feel that you will. All you need to know is that I picked you over them and you are the one that I love. You have to trust me that if there is anything you need to know about my past loves I will tell you. I am trusting you to do the same, and I am not going to ask you about your past, because what is past is past. I am certainly not going to hold it against you that you were in love with someone before you met me, we didnâ€™t know each other so we couldnâ€™t have been in love with each other. We all have had relationships before, but our relationship right now is the one that matters and I donâ€™t want to tell you anything that will compromise it. All you need to know is that no matter how many lovers I had you are the one I chose, and I am the one you chose. Concentrate on that and forget what is the past and canâ€™t be changed. It is gone and the past is dead, lets concentrate on the present and the future; that is what is important.â€

My sister got pinned by her husband and made the mistake of telling him, he found out that she was much more popular then he was and it depressed him. She learned from that mistake that the proper answer is to avoid the question entirely.

--Wedded--Bliss--

Guys always want to know that they are the best. And when you are honest they get upset. I, too, try and avoid those questions. Why can't they understand that beind the best isn't what makes things greatm its the shared love...

...men...

Best Wishes
LaKendra

Chill out

I think your response probably made him feel even more insecure as you said it was a stupid question = he's stupid for asking it. How about asking him why he wants to know, instead of asking strangers - coz everyone's different! Sounds to me like he wanted to prepare a special treat for you to reward you for all the hard work with the kids, and so neither of you get that '7 year itch' feeling! A bit like a woman wanting to know what meals her husband misses eating!

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