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clbaiz
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Please don't listen to any of the people here who are saying that you should divorce him or anything like that. If you feel that you can deal with it togther and you're okay with that then by all means, stay with him. Marriage needs to start meaning something to people again. And if you are one of the people who actually value your marriage and love your husband then you should stick with your covnvictions and work it out together. I am so happy to hear that someone actually values marriage enough not to give up on it at the first sign of difficult times.
Oh, and about the gift, give him yourself. Tell him that you are his and you will love him no matter what. And don;t tell him you forgive him if you don't really in your heart. Just tell him you are working on being able to forgive him. But make sure no matter what you give him that he still knows you love him. He might think you don't otherwise after something like that.
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Citizen North
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He cheated for a year and now your getting him something? He deserves a kick in the teeth. |
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a1tommyL
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the first thing I thought of was to taser his nuts for valentines day but i guess you've moved beyond that phase.
you're very forgiving. |
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susieq ♥'s all 7 words
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I'd send chocolates made of ex-lax. |
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Green-eyed Nikki
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honestly I don't know how you could stay with someone who cheated on you, especially for that long. you should be with someone who deserves you. |
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Starla_C
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I like the idea.
Why are you humiliated? You're not the one that cheated. |
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here's a great idea: divorce the son if a gun! once a cheater, always a cheater. |
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kurts99ford
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Or you could act like a cat and just go piss around his desk to mark your territory!
Just kidding, if the lady he had an affair is still there your husband should find a new job!
Keep working on it but don't play games just communicate with him your feelings and desires! |
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xoxoDewtYxoxo
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Divorce papers! |
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Wooderson
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Don't send anything to work. You should do something between the two of you only.
You also have nothing to be humiliated about. Don't blame yourself or take it as a slight to you that he cheated. It does not cheapen you, it cheapens him. |
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troble # one?
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Don't make any more of a fool of yourself than he already has...... |
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quantum physics
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If you were a guy, you could give him your balls. But since your a lady, you can always let him step all over you and you can tell the neighbors you fell down the stairs.
FOREVER. |
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tim2honorgod
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OK, I'm going ot agree with 2 of the ideas here.
1. I know hy you're humiliated, but don't be. You're not the one who cheated. You are stronger than most for forgiving him so much.
2. don't send him anything, bring it to him. Do this on a periodic basis without calling. He's gotta start liking surprizes. |
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Weetie
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how about sending him balloons with divorce papers attached? |
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Big Momma Carnivore
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No. Keep the Valentine's Day thing low key as far as work is concerned. Celebrate just the two of you. No need to stake a claim to your territory. That won't get you anywhere. You need to rebuild the trust between the two of you. Take the high road and don't embarrass him at work. You may want to encourage him to find a new job. |
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Tracey S
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he's a ********! he'll do it again, wait and see...send him a dead rat in a box, let it sit in the sun for a few days and send him that!!!! that's all he deserves........if that was me i would want revenge! flatten his car tires or something....how can you forgive him???????thats the worst sin ever............. |
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in_L-O-V-E_w/daniel
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a bag of coal |
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Flangina
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Well, no. I have nothing. |
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true blue
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You want to stake out your territory. You shouldn't feel the need to do this. Either you trust him now or you don't. He's a big boy. He knows how to keep his fly zipped, if that's what he wishes to do. No woman is going to say, "Well she sent him balloons, so he's her man. I'll just stay away." If someone is interested, balloons won't scare them off. Your husband needs to say, "No thank you." Be a big girl. Either forgive him, trust him, and move on. Or, just move on. The balloons idea seems like childish nonsense to me. |
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uuummk
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I don't think you should do that. It would be obvious. You shouldn't have to prove anything to any one. You are married to him, so he belongs to you. Does the woman he had an affair with still work there? What a messed up situation. I feel for you. If you send anything to his work people are going to assume that you are trying too hard to make it obvious that he is yours. So they are going to figure things really are not that great between the two of you. You don't want people to think that you are desperate and insecure. Does that make sense? I really feel that you should dump him, but I don't think you will. Not now anyway. I just hope that the next time he cheats you will be able to get rid of him. |
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One in a million
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Why don't you leave him behind? How ridiculous. You can't be everywhere he is. It's going to happen again. |
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trojan
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If you want to make it obvious that you are your husband are working it out perhaps just go there in person and take him out for lunch or something. Make sure your looking good , happy (all smiles even if it kills you), hold you head high and walk with confidence. Give your husband a kiss and walk hand in hand as you leave the office.
I would lose the balloons though, it kinda sounds tacky. Oh and if husband is not thrilled about any of it, I'd consider dropping him (if anything he should be thrilled ). |
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flatteredwu
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u should make him a nice lunch and take it to him..make it really romantic and stuff |
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uneekqamar2004
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Normally I would just send him a card, that's enough. I'm surprised that you're still with him because after a year long affair how could you trust him again? |
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Melissa
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You are a bigger person than me because I wouldn't be sending him anything. He should be sending you the balloons and everything else. If you really want to surprise him why don't you send him lunch to his office with a telegram. Spice it up a little bit. Be creative and different. |
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wanninonni
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I think a nice lunch from one of the best restaurants in town. Better yet if you could pick him up from work and take him out. Don't be so 'in your face' with your balloon idea, it'll only embarass him but taking him 'away' and returning him will have everyone wondering what you DID during your lunch.....hmmmmm |
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rmadd
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yeah send him some ballons with a hot card. let that whole place know he is yours! |
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lostinyonkers
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First things first. Does the person he cheated with still work at the company? Are you sure he can keep his um hands? to himself? If you believe that he can I wouldn't Send him balloons, that's kind of a girl thing. I send food we have a place that does the balloon thing but they also offer a cookie batch wrapped instead it's less frilly but it get's the point across. I would also deliver it not have it sent. Show the people he works with that you are a strong woman willing to be the bigger person and fight in a sense for your man. |
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