Husband coming home from Iraq in less than a month...?

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I think that if you tell him your feelings about wanting to wait he will understand. Tell him that you also want to focus on not only his and your daughter's relationship, but also yours as a couple. Im sure he will understand. As for a romantic idea......try to be creative. Does he like movies? What is his favorite dinner? Buy a nice dress and make up a date night for you two..... Surprise him with tickets to a movie and a candle lit dinner at his favorite restaurant. But make sure its just you TWO. And dont do it the day he gets home, but maybe the 2nd or 3rd. Have your little girl make a "Welcome Home Daddy" banner (or at least scribble on one!) That would be cute! He needs at least the first day to spend with his daughter and you as a family again. Good luck and Congrats on your hubby coming home!

Brunette wife

No your not wrong for wanting to wait.

You and him need to get to know each other again and he needs to spend as much time as he can with your daughter since he has missed so much time with her before thinking of having another child.

It's Me ! =)

I completely agree with you. if he's having trouble spending time with a baby he already has now, why would he want to have another baby ? i think it's a smart decision of yours to wait until things become more stable, until he's home a lot more before you two let another baby into this world ! just tell him how you feel about it and explain to him your reasoning, and why you think waiting would be best. I think it would be great if you cooked him a nice dinner and put flowers on the table, dimmed the lights, candles, and just have a romantic dinner with him =] I'm sure he'd absolutely love that. Take care !*

Evie P

yes, i think you should wait(:

tincan62

congradulations on your hubby comming home, a salute to your husband, and you, being home alone, raising a baby byyourself, it says a lot of yourself in these days and trobling times, as for having another baby, no in your thinking, you seem to have a very smart nogging sitting on tpo of ur neck, wait a year or two, mom needs a little time forherself, im not much on romatic stuff,,, low lights, a good slow song and a dance, oh well,, enjoy ur family and GOD bless

jazzyj

No, you're not wrong for feeling that way just explain it to him and tell him that you feel alone and don't have help with that child and you're just not ready to have another one right now, but you can assure him that in the future you may change your mind, but right now you don't think it's a good time, and he needs to get to know his daughter also since he's been away.She needs plenty of attention from Daddy before she has to compete for his attention with another sibling!! And be firm ,because you are all alone and are the one doing all of the work, and good luck!! I didn't want to tell you how to do something romantic...fearing that it may cause you two to make another baby, so you're on your own with that!!..lol...

DANAITHERESE

He wants another baby because it is life affirming for him. Most likely he will not deploy again. Give him a little time and space to get through some of the things he has seen and done over there. Another baby might help him to know your daughter better and he will have a decent leangth of time before the new baby arrives. It is hard to be alone with a baby but it is even harder to be on his end. Think about giving in a new life may help readjust to civilian life more easily.

Dave C

He simply is looking for something to reconnect with and this is in his mind one way of doing so.

You are not wrong to and I would wait good chance he will get deployed again

Think about the 16 month old you have and how much of her life he has already missed

I know from experience it is a I3itch I am working with the VA right now seeing if they will cover reattachment disorder for me and my oldest because of this War and the deployments I've been on

Stephanie H

Oh do I know how you feel girl!! My husband has been in Afghanistan since last April and is coming home next month. We have 14 month old twin boys and they were only 2 months old when he left so he has missed everything. My closest family is 5 hours away so I would travel around once a month to see them...I never did make friends where we are at so I too have done this on my own. I don't think you're wrong for wanting to wait and I'm sure once you just talk to him he will understand...once he gets home and see's how big she has gotten I'm sure he will want to spend as much time with her (and you!) as he can.

On the romantic stuff, not too sure...a lot of our family will be here to welcome him home. I did make a huge banner for him and plan on hanging it up outside our apartment...guess I need some ideas too...lol!!

Congrats on doing an excellent job raising your daughter and I'm so happy he is coming home safe...take care.

Bio hopeful

just tell him NO! your the one who has to bring the kids up! hes just there for the fun stuff! and wear some skimpy underware stuff

Steven

WAIT.

Honey247

I understand how you feel. You just need to be honest with him. Maybe explain what a normal week with the baby is like and taking care of home. And see if you two can compromise on a time line for another child.

As far as romance. First you need a sitter. And then just do something small and sweet. Only you know your husband and the things he likes and appreciates. For example, if he's been overseas for a year and you know he love a certain fast food that he missed. May set up a romantic candle light dinner with that food. And then something fun that he missed, a ball game, bowling, UFC fight. Remember you don't have to spend alot of money to do something romantic, it the thought that goes behind it.

claire

you stick to what you want.let him get to know the daughter.you're right if you try for another one it probably will be harder on you.and for a romantic evening just get a few movies and order out.family time.also be sure to get hubby checked out to make sure his mind is ok.some of the guys who goes in come out bad.there mind goes crazy.

MikKroik

Well just explain it was hard and you would greatly appropriate if he could wait. Explain that you didn't mind, just not ready for another go.

Romantic things
-Cuddle (every night), if he was in the war for 3 years he would love for his women to just get next to him and hug him
-I am not a romantic person so I wouldn't know.

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