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David M
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Did he ask you to clean up? Does he ever help clean up? Maybe you should have just went to bed after your bath and your work and left the mess for him, he made it. |
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[BUMP] Coming July '09
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He didn't mean to fall asleep and leave the cleanup all for you.
If I were you I would have tried to wake him up for help, if that didn't work I would have just left the house a mess. |
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6ofUs
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I'd have left the mess til the next day and made sure he wasn't too tired for the dessert I was offering. |
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Flinch
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Sounds like he meant well..
Should have left the mess for the morning and thanked your husband for the surprise!! |
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ғοοℓɩϨн ♀
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Hello, wake up. its an anniversary and you guys are married. If he did all the work setting it up, cooking (making) dinner, the candles, the bubble bath .... then dont u think its only fair that you do the clean up??
I mean theres two ppl in the marriage, you AND HIM ... its not YOUR anniversary, its for BOTH Of you. So no, i dont think u shud be pissed. |
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Tam
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be THANKFUL! |
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Officer Friendly
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Why did you clean it up? You could have just left it for him to clean up in the morning. Anyway, he meant well, so quit griping unless you want him to stop doing anything nice for you ever. |
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Dreamer
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Personally I don't think "angry" is the correct emotion for this situation. Frustrated, however; I would definately be. While cleaning up the mess and finsishing your work left you with very little sleep, keep in mind your husband probably didn't think beyond the fooling around part long enough to consider the amount of work it would take for you to cleanup after your relaxing evening of romance.
Just remember in your frustration to always be careful what you wish for, as well as thankful for what you have. There are many women wishing for the frustration that comes along with having a thoughtful husband! |
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Wolford H
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At least he was trying. You don't always get your cupcake and eat it to. |
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The Master
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Tell him you had a good night but that without his help, you had to spend a lot of time cleaning up by yourself. Then suggest nicely, "Maybe we can clean up together next time?" |
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Pottse
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It sounds like he meant well, but it seems like you have a communication problem. You should tell him that you loved the night, but you had to clean everything, and it was too much. Maybe he'll tell you that you were supposed to go to sleep and he'd clean it up in the morning...that's always the best. |
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Fonz
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it's the thought that counts....
How much better is that than him hanging out at a bar instead of trying to do something nice for YOU.
be happy |
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Linzer
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Be thankful that you got to clean up that mess. Most women don't even get flowers. |
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Cindie V
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I wouldn't have been too upset with him. It sounds like he put a lot of time and thought into it for you.
Just ask yourself this: which would you have rather had... a nice, fun unexpected romantic night, or a clean kitchen? I think your kitchen would've understood for one night don't you? ;-)
I will say, it was kind of presumptuous of him to assume you'd clean everything up. He should have said "I'll help you clean up tomorrow" But... over, done with, gone. Hope all is well now. |
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anon
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I would have left it till the next day. |
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KatieK
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I wouldn't be angry. You could have woken him up and asked him to help you clean. Why be angry at him when you choose to leave him sleeping and tackle the mess yourself? It's very possible he didn't realize that he was leaving you with so much work. |
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MiMi 786
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He was obviously exhausted with his efforts! Just be grateful and appreciate what he did do,some women don't even get a dinner, let alone everything else! There's no need to be pissed it wasn't a big deal! Whenever a woman stops appreciating a man then they stop bothering or look else where. Now that would be something to be pissed about! |
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redhead27
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Oh come on... he went to all the work to set everything up and do something special for you and you are complaining about cleaning up for it???
Seriously? ... this is so insignificant and such a petty little argument... pick your battles wisely... don't be pissed... be grateful you have a good husband to do something special like that for you. |
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wHeReSuRhEaRt
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I like that your husband actually tried, men aren't perfect. But his thoughts were really sweet, next time just suggest that he helps you clean up the mess. like say, this will make the night even more wonderful if you help me clean the mess up... |
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superSymmetric
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Pissed off? Are you kidding! You know how many women would DIE to have their man do that for them, just once? I mean, most women have to clean up after their guys all the time - at least you got the stroybook romantic dinner out of it.
And did he ask you to clean up? Or did you do it because you felt you had to? There's a difference.
Don't read so much into it - be grateful that you have a romantic, loving husband. |
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Alice
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I think it was nice of him. He probably didn't mean to leave it all for you. |
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ALunaticFriend
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Maybe you should have waited until you could clean it up together. Not seeing the clean-up, he has no idea why you would be angry. 3 hours? Were you guys breaking glass all over the house or something? I can clean my whole house in under 3 hours. |
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joey
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just talk to him about it, its not really something to forget about, but not worth an arguement. just sarcasticly slip in a comment or 2, like "thanks for helping clean up last night", and see where that goes, but he had all the right intensions, so its not worth an arguement. |
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Oh it's me!
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Did he expect the dinner to be cleaned up? My husband may have done all that, and said the stuff can be cleaned up later or helped me do it. Perhpas you're one of those people that needs everything spotless and he's not. So, waiting till later was fine. And, if it WAS a big problem for you, you could have woken him up and said you needed his help. My husband would have been fine with that. I'd say the guy had good intentions and not to be angry with him. |
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chowika
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I know how you felt, sortve happened to me, not that romantic, but still a lovely night. I was angry at first, but then I just thought why bother. I let him know (a few days later) that it was a nice jester but it would even be better if he would have helped me clean up. That we both had a great time, we are in it together and we clean it together..I think he got the hint, hasn't been like that for over a year.LOL..but thats okay with me... |
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Rhian H
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Awww, he really did try... he just... didn't pull all the way through. Yes, I'd be aggrevated as well... I'm sure you're the type of woman that can't sleep with a dirty house?
I'm sure he meant well... just try and not throw your dinner fork at him tonight at dinner :) |
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a a
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if i did that for my wife she would be so happy that she would clean it all up without complaing to me or to people on the internet
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Mrs. RaBBit
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I'm not married but I would say he put alot of effort into it. If you both work full work weeks then i doubt you have time for each other and you usually make dinner right? He could have at least loaded the dishwasher or bagged and took out the trash but its a man, they have good intentions but we can't expect for the good intentions to to last throughout the intended good action. you didnt have to clean up the whole mess and could have left sum for morning or you could have ended the night earlier knowing you had work to do plus a big mess to clean and that way he could have helped you. You were enjoying urself and forgot that men makes messes, u both had good intentions, his was to please you and yours was to accept...u both knew u had to work, he should have done it on a wkend. |
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CRSP
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Your mad after he got everything ready!!! He should never do anything for you because all you do is complain! If it was such a big of a deal leave it and he could clean it up the next day. . . it really sounds like you cleaned it so it would be ok for you to be upset later. |
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