Husband help what should I do Please Help?

JamA88

i would sit down and tell him how you feel but my husband and i are going on six years and trust me there have been some tough times and sometimes they really just need to see themselves but he won't listen to you until he is ready so if he just shuts down then hes not ready to talk and don't push the issue try writing it all down or finding a way to show him like bringing out an old photo album or just letting it sit on the table if he picks it up join him in looking at the photos and saying look how happy we used to be after looking through it say babe or whatever his name i just don't feel like that anymore im so unhappy i feel like you don't love me anymore whatever your feelings and maybe he will listen sometimes if you approach people by saying we need to talk they won't even care because they think its a fight try easing it into the day

tatumn76

I'm sorry to hear that but maybe you should tell him how you feel and suggest if you can't work it out on your own then you'll need to get help. You first have to acknowledge that their is a problem before you can change it, so we know you do but does he?

Good luck!

ranger_co_1_75

To quote Strother Martin, "What we have here is a failure to communicate".

If you cut off communication, your marriage is doomed, you may as well save time and get a divorce now.

It is imperative you talk about issues in your marriage. Neither partner should react with the same treatment they receive from their mate. It takes a bad situation and doubles it.

This is one of the few times a counselor can actually help your marriage by getting you two to talk. After a few superficial problems, you will actually get down to what's bothering your spouse and seek solutions. A lot of times, just talking about it is enough to solve the problem.

Anne W

So, what happened between year one and year three to make him change? Was he this way going into the marriage? What happened to make it horrible? You need to make him go to a couples counseling so that you can learn to communicate with each other and figure out what happened to change your marriage so much. You need to TALK with him some how or another so that you can figure out what is wrong.

Reyna

you've got to get some communication going. if you start playing the same game he is, nothing will be resloved. find a time to talk to him without interuption (t.v. kids, tiredness).

pickleduck

voice your opinion, communication is key

Bibi

from experience

he is cheating

Crystal

Communicate! It's the number one thing in a happy marriage. If he doesn't want to talk, make him. Playing his game will get you nowhere. Ask him "Do you care about this marriage....because it's going down the tubes if you haven't noticed." It's important not to fight...only talk. My husband and I have also been married 3 years....it took until year 2 for me to get him to talk about thing, but now that he does, everything is amazing. You both have to do the work and care about your relationship...if he doesn't, then why be together?

margie k

Insist on counseling, if he won't go then you need to get a lawyer and get divorced. It is mental abuse when he treats you this way. He is probably cheating on you as well. Get the lawyer.

*havin fun in the sun*

you should find someone who does pay attention to you and your children. enough of the game playing, life is too short for that. i would tell him if things don't change soon, you are going to file for divorce, but i am guessing he won't care about that either.

He is not happy to be tied down with one woman. He is also not happy with the responsibility of two kids. It appears your husband is in a bad mood more than he is in a good mood. I'd get my stuff packed and move away from him. In the long run, your kids are going to suffer because of his attitude. Time for a divorce.

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