Husband is always cheating, what do I do?

jdhs

If I were you, I would have enough self respect not to tolerate this kind of situation. I wouldn't be able to stay married with someone who's unable to be faithful to me. Once would've been enough but many times? That's a big no-no. You just have to figure out for yourself what's more important to you. Your security or your dignity and happiness? If you choose the latter then you have to do the necessary steps to get out of this situation, even if that means being on your own for a while.

Nikki

If you can live with it, then stay with him. But if it were me, I'd leave him because I don't want to be sharing him with whoever else. I don't know how you put up with it.

ancalagon2003

Dump him

rosewood

Leave him, you're a door mat. He has everything he wants and no consequences. He probably laughs about it.

saif2240

dont know what to say? but i think u can give him a last single chance but there is much to do !! just try to change ur way of wearing clothes and other some things. i realy dont know what are they ? but still u can make big changes in ur husband if u try.

doodlebugg

Stay friends with him, but nothing else. You never know who he's been with, and you can't risk catching a disease from him, maybe even one that will kill you - nothing's worth that!

Martin T

and btw he is cheating on his taxes or what?
if i was you
sell the house and cash it and go leave with him
i mean you will be CASH rich - and for the last donkey years
you have accepted him as he is

Jasmine T

ok first of all... any dependant woman is very likely to be cheated on... him being in a band is not an excuse..., yes its more temptation, but then also he has more room to show you he loves you....
woman, get a job, find another boyfriend, and CUT YOUR UMBILICAL CORD for god sakes... have some self respect..
leave his as$... hell, u can do it on your own! u just need to build up some dignity... rely on family and friends for now.... thisll shock him so much hell probably want u back.... but u wont...

jay_p

Well then, remain friends, but never EVER get intimately involved with him again.

Supa_Star124

Sounds like you are happy with the situation as is, so why mess with it. You have lived for 12 years knowing the situation why are questioning it now? Have fun enjoy your time with him!

sandy

This husband of yours is probably a nice fellow...........friendly..... plays music and get to meet all kinds of interesting people......... including girls too!

That......is part of his attraction.........and is the reason he is in business........be coz that's his 'bread & butter' sort of personality!

On his cheating............there is little you could do. It has become his second nature.........n a thing he does to keep give himself a life!

I advise you just stay being his good & trusted friend..........n he will reciprocate & give you all that you ask............except you cant ask him not to cheat!

If you both could live & accept with that of good friendly and "I'm always there for you" & "you can always count on me" relationship........then so be it.........be happy .......& dont worry!

We all have to find our footing after marriage..........as we go thru life.......& adapt to growing oldern may be not so wiser sometimes..............with all the stress of living ............( & the temptations of living!)

After all we are just weak humans............and in middle age you should learn to appreciate each other's good points............and may be keep a wink of understanding for our not-so-good habits.

As you said......you are afraid to let him go...........he is probably in similar shoes too.

Live....& let live.......practise more of give & take.........n take life with a big pinch of salt.....

I wish you both stick together for a long time to come........giving each other a shoulder whenever there's a need for it!

Caiman94941

Get a divorce. Get alimony and get the cheater out of your life.
You deserve someone that will be true to you and that won't
come home with some disease of the week from the last
idiot he slept with . This guy is a self-centered pig.....marriage is
built on love and loyalty and he isn't showing you either. He is
having his cake and eating it too and you are letting him. You
really need to work on your self-esteem issues, no one deserves
to be treated like this. You still have a lot of life yet, why are you
wasting it on someone who doesn't appreciate you? What are
you teaching your kids by letting this go ???? Go get some
counseling - if you don't have the $ for it , check out the local
public health services and see if there is a group that you can
get help from. But quit wasting your life on this user.

secretsofthe end

Well if you want to know the truth you got to put yourself in his shoes. He's using money to get what he wants from you and from everyone around him. You can't let him win and still try to stay by his side cause you will get hurt that way. What u need to do is move back in with him tell him you will be faithful to him till the end, and that way he doesn't have the option to play with your feelings. He will be forced to choose and give up the addictions for other women and live with you 100% or you need to start a new life without him. But once you guys do move back intogether and if he continues to cheat then you still have to be faithful. If you love him you will make him choose.

willow, the yodakitty from hell

Move on if you can, give yourself the chance to find a man who is not a cheater :-)

Boss

leave

SmartyPants82

LEAVE HIM!

DrSH

Get marriage counselling and work through this together if you really want to stay with him.

Evil Atheist Conspirator

Leave him.

â™¥ Sydd

divorce, but stay friends

Leave him, never look back and keep walking. I would leave his sorry behind. He does not care for you as much as you care for him clearly otherwise he would not be cheating and its not about you its him - his issues. Leave him and cut him out of your life only then will you be able to move on. You will meet other people and realise just how strong you really are and how you capable you are to fix your own things round the house. Don't stay out of convenience - I'm not saying you are. And regarding letting go emotionally its better really than all the lies and cheating.

beckaz4

I would recommend cutting ties all together. It will allow you to start over.

KIT J

You know the answer to this. You need to regain your self-respect and find out why you've been putting up with his faithlessness. What would you tell your best friend or sister in a similar situation?

gypsygoddess76

Leave him for the sake of your mental and physical health. Who knows who he's with and what he may bring home to you!

If you have children... do you want your daughters growing up thinking that it is ok to be so insecure about what they are worth that its ok to put up with a man that doesnt repect them enough to be faithful?? If you have sons do you want them to grow up thinking this is an acceptable way to be a man?

As for the things he does for you: hire a handy man to fix things and take a friend on vacation

Dr. Mojo M

Hi,
I have gone through your problem. As you said you are already living separately and you can not trust him . As per you he is beyond repair. My suggestion is pl. look for alternate option till you are not getting continue with your husband.

Shalla

You deserve someone that is true to you.. do not accept this situation.. put value in your own being and find someone deserving that can be faithful and true.

Eastpack69

divorce him if your not ok with that.

Clamshell 19

A part of you, is blaming yourself. STOP IT!!
There's nothing for you to do about him. Start working on
you! By getting your feet under yourself.
Whatever it takes. Actually sit down, and figure out
what it will take to get YOU going. Divorce doesn't fix everything.
When you get to the point you don't need him for every little thing.
Maybe you will realize, that you can count on you.
You'll feel better, when you can do better. GOOD LUCK

wat_more_can_i_say?

d*mn, you should leave... he'll just use you for using sake... come on, gather all your courage and dignity that's left and leave him! somewhere out there a guy is willing to be loyal to you, who will love you 100%.

please talk to a 100% trustworthy friend about your situation and arrange a way to leave him... gd luck :)

nazzy

You should definately leave him. To me it seems the only reason you are still dealing with his stuff is because you are scared that if you leave you will not have him around to fix things, help you financially, etc. You need to rememer how strong you are. You are a strong woman for dealing with him. You can definately make it without him. It may take a second to adjust to doin it alone..but I know you will figure it out. You deserve better... Remeber that without trust you have nothing. Leave him... you'll feel so much better when you do. I wish you the best!

keepin' it real

get a new husband:)

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