Husband is looking at other girls!!! Is this normal?

nevesxr

Do you ever look at other men?

Jeffy.

Normal to want to but not normal to give in.

rebecca

Normal and annoying. My husband was blatantly watching this chic's butt at a restaurant - to the point of stretching and looking backwards at her. When I confronted him, he claimed to be staring at the ceiling fan. Truth is, most of the time they have NO CLUE they're doing it. It's ok to let him know you caught him looking and let him know it bothers you. He'll probably deny it vehemently. I always let my husband know when I've caught him - or I point out nice-looking girls before he can see them so that it becomes my fault he looked. It stresses me out less that way. It has become sort of our 'thing'.

Julia

u should have called him out on it at the time! thats just disrespectful and rude. check out some guys but make it obvious so he realizes and see how he likes it

dude d

yes its normal, but if he ignores you then u got a problem,
also if u dont like this try loving him more show him ur the best and no matter how hot another women is she can never take ur place

I hate stupid people

that's crap, i'd kick his ***!! It's one thing to look when he's by himself, but when his wife is right there?!?! screw that man!!

melissa_annemarie

yes it is normal.I dont blame you for getting hurt by his looking so many times,but it is normal for a guy married or not to look/gaze etc.

rie

I know that my husband sees pretty women even when he's with me,but he's politely discreet & I never notice.Tell him,& if he doesn't stop...give him a dose of his own medicine,& see how he likes it.

Hot to Trot

Relax. Guys don't get special "never look at another girl" blinders after getting married. Men will always look at pretty girls, but usually try ti be discreet. I look, but I would never do anything. Nothing would be worth risking the life I have with my wife. She know this too. Sometimes, if the girl is super model hot, my wife will point her out so I don't miss! He is just being normal, don't worry.

I love cooking!

I would've cussed him out up and down in the parking lot.

teenie

Yes it's normal to look but not stare at her that's so disrespectful . You better check your husband or do it to him give him a taste of his own medicine.

Michael T

He is not a freak. Guy look and watch. Haven't you seen that AT&T add where the guy watches the girls in the reflection on his cellphone as they walk by.

Tell him it hurts your feelings. He'll try to cut it back.

Well I'm sure that a lot of guys are going to answer this and say that it's normal. In today's world, it is normal, but that does not mean that it's right. When you marry someone you are supposed to love them and respect them. Loving and respecting your wife is not looking at other girls while she is right beside you, that is very disrespectful and you don't have to take that crap. I'm not saying that he can't look ever, but he definitely should not be looking while you are with him, I know how much that hurts, my ex wife would always do that to me. Guys are attracted to the way a girl looks because they are beautiful, and they are going to look, but looking at a girl while your wife is standing next to you shows you the blatant disrespect he has for you. Tell him it's not right. I never did that to my wife or girlfriends, I look when they weren't around though, but not in front of them. I loved them. Sorry he made you feel bad and probably lowered your self-esteem a little, good luck.

MikeyintheOC

Heck you even noticed! Normal.

Purrsona

Yes, its normal. But you might find it easier to let him know you know hes looking by saying something like. "Cute, isnt she?" ..

johnbenn_2000

I always understood that as a married man we could look all we wanted, just not touch.

macandy

the time to worry is when he stops lookin! when he does thar it means hes found something!

dazed and confused

I'm not married or anything but I've been with my boyfriend for a while now and he takes a couple glances at attractive women every now and then and that's completely normal..boys will be boys ya know? but i don't usually mind because i know at the end of the day, he's with me and i just keep that in mind.. now staring at someone that excessively is a little different, you should talk to him about that. Usually when i notice my guy checking out another girl. I'll comment on her looks before he can.. I'll say something like "hm that girl has a nice figure." and just say it very nonchalant and act like its nothing, that's usually when he notices that I've noticed what he's lookin at and then he'll usually say something stupid like "oh, i didn't notice" even though you both know differently but i just brush it off...and sometimes I'll kind of make a joke out of it i guess and it takes off any kind of tension in the situation. i hope this helps. Good Luck!!

Meagan

yes its normal just as long as hes not touching or screwing

Anna

normal are not he should have more respect for you than that, and consider your feelings on how it makes you feel.which is not good,, un-attractive and make you think you don't have it as once like before and that he's not satisified with the way you look anymore and he looks elsewhere. and im sorry but some men can be dogs about stuff.

NAVY BLUE

it has nothing to do with being old or your age i have the same problem my husband would stare at women in the beginning i didn't say anything it got to the point were i started to say do you want to go home with her or what to let him know that i was watching him we sat down to talk and i told him how disrespectful it was to stare at other women when i'm around and if he could stop and there's nothing wrong with looking but when you stare i have a problem with it so you should talk to your husband tell him how you fell about it

Morgan

Yes its normal =P To go farther than looking isn't so don't let it get to deep. Marriage is SUPPOSED to be a life long commitment remind him that but don't drive him away. If it gets worse talk to him not too dramatic guys hate that. If it got to the worse point get help from a therapists or something?
Hope it Helps but its Normal
Morgan<3

jenisisgrafix

I feel the same way as you but still it IS normal. I struggle with it all the time with my bf but i know its just a jealousy thing, he's with you and not cheating right? Its normal to look, instinctive almost, do we have to like it...no

Rick :)

hes a guy, we have always looked and always will :]

Karen

I think that it is normal for anyone to look at an attractive person, but not to stare. It is also completely disrespectful to you, as his wife, for your husband to stare down a girl in your presence. Unless if your husband is intellectually challenged or completely heartless he should know better. If checking out that girl was more important to him then your feelings, then he isn't being a good husband. When he married you he made the decision to be with you and you only and that includes "looking".....why does he need to look?....he has you!

I believe that staring and dreaming is being unfaithful....especially if it's done in your presence with complete disregard for your feelings.

fastplayer37

unfortunately, yes its normal for men to look at attractive women married or not. I really think they are like dogs that they really cant help it b/c of thier "dogness" in them. Its sickening isnt it? Dont you wish we could be the apple of their eye forever? No matter how prettty or attractive you are, he will always look. But just remember your his favourite flavour and he chose you to be his wife. If it bothers you, i would let him know or at least that he doesnt do it in front of you. I did that with my boyfreinds and they respected my wishes most of the time. But really, they cannot help it and its thier dog instincts. No matter what age they are. My dad is 70 years old and still looks at the playboy channel sometimes and my mom catches him looking. She doesnt care now. they've been married for 41 years. He has always been faithful. Its just the way men are. Furthermore, he isnt hiding anything from you and will look at other attractive women when you arent around.

beewee

i saw my husband looking at pictures of the girls in Facebook and he keeps adding them as a friend.. .i wonder y he's doing that.. .it hurts me cz even on the night of feb.14, i'v waited 4 him to at least just hug me b4 we go to sleep but i fall asleep waiting.. .d next day, i discover what keeps him busy at night.. .a lot of girls he dnt even know confirmed his request as a friend. i asked him y, he said ibcoz he's a guy and he just wanted 2 view their private photos.. .it leaves me the big question mark? why would he want to look at their private photos???? maybe its normal u know, but i'm a girl.. .and it hurts.. .makes me feel unattractive.. .how i wish he would look at me again and stop looking at other girls pics.. .

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