Husband made a new friend??

laura d

If he hasnt had an affair yet, he will. Act accordingly.

Me!!

PLEASE open your eyes. This is advice from a man.
You are being played emotionally (Emotional Cheating)...
Maybe not physically... YET.

laloba74

show your husband this post.

charger_sbee

My wife would kick my ***!

j b

GET HER AWAY FROM HUBBY.... IT MAY START OUT INNOCENT... BUT MANY TIMES CHEATING DOES START AS A FRIENDSHIP... AND SHE MIGHT BE GETTING THE WRONG IDEA...

Valerie X- ooops!

I wouldn't stand for that for ONE SECOND!!!

And my man wouldn't EITHER!!!!

WOW!!

Grey Person

If this man doesn't respect you enough to understand WHY you would feel jealous, then he isn't worth it. It's time for you to join the gym and get involved in other activities so you can meet some new "friends" of your own. Your husband is very insensitive and I'd make sure he didn't get so much as a hot meal out of me till things changed. This girl isn't a friend. She's a potential replacement for you.

Scott M

If it was my wife, I'd be pissed. Time to nip this in the bud.

nurse ratchet

She is his work wife. And yes he may have feelings for her due to the extreme amount of time they spend together. I would be jealous too. I'm sure he's said it means nothing and they are just friends. My suggestion is if he is not respecting your feelings is to find yourself a work husband. I know two wrongs do not make a right, but he needs to know what you are feeling. NO YOU ARE NOT BEING REDICULOUS. THIS IS YOUR HUSBAND AND ANYTHING THAT TAKES IS FEELINGS AND TIME AWAY FROM YOU IS CONSIDERED EMOTIONAL CHEATING.

colley411

He is WAY wrong. He shouldn't blow you off for a guy friend, much less a girl friend. And that fact that she's somewhat rude to you seems like she feels some competition. I would tell him straight up how you feel. He is a married man which brings a lot of joy but it also means you need to be loyal, committed and restrict yourself for the benefit of the other.

Mel

Lady you better have a long talk with hubby. Make sure he knows how you feel then ask him how he feels about this lady.

labellemere

He is allowed to have friends, yes.........but his actions are those of a man detaching from his wife and that is NOT OK.
Let him know that since this friendship is getting closer than you are OK with, he needs to end it. It sounds like he is headed towards (if not already) an emotional affair

lvillejj

Yes, this sounds messed up. Maybe thats what you should do is start going to lunch with some "Guy friends"............It sounds like your husband has something for this chick. Hate to sound rude.

Bingo!

Get a male friend ASAP. I think you will see a change in him.

americangurl_28

something sounds funny to me........he has lunch with another woman rather than havin lunch with his wife & then comes home & rubs it in your face....and you've met her & she cant talk to you.......yeah sumthing is goin on there.......better stop it before things get worse........if they havent already.......
as for the guy friend.....just get one & see how he reacts....if he doesnt freak a little.....then he is seriously goin sumwhere with the friend he has......

LoFlo

No, you are not being "totally gay", that is your instinct and common sense kicking in. Don't ignore it. Your husband has no legitimate reason to be carrying on with that woman the way he is and he knows it, and so do you. If he can't commit to your marriage you must look after your own well being.

joe2drive2003

HE IS GONNA CHEAT, PROBABLY HAS ALREADY

Dejay M

This friend is more than a friend just look at the facts she practically ignored you at her house warming and also your husband chooses to spend more time with her than with you. Sorry to say this but he is cheating on you. The sooner you realise that the better for you as then you can move on and find someone who does want to spend time with you.

I wish you luck and hope that in some way im wrong about him.

random guy

You are right to be worried. Guys and girls are very, very, very, very rarely 'just friends'.

mr. y

well i would be a little suspicious.if he starts coming home with an attitude for nothing and start arguing over petty things,thats when the red flag goes up.

dhallkb

I don't think I would like that too much either. It didn't raise a flag that he has a friend who's a woman...its the other stuff. He decided to go into business with her and it doesn't really sound like he consulted you much if at all. She is not interested in talking to you. When I have a guy who is a friend I love getting to know his significant other...that makes me think she is interested in him. Then he blows off you for lunch....I don't know sounds a little fishy. You should have and honest and rational conversation with him and let him know how you are really feeling. Maybe it is innocent on his part, but he doesn't realize how it is effecting you. Also, sounds like he needs to spend some more time with you...

nakedman_3333

I think he is one rude SOB

Dave S

she's trouble

Jerry S

tell him in no uncertain terms how you feel.

jacqui.evans64

This sounds so wrong married for less than a year? He should be so into you right now. This sounds so wrong so early in a marriage. I have been married for 24 years and last year my husband made a friend in work and was always coming home with she said this she said that, i told him how uncomfortable it made me feel and he cut all ties with her. I don't expect him not to have friends but YOU have to come first.

1 Love

First, yes your husband would be freaking out if you went to lunch everyday with a man who he barely knows.

The women seems eerie by what you said; because if she was truly a friend of his she would acknowledge and at least conversate at least with you about him.

Also, considering your husband and you were to start your own business - you should definatley explain that to him - that is not right at all. He should have not made that decision without you because of that.

My advice would be to speak with him and let him know how your feeling about this. Let him see your point of view.

Good luck . =]

Ren

It sounds like something is up. Girls and guys can be friends, but not at their spouse's expense. It doesnt matter whether or not you discussed going into business together or not, he should not choose to start a business venture with someone without talking to you first as it affects you greatly! You aren't being ridiculous in feeling what you're feeling, however you sound a bit immature by calling yourself "gay", it's inappropriate to use the term that way. Perhaps you should watch "I think I love my wife" with Chris Rock as it sounds like your situation!!!

I am sorry. The first step is to talk to your husband about it. Confront him and tell him how you feel. When people are mad they sometimes blow the problem WAY out of proportion. This IS a big deal, but talk to him before you come to conclusions.

spiritualgrowth79

From my experience, my Husband started having lunch with someone on his route, he didn't tell me about her until I found out he was talking to her on our vacation, he said they had a lot in common and started to have lunch together first as friends but one thing lead to another and he was having an affair with her, we are now separated.

I trusted my husband, he lied over and over to me, not wanting to hurt me, but he wanted her in the end.

It's hard, to live your life honestly, you have to have trust, without that you have nothing, maybe chasing after him will let her know you will put up a fight, surprise him, do things special for him, let him know your concerns in a good way without judging or assuming there is anything to worry about. If you two have good communication he should understand, that you want to be apart of this area of his life. I wish you the best.

Nena S

I agree with many of the answers you got already.
This is NOT good -and there are red flags all over the place!

If you love your husband, then keep your eyes and ears open.
I've never been the "follow -your- husband- to-see -if -he's -cheating" type; but I don't think you should ignore what is in front of you. ... This is not right and you know it!!!

He is your husband, and you should be his best friend.
He shouldn't be spending time with another woman.

Another woman is a potential mistress/lover; so get your act together and be ready in case he is already involved with her! I hope you don't have kids.
Sorry to hear about this.

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