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♥EvaBby
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i would feel upset and feel that he needs to grow up and pay attention to realtiy |
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hazelkatana
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I would rather have my man at home playing video games than at a bar or strip joint cheating on me. |
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jamers
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Some people are just into this. Try this: get interested in it and learn to play competitive games and kick his ****. You can make deals like "if i win tonight, you give me a massage" or something. My fiance and I play nintendo EVERY night before bed and its our ultimate bonding time. You gotta do some things that make him happy too and in this case, this is his hobby. Join in and have some fun and maybe him seeing you doing so will sink in and make him realize he should be doing some other things with you and the family. |
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Chrys
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I'd dump him...he won't grow up and you can't change people..you have a life to live, so do it. |
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Mrs. T
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my husband does the same and so do i join in the fun there are a lot of great PC and console games out there. maybe since you were seperated already b4 there is another issue. besides he is spending time w/the kids. that is admirable at least he didnt kick them out of the room and ignore them. |
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Big D
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Depends on how much he does it. This stuff can get pretty addictive. If it's more then like an hour-and- a-half a day, I'd be concerned. If it's less then, come on, can a guy have a hobby :) |
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bibliophile31
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I think he needs to be treated like a child if he's going to act like one. Maybe you could discuss limiting his time in front of the game.... just like you'd do with your kid.
I feel for you.... I don't think you are overreacting. That must be horrible. |
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practice_what_u_preach
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my bf plays video games alot to. We broke up for three months and he decided his comp won't keep him warm at night. It is not a good thing that he is getting ur kids into it. Its an addicting habit. You need to tell him its causing problems in ur relationship or let him only play a certain amount of time. It sounds childish but he is acting like a child he needs to get back to reality or he will lose you |
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mik2222001
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go out and buy some camping or fishing gear for the whole family. just get them out of the house and do something together that is not attached to cables and a controller.
that is really no way to live when there is so much out there to see and do that is real.
best of luck. |
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Aeri
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Your husband sounds like my older brother. My brother does nothing but play video games. He still lives with our parents, he has no job and only helps around the house if he's forced to. He spends all is money and all his time on video games. It isn't a hobby, it's an addiction. I used to actively play video games, but I stopped because I realized that there were better things to do with my time and that I was just wasting away when I played them.
I think it's terrible for children to play video games. You shouldn't let your husband teach them to play them. It's not good for them and they could easily become addicted to the games as well.
If I was you, I would sell all of his game systems and video games. He would be incredibly pissed off, but it's for the best. |
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Expl. Lt. Beckner
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Talk to him, If he doesn't listen and only worrys about pleasing him self and spending no money on you, then you should go find a gentleman and dump him |
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Denise M
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I know how I felt.
4 years of EverQuest.
When it came to "The GAME or ME", he chose me.. but with much resentment..and anger..and he went through withdrawal that eventually ended the marriage.
If he can't pick on his own, it's time to leave him alone.
and I'm not one to give up easily.
treat it like any other addiction. He has to figure out what is more important and fix it.
no, it's NOT just like watching TV .. he's not better because he's not at the bars or out with the boys. He is addicted, and it needs to be fixed, or you need to move on, or you need to understand that the addiction is more important than anything else and you'll have to live with that.
that's tough love...I hate it as much as you. |
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amf_penguins85
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Video games are fun! They provide a way for him to unwind after work. Although, you should suggest to him that there are times for video games and times for other stuff (fun stuff!). Suggest going out sometimes. If you go to a pool hall, there will be fun things to do and it is an enjoyable time.
If he still doesn't want to stop, start playing with him. I would suggest getting a Wii. It is easier for a person with no video game skills to pick up, and it's a lot of fun. Plus, you can think of it as exercise. So, you have fun spending time with your man and you get a workout. |
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Well, it depends. How bad is the problem? Is it even a problem or are you just feeling neglected? I don't think there's anything wrong with him playing them as long as that's not ALL he's doing and he's still playing his part in the family/as your partner. He needs to find a balance and make sure he is taking care of everything else before he wastes hours on the games. |
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vista
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i think this has to do with your earlier separation. I think you should really resolve that problem. or any other problem...Men are usually a flighter (not a fighter) when it comes to conflict. Whether the conflict is within himself or with other people. video games is just one of his way to flight the anxiety feeling that he felt. So...you need to make him listen to you and you two should talking appropriately without games. talk to counselor if needed. Good luck... |
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mom2babycolin
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I play with my husband.
FFXI ftw |
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Deborah G
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at least he is at home... with you and the kids and not out and about at the bars.... guys have their thing girls have theirs. |
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catsangel777
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Ask him if he could put aside a time during the week for his games, or give you a day to be together. |
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sessa
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GIRL,GIRL,GIRL!!!!!
I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT SOME TIMES I WANT TO TELL HIM THOSE ARE GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE...LOL!!
BUT YOU KNOW WHAT EVERYONE NEEDS THEIR "ME TIME".
SO I DONT REALLY TRIP.
BUT WHEN HE WANTS SOME THEN THATS MY ME TIME!! |
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sunny-d alright!
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No offense, but he sounds like a loser. I grew out of video games already, and I'm a 21 year old male. It's fine to play the occasional video game and whatnot, but to make it your only hobby??
Tell him to pick up the guitar or something more useful. |
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kokopelli
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Tell him he is either married to you or married to the video games. Tell him to pick one or the other and give him 10 seconds to decide. If he hems and haws and makes a fuss, file for divorce. |
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Grace
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It's really annoying and I'd go mad if I were in your shoes... but it's his hobby and maybe you should accept that... especially that you're making good money so he's not doing it on behalf of the responsibility of the household. |
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sunnyfey
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I've been in that situation before...a few times actually. And I always whined and complained about the video games and it always seemed to big a big part of the relationships ending. I started dateing another guy also into video games, and finally i was asked if i could play too. You want to talk about a guy lighting up like it was christmas morning. I started playing games more and more with him..hell he started helping me cook and do other things around the house. He started buying tons of multi player games and we spend alot of time playing them together, you'd be surprised how much fun it is and how you can really bond over them! Now we have Wii parties almost once a week with all our friends..it dosent cost any money if other people bring food and drink too and everyone has a blast...i even converted some of the other girlfriends to play with us. And we all look forward to it every week now. |
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Kimberly
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you said it yourself.... it's a hobby. who cares if it's basketball, golf, painting, cars, whatever. it's his free time, let him do what he wants! |
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Danielle P
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well i doubt this will ever stop. its an addiction just like any other. so i would say if you cant beat em join em. who knows you might actually have fun. if not well then you have a serious problem. |
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Blondee
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HAHA My H2B does the same thing. He gets home from work and plays his video games. And yes, he as every NEW game and game console ever made! It is quite annoying, but we make it work. He plays his games and I read while layin in his lap. It's actually kinda nice. But I do get mad and ask him to stop playing EVERY night, so we have nights to ourselves. He realizes what he's missing and makes an effort to stop playing. But in your case, you two have kids and that's another level. Why don't you tell him how you feel? or maybe start doing something every night that bugs him and see what happens? I don't know, not to stoop to his level but you need to do something to make him see what he's wasting his evenigns on! I did that with my H2B and it worked :) Good luckl girl! |
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