Husband refuses to share password with wife?

grayure

It's OK. It would be like reading someone's diary. Sometimes people need to know they have privacy even if they never abuse it.

I have run an online counselling group in the past and my wife participates in a professional forum which is supposed to be confidential. It is perfectly right that we don't know each others' passwords for those because the others who confide in us need to know that's respected.

pixie babeee

would you give him your password?

Look Away, I'm Hideous

he is hiding something

~Snizz~

LOL

I dont know what to say, on one hand I think he should have his privacy on the other hand I agree with you!!!

I'm going to beat my husband's pw out of him!! (evil laughter)

C_DOGG

If you don't care then what is the big deal. I think it is healthy for people to have some privacy in a relationship. Only of course if it is not hurting their mate.

Jedi Chef

I gave my wife all my passwords, but I have nothing to hide. He could feel you "think" there's something there, and He doesn't think you trust him. Share with him your side of the story. If he cares, he'll listen. If there is something to hide, then He has an issue. Passwords are personal, but a marriage is a trust thing. I trust my wife, and I give her all mine so she can learn to trust me. Hope it helps.

Violet Pearl

My husband doesn't share his, I don't share mine. I don't ask, he doesn't ask. I trust him and don't feel the need to invade his privacy.
If you're suspicious, bear in mind that even if you have his password, he might have another email account. It's better to be trusting and respect him.

â™¥dreaneniâ™¥

I think you should know it. Why not if he doesn't have anything to hide and as long as you aren't questioning his every move. My husband has my passwords and I have his.

lolagrl

He is hiding something. Change your password so he doesn't know it, and see what he does.

_________

Obviously he has something to hide.

But we don't always want the cold hard facts.

thats like someone who claims hes innocent but refuses to take a lie detector test. If you're innocent, whats the harm??

Katie

Why do you want it? I would never ask for my husband's password. I could find it out in other ways if I was that mistrusting of him.

If you think you need it, then I'd say you have a bigger fish to fry.

purple

Sounds like he's hiding something. There is no secrets in marriage. There is privacy but this ain't it. This is a secret because there is something he doesn't want you to know.

abc

well you do care since you are asking......it's not that he doesn't want to confide in you, it's that he has email he doesn't want you to read......

ivanovik11

because it's his and just because you're his wife he doesn't have to share every aspect of his life with you and this is one he prefers to not share. it's like giving your best friend your credit card number.

Curious George

Privacy

Hokie_Pokey

He has a right to privacy.

I asked my husband "If I asked for your password, would you give it to me?" He said "Yes" and that was enough for me. I didn't actually ask for it cause I trust him.

pinkpanther

I think it is allright he needs his privacy, id you really love him, trust him

star

I'd be angry - and suspicious - too.

Madame Towel of the P&S Brothel

Eh well I'm that kind of person. Not that I'm doing anything wrong, or I don't trust the person.. Just how I am.

Bride2Be-10/3/2009

Even though everyone should have his/her own privacy, you are his wife, therefore should be allowed to know his password. You can do a lot of shady things with email, so I would be suspicious. You should ask him why he does now allow you to have it, and tell him why it bothers you.

mississippi08

he is hiding something

mommy+2

i think he is hiding something from you.

jam

that's weird...my bf gave me his password and we are not even in an official relationship (like husband and wife)
he could be hiding something or scared that someone from his past might start e-mailing him and that you would see it

dragon

you know maybe he does have some thing to hide. like a surprise for you and he's just trying to get a little info on some thing to surprise you. some time you ladies make it so hard for us guys to buy you a gift of plan a special night because you have to know every thing that going on just relax and trust your man.

DuckY

You are wrong, the mere fact is that you don't trust him enough to give him his space. If you say you trust him and that trust is not the reason why you want it, then why dwell on it. And if you don't trust him then talk to him about the behavior that he is doing that brings these feelings of mistrust up. This shouldn't be a concern. Unless you are not being completely honest.

Sandy Ego

I would be shocked if my husband demanded to know my passwords. I can care less if he looks at my e-mail (he often comes up to scratch my back while I'm reading or typing), but for him to demand to know my private passwords would be unacceptable. We respect each other's privacy.

I don't think it's a big deal to know each other's passwords, but I feel that if you respect each other you will not make such petty demands of each other. Pick your battles.

lovesallanimals

he is your husband and you are both to respect each others authorities

Jessica

He Is Hiding Something.
I Consider Hacking His Account(=

Mr. Taco

Discussing just his email here? I agree with him. Even if he is not up to anything, he has a right to privacy. He could write to his mom and gripe about you on a bad day. He could have a surprise trip to Venice planned for you some day that he does not want you to see. He could just be talking guy talk to his friends. It is none of your business.

Now, if you have a REASON to think that he is up to something, THEN you have a valid problem. If there is a reason, other than this one thing, that makes you think that he may be cheating or hiding money or something of that sort, then I think you have something to worry about. But this in itself is not a real issue unless you make it one... and then the problem is likely YOU.

lifecryme

Why are you worried he's cheating on you? do you think he's sending secretive messages to a fellow co-worker or doing the spitzer move? Maybe he's just sensitive about what he has in his email. Unless you think he's cheating you shouldn't go into his personal stuff. I wouldn't want my wife watching everything i'm doing and checking all my emails my phone messages and what not. that would make me think she doesn't trust me after all those years of marriage. But maybe he just needs some SPACE some PRIVACY ISSUES.

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