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ladyren
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You bet.... tell him to help her get back to her country, or you leave... tell him to "pick it!!!" |
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Jacie
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That is ridiculous. I would divorce someone before I let their ex move in. Put your foot down. |
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Jami W
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OMG you did the right thing in my opinion. Do they have children together? It's not your/his job to take care of this woman. Having another woman live in your home, especially an ex is, in my opinion, a recipe for disaster. |
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xxxshannon1971xxx
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IS HE GONNA LET YOU ALLOW AN EX TO MOVE IN ALSO??? |
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Cassie
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You tell him that either he respects you and your feelings or you are going to leave him. You don't deserve to be in a situation like that and you don't deserve to have your feelings pushed aside. Stand up for yourself and if he can't respect you, he doesn't deserve you. That is screwed up that he would even ask that. |
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Rene
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Normally I say that a couple needs to compromise. However, I do believe he is asking too much of you. I would feel uncomfortable if my husband asked a woman to live with us that he even went on one date with, much less was married to. If I were you, I would stand my ground. If you give in on this, there's no telling what unwelcome doors that will open. |
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Sandy Ego
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I would be filing for divorce right about now.
Your husband's ex can't be your responsibility. He sounds like a bully; I'm sure this isn't the first example of the unreasonable behavior - and if you stay, it won't be the last. |
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comfortable0
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If you really don't want her living with you, which you really shouldn't, stay firm about it. She's his EX WIFE... I'm not quite understanding why he cares so much about her life? He has a new life... one with you, he should be caring about that life. You might want to sit down and really talk with him. Tell him how it makes you feel that he cares so much about her life. Be honest and open... its the only thing you can do. If he's worried about her that much, maybe he could loan her some money so she can find a hotel or some place to stay that doesn't involve intruding on your life. But definitely don't do something you don't want to do, no matter what. |
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Mel
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your the new wife in his life so you opinions and feelings should come first not his ex wife. she's and ex for a reason now isn't she? first she wants to move in with you next she'll try to take your husband back. don't let yourself be a pushover |
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Michele
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Tell him to go get another house and move her in there, then file for divorce. |
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balls&&wieners
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he sounds immature and he needs to learn where the limits are.. |
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jude
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he is trying to manipulate u into doing what he wants u to do, but bringing another woman into your marriage will doom it. she is his ex wife, and needs to remain his ex wife and don't fall for what he is saying don't listen to him or it will bring u only misery. if he wants to be with his ex, pack his bags, but don't let her move in. u owe her nothing and its up to her to get a new job, its not up to u to be a charity. |
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Melissa
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That's just crazy. There's no way in hell I would let my husbands ex come live with us. I think your husband is an a$$ for even suggesting this to you and then getting upset over your answer.
If she is in this country legally she can do what eveyone else in this country is doing...go on unemployment and look for another job. It's tough for everyone right now.
Insane... |
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what
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Ask him how would he like if your ex came to live with yall. Chances are he wouldn't. Don't get mad and start accusing him of stuff. Things work much better when two people have a better understanding as to why the other feels the way they do. Sit down and tell him sincerly how you feel and why you feel that way. Hopefully he'll understand but then you have to listen to his side too. |
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Priek
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tell him to wake up.
It's a ridiculous request. |
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Amanda
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Tell him to put the shoe on the other foot.
How would he like one of your ex's to come live with you.
That should stop him in his tracks if he loves and respects you.
On the other hand, if he doesn't care, I'd offer up your side of the bed to his ex and move on..... |
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RN2B
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Absolutely not! Apparently he isn't the man you thought he was. How absurd for him to even consider it. I'm sure he will always have feelings for her, as she is his ex, but it was over when they got a divorce and especially when he re-married. She needs to find someone else who can help her out. |
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mimi
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ANYONE who wants a job can find a job! I do not care if that means flipping burgers! That was a very unreasonable request. |
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Cyclist 2300
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no person in their right mind.... would allow the ex to move in and live with them........
why in heck would he expect his wife to allow it........
your hubby is crazy.... if he thinks you should allow this.....
apparently .... he wants both of you...... |
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rivasj27
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I think you may be over reacting. Exwifes don't have to be fantasy lovers..they could just be simply friends.
He wants to help her.. I think its sweet. |
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Lady Freyja
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Did you ask him how she plans on earning her keep? Since he is under no obligation to support her. You did the right thing by telling him no. If they have kids together I would let him know that the children are more than welcome to come live w/ the two of you. Then she would only have to be responsible for herself. Maybe she should return to her country of orgin if she still has family there. |
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Dan
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that would be strange at best. I would also say no to that situation... |
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shellybelly0
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Tell him he can contact the local human services department for assistance (in her state).
He can contact a local church for assistance. (In her state).
He can go to yellowpages.com to get the phone numbers.
She must have made a friend or two she can contact for help. She is smart enough to use the phone, he should suggest that she make a couple of phone calls to find assistance. |
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Angel
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Sounds like your husband is being unreasonable and also may want his cake and eat it too if you follow...
Do not give in to his tantrums, you will be sorry.. YOUR Home is not big enough for two women, and you should tell your husband that..
Also ask him if it would be OK for you to invite your ex- to come and live with you also..
If he is going to allow his ex-wife to move in it is only fair that you be allowed to move in an ex as well...
Want to see how fast he changes his mind?
Good Luck |
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my_son_wants_to_know
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That is suspicious. Really it is. Do they have kids together? Yuu are his wife, NOT HER so why is he mad at you? I think there is more to this than we know. If there are kids involved I might understand his frustration, but just her? It is time to find out the truth. Tell him he needs to respect your wishes and your home. If she has no one else in her life to help her that is weird, and it seems like she might be manipulating him. |
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bride's mom
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Tell him no, never, no way ....learn to say it in other languages if you need to, but don't let him bring his ex into your home! If she's been divorced for 3 years & can barely speak English, that's her problem. There are so many places in this country that would have helped her. IF she had learned, maybe she could have found a better job. It sounds like she's looking to get her meal ticket back at your expense. Unless they had children, he no longer has any responsibility for her after this long. And if he really loves you, he should understand how you feel & why you feel that way. If he won't listen to you, try to get him into counseling with you. If that doesn't work, you may be in for a lot of heartache. Good luck - you may need it! |
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tee
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is your hubby serious wow men have some nerve these days tell yor hubby hes crazy if my hubby tried to a stunt like that then on top of that got mad at me hed be out the door. doesnt she know hes married to you why is she trying to intrude women are scandelous too |
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llewis001
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stand for something or fall for everything. |
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sant
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Yeah get the hell out of that situation, because it's going to get worse.DO NOT let your husbands ex wife move into your home. and i hope you are not the woman he thinks you are. |
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mcdonaldsnuggetaustin
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Tell him you were not born yesterday. And Hell no to the ex living with you two. The nerve to think he could bring a other woman into your home . If he wants to help her out he should help get her a job and show her how to fill out unemployment forms or get her a one way ticket home. |
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wongcito
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He feel like sorry for her, or guilty and want her pay back.
If you want help your husband, ask him about other ways to help, maybe pay one month rent w/ utility`s or found her job and give some places to stay like roommates (news paper).
Best way for you home is help but no be in. |
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