Husband wants to move into a house with another couple so we can get out of debt.?

My husband is in the navy, one of his fellow shipmates is getting a house and they have come up with the brilliant idea of us sharing the house. My husband has alot of debt that I honestly dont know if we will ever get out of at the rate we are going but if we did this we would be spending a quarter on living expenses as we are now and really be able to get out of debt. I am 100% against this idea. But as I think about it I feel like I'm being selfish. Anyone have an oppion on what I should do? I think it would casue so many problems, I'm a very private person, very OCD person when it come to neatness and the way I like things. And furthermore he would be gone on deployment for 9 months out of the year we would be there so I would be the one having to deal with it. anyone have any expierence living with another couple, how'd it work out?

hurts so good

sorry but to be honest this is something you need to talk over with your husband. im sure there would be some good in it and some bad in it but between you both you need to weigh up the options and together make the decision

Mrs. Heather Schabby

I wouldn't recommend it unless absolutely necessary. You can definitely make it work if need be, however I feel it is immensely important for a married couple to have privacy in their own home.

Plus, if you moved in with them, it would be considered "their" home, would it not? I understand you'd be paying half the expenses, however it is in their name and therefore you'd most likely have to abide by their rules if you got into an argument or what not.

The plus side is while the husbands are deployed 9 months our of the year, you and the other wife would at least have a little company and not be so lonely.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Happy-2

If your husband is in the Navy, you could save a lot of money by living on base. You should look into that.

nottroyswife

Don't do it!!!! It will ruin the friendship. You don't think it will but it does. I just went through it. Don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!

â™« Mad Luv â™«

very found of this idea!
tho it will be hard for you and your ocd
however it's all about how you set your expecations!

why not have a meeting and talk about who will do what in the house if you should move in!
explain what things bugg you and if they are willing to help do their part.
place EVERYTHING ..
the most imporant thing here other then above its to ensure that you and the homeowners get along. if your going to be their more then he!

the working out bit depends on your personalities together!
it would be like renting a room or something!
as long as everyone is considerate it should be fine!
but that's something your going to have to sit in and see!
why not try it for 1 month prior to jumping in head first!
you will know better at that point!

snik

We lived with other couples once or twice. It worked out well, but neither was that long of a time period. My x and I are both pretty laid back so there were no problems. A year is a long time tho.

Lori F

I think it would be a huge mistake! You'll lose all privacy. What about sharing the kitchen, living room.

Jazzmin27

Wau! This set up will not work for you,you won't be happy and the other couple won't be happy either. Get a one room apartment, put all your staff in storage, or get rid of it. You need to keep your little home no matter how small it is, it would be your privacy and your refugee. Your husband's idea will not work for the marriage.

DILLON

Living with another couple is not easy but not impossible either. You need a lot of understanding and ability to compromise. You have to get out of debt and this seems to be the only way if you use the money you save towards payment of your debt. Look at the bright side, when your husband is deployed you will have some company and won't feel lonely.

cindy

The only way it would work is if you each have individual private areas.

A shared kitchen is fine, but you need your own entertainment area adn sleeping quarters as much as you need a private bathroom.

If any of those things are missing, the only other way it would work out is if you and the other female are very close friends. If you just know each other because of your husbands, it will be a mess.

Just because my husband has a very good friend, doesnt not mean that I am best buds with that mans wife or girl friend. This works opposite also. You cannot expect your husband to be best buds with your best girlfriends husband either.

bottom line. Your hubby is going to be gone for long periods of time.
Find a room mate situation with private areas that suits you. Your hubby will adapt while he is in town for short times. Living on your own sounds like it just isnt an option due to large debt. Maybe moving back with parents or siblings may be a better move for you.

noitall

That would be extremely hard. I can empathize with you. I think it would put you under added stress and possibly your marriage. I would look at other alternatives, maybe an apartment with less rent? A smaller house? A consolidation loan for your debt to knock the payment down to one? Anything but what he's considering. Good luck.

smallcocklongtongue4444

well, maybe you can sleep with the other guy and you'll save even more...i think it sounds like an ok idea

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