Husbands best friend, attracted to me?

love_inc2000

This is the third time youve asked this question.

What answer do you keep waiting on ?

Do you want to cheat on your husband ?

I think you already have and are looking for reasons to justify your actions...otherwise, why repeat the same question over and over and over ?

Have a nice day !!!

NYGIRLMIAMI

STAY AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Proud Spainard 88

You are walking a very fine line at the moment. As adults mature they look back upon there wants from their past. You need to speak with this Man and make him aware that you are married and that you do value your friendship with him. His reaction we be one of withdrawl from your Husband which points the finger at you. What exactly did you say to Keith? He has broken all ties with me. He has no reason to be upset with me over any issue. Have you spoken to keith without my knowledge? Do you see where this is leading to. A path of disaster either way that you turn and you are the innocent victim.

switchmistress

dont sound to me like he has over stepped his boundaries, he just seems to be a very nice guy, unless he steps over the line which to me he hasnt yet, then i would worry bout your reading more into it than there is..maybe its you that has the interest in the friend

phorwanted

All I can say is it is always nice to have a wing man...poop happens and it is usually an easy transition from one friend to another.
Do nothing to acknowledge this "extra" feeling you think he is giving. You don't mention if he is or is not married or in a committed relationship.
Don't burn any bridges.

He may or may not be attracted to you but regardless, you need to send off vibes that say NO.

Why does he touch your ribs when you are alone in a room and why do you allow this?

For the sake of everybody involved, never allow yourself to be alone with him and watch your eye contact/body language.

byrnechas

The touching thing is the first step to breaking the barrier. Try to avoid being alone, at least let your rigid body language send a signal. Let your husband notice his advances and your discomfort...should resolve it.

Kitty

Well, maybe he IS attracted to you. Gut feelings are often right. But don't you think things are best left just as they are - unsaid? There will be people who are attracted to you - and you may even feel attracted to them. But you can't focus on it too much, or it's going to become a problem.

Raj

i am sure you must be flatterred by this attention, there is nothing wrong in some one having a crush for you but it solely depends on you whether you want to take it further and if not then enjoy the attention.

mchel

If you feel that he's attracted to you i think the best thing is to stay away from him.If you can't then i think it's time you told your husband about this.I think you should gather up evidence first because if you don't it might sound like it's you who's attracted to him.Good luck

i'd keep my distance if i were you...

Bill

I'd presume he had a crush on you but was smart enough to keep it to himself. All you can do is the same thing kind people do when they know someone's crushin' on them...pretend you don't notice. It'll either go away or he'll do something inappropriate and need a smackdown.

You are allowed to say "hands off the merchandise" if he does this rib-touching thing. Once should be sufficient.

Walt

You may rent a movie that has the same situation, not sure what that is because I do not rent movies, and invite him over to watch a movie. While the movie is playing you can make comments in front of hubby and his friend about how much that bothers you and you do not understand why people would do that. Hubby will likely not catch on but the friend will definitely get the point, especially if you cut him a dirty look when you are talking, Then it is brought out in the open with attention being brought to the matter, then if he keeps on, tell him you are telling hubby. Best of luck

Child Of Light

To be safe and not go through a whole lot of embarrassment in your life (which I don't think anybody needs). Stay close to your husband and do not flirt with your husbands friends flirtatious comments. Remember that you and your husband are one, "there is no room for another". If you follow this counsel you will continue to have a wonderful marriage "otherwise" your present marriage could turn into a total disaster. Don't make a tremendous mountain out of a mole hill:)

fox_maple

I would definitely NOT confront anyone directly about it! Saying something to your husband is going to cause problems between you guys as well. Saying something to the friend is gonna create an awful lot of tension that you don't want to deal with. I would just bide my time and wait for the friend to do something that is over the line. At that point I would say "What the hell was that?" He may spill his guts (and then it's all his problem) or he may get the point that you don't feel that way about him and back off. He may never say anything. Even if he does have feelings for you, as long as he doesn't do anything about it, I wouldn't put any more thought into it. People can't help the way they feel, but he does have to respect you, your husband, and your marraige.

sa_183327

He most likely wants you. He would probably never do anything about it. He is probably single and wanting to settle down and jealous that your husband has you. He prolly wants the same things he has. Don't get yourself stuck alone with him ever, he may confess and then it's all over. I would do one of two things. 1) get him set up on a date with someone that you know and think he would like and double with your husband. 2) stay away and when he comes near you make excuses to walk away or make excuses to get him to walk away. It's a tough predicament. I had a bit of a crush on my buddies wife once, but i realized that it wasn't her I wanted, it was what they had I wanted. She was pretty and a great girl, but the more I looked at it, I realized that we had nothign in common other than her husband as friends and that i wanted in my life what they had.

SAN DIEGO !!!

he want you !

shellshell

I'd tell him you might be taking it the wrong way but his behavior is making you uncomfortable.

d_eic

Almost the same thing happened to me but it was my friends WIFE that was attracted to me. I got a little too close. NOTHING physical ever happened between us but the emotional side was even more traumatic to BOTH our spouses. Keep your distance. KEEP YOUR DISTANCE.

Twigits

OK first of all if you are just a temp, then she was probably covering your tail and doing her job. In no way shape or form is that discrimination. She didn't say "he don't know because he is Black", did she? Don't be so sensitive, being new and ignorant of policies is hardly grounds for discrimination.

I think you very well could be right and he could have a thing for you. As long as he doesn't do or say anything to make you feel uncomfortable I just wouldn't say anything, because what if you are wrong?

Now if anything does or has happened that you don't like, you are going to have to mention it to someone. If it's something that you do not think is a huge deal but you would like it to stop, I would ask this friend in private if he could stop because it makes you uncomfortable. If he ends up doing something bigger like outright hitting on you, you will definately need to tell your husband. This guy is suppose to be your husband's friend. Hitting on his wife is not a good friend.

I do have one question. What exactly do you mean by he touches your ribs?

gypsy g

Good, keep your mouth shut about it. No reason to say anything aloud about it. So long as it stays innocent its ok. No harm no foul.

nwnativeprincess

Set your boundaries a little more firmly.

hazeltine4

Ummm... That's how my divorce came about. It started innocently, and then he started getting nicer and nicer to her, and then started making her question her happiness ("the grass is greener..."), and after a few years, she was convinced I was a horrible father and husband, and that he could be a better father to my kids and a much better husband to her! Of course, my teenage kids say right through the guy... They hated him! She started officially dating him the day I got served papers. 5 years later, they have broken up (no marriage) and she realizes what an a-s-s he was. My kids really resented her relationship with him, and have been very close to me.

Oh -- his son and my youngest were friends -- up until this past Spring when he convinced his son that he needed to date my son's girlfriend of three years (Freshman through Junior years). Like father, like son!

btw -- this guy has absolutely no friends now, and his only child goes off to college next fall. We all hope he will just move away for good!

So -- do NOT get drawn into this "friend" and his advances. And, yes -- he IS making advances. Just be cordial, but stop the hugs!

alilswt

always go with your gut feeling and just be careful don't overreact but do keep your guard and if something is to come from this tell the hubby asap

free_angel

I'd ask him and very loudly, "What the hell are you doing?? Touch my ribs like that again and I'll break your damn hands!"

~NOT IN LOVE~

All I can say is................."STAY AWAY!!!!"

!truth!

Coveting his best friend's wife, nice guy.

snoopy

If bringing up your concern would ruin the relationship, it is not a "great friendship" to begin with.

You're old enough to know better than to start playing these games. Sure you are probably flattered but don't regress to your teenage years. That won't end well.

Shock and Awe

It is quite normal for a husband's friend to have a crush on his friend's wife. As long as he doesn't grab at a "hot-spot" or try to kiss you (not the casual on the cheek) I wouldn't worry about it. But that doesn't seem to be the issue here. You are the issue. You have to admit it, you're curious! And that curiosity and mystery has sparked an attraction with you. This can be dangerous...don't act on it, and don't go into rooms with him alone or you're a "gonner" already.

aimstir31

Sounds like the man is jealous of what his friend has. You must be a good catch. Please don't lead this man on. Stay quiet and stay away from him. If you love your husband you must do this. Good luck and God bless.

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