I'm Depressed & exhausted. I'm taking my kids & leaving my husband TODAY!PLEASE,any words of advice? ))) :

beemusic

Grace.

I've been in an emotionally abusive with bouts of physical violence for the last three years. I left him in May.

You are doing the right thing. And you have my support 150%.

The only advice I can offer you is to not blame your pain on your depression and to meet it head on in life. I joined an excersize class and force myself to go. It is a distraction as much as it is for health reasons. Keep your sights on your personal improvements that YOU need for YOU. Might you consider going back to school one day? Keep your eyes on it, if so. make it your reward.

You've got lots of love from NC.

Please keep me posted. You can e-mail me. I am interested in helping to support you. I can be part of your network.

LOVE TO YOU!
Don't look back. The world is waiting and i'm so glad that you are ready.

ouachita

Don't look back.

Al Coholic

Secure your financials. I've seen both sides of it get screwed even on cordial breakups. Maybe having a friend or two with you may help in case it gets ugly too.

waia2000

Get as much help and support as you can from friends and relatives. Good luck!

gcason

Don't look over your shoulder and don't EVER, EVER go back.

sydgoldkid

good luck hun, if you need to talk, email me....i hope its ok....good for you for doing whats right for your family though

Cindi H

more power to u!!!

AdultMale

GO! if that is what you want. You are an adult and if you really feel that this is best for you and your kids, just do it. All the best.

steve.c_50

Yeah. You are now the pack leader, so take care of yourself first. This means adequate food,drink,and rest. If you fail to take care of yourself the whole thing will come down before you.

Lovin' Life

Just do what you can with what you have and get some rest. This could be a very tiring situation for you all. Make sure you have some time off to spend with your kids and explain to them what is going on (age permitting) Get some family to help you out also, that is what they are there for. Talk to someone. Pray.

I_Love_McRedneck

Run as FAR as you can get and never look back!

4 CHOP

Well i can say you deserve better than him, you need to give yourself some credit as you are very aware of the situation, an now are doing something about it... You an your kids DO NOT need to be around a husband an farther who puts you thought that.. A guy who is like that either needs HELP, or needs to go to jail, no guy should very touch a women. Good luck an hope all goes well. I am here if you need to talk.

Spring

Good luck.
Email me if you need help.
Make sure you got all the important paperwork with you (birth certificates, SS cards, etc).

DolceVita is back!!

Hey Grace, i am sorry i had no idea you and your family were living under these kinds of conditions.

It looks like you already know what you have to do and you are doing it. The only thing i would say is please please dont give him another chance. From what you have said it sounds like he has used up all his chances already. I have a friend in this situation - not a close friend but a friend all the same. He has hospitalised her, broken her jaw, her nose etc, adn she is still with him. Her family gave up on her, i guess they couldnt bear to see her being abused anymore. Please dont allow yourself to be fooled by him anymore.

The other piece of advice is that you should reach out to your family - i think you said you had lost contact with them? If there is ANYONE you can speak to/ lean on, please do it. Your family will come through for you.

And please, never look on what you are doing as a negative thing. STAYING is a negative thing, going is the best thing you could do for you and your little ones.

I wish you the best of luck sis.

Mean Carleen

Uh, Best of luck and you and your kids will be just fine.

prozacfairy

you're a freaking hero.

courtney? ? ?

You go gurl !

â™¥Juliette Capuletâ™¥

i have nothing to say..but good luck with you rlife!!best wishes for your children..may god bless you all!!! =)))

Terraplane Blues

I think you're very brave, most people don't have the guts to get up and leave when they are that miserable.

no longer here

Oh sweeite, I'm so sorry you and your kids have been put through that. I am SO proud of you for making this decision,it shows what a brave and strong person you are. Stay strong,keep your chin up,it'll be hard(I know you know this),but its worth it as are you and your kids.Know that you are strong and smart and can do anything you set your mind to, never lose faith in yourself.WE BELIEVE IN YOU!! If theres anything you need or any way I can help,please let me know and I'll do what I can to help-(carebear_cone@yahoo.com) You and your kids are in my thoughts and prayers. Good luck, best wishes and God bless.

Cakers

Make sure you have somewhere safe and comfortable to go.
Contact good friend or family member and ask them to come around and be with you for support. Try and find a counsellor you can talk to regularly for a while.

Once you can, find a new place to settle into then contact a lawyer to discuss options.

I am so sorry honey, I wish you the best of luck and hope I have helped a little. Cuddle your kids a lot.

Cliff R

Keep a stiff upper lip. You've made the decision, that's sometimes the easy part, the hard part is sticking to it. Make sure you have a plan of action, don't just take off with no where to go. But we all know that when it's time it is time and obviously for you it is time. Good luck. If you need someone to talk to email me.

domesticbliss

Only do it if it is the best move for your kids and not just you. Kids have to come first.

Teejay

It must have been so hard for you to put up with that over these past years. You are so brave and I wish you all the best in your new life with your 3 children. I hope you find peace and happiness as you most definitely deserve it. You are a very special person and you are showing great strength.

Take Care :-)))

summer girl

i wish you the best. i hope you find what your looking for!!

mo jo 66

I don;lt really have any advice but to take care of your self and your Kids as if your getting depressed and stressing out due to your husband; it does you nor your children any good,,Go stay with a trusted family member or friend; and get your mind and body a rest which sounds like it is well needed..Good luck and take care and my prayers are with you.It Takes a brave women to take this first step; The rest come much easier,,,,Shelly

bill l

pray.GOD will guide you.

darkling

oh gods Grace. you are so brave. i hope you are ok. hope everything goes as well as it can. take care of mommy remember..cos if you don't give yourself the best care it will be harder to look after your babies. awwwwwww. HUGS!!!!
you can email me anytime.

arlene k

Plan your exit. Know where you are going and what you will do when you get there. Don't jump into nothing. Stick by your decision, and do it wisely. You don't need a worse situation than you have now.

nicole l

I wish I had your guts advice dont forget the check book then again there is no price on your sanity......

pain_of_unhappiness

LISTEN TO ME! WHENEVER AND WHEREEVER YOU FIND YOUR SUPER EXTREME HAPPINESS IN LIFE, STAY THERE !!! Once you find your happiness in life, just stay there and don't ever let go. Hang on tight! Now you know the pain of unhappiness. You should know by now, what you really want out of life in general and what you really want out of a man in general.

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