I'm a Christian and married the wrong girl - I miss my ex! She's all I can think about. Should I get a divorce?

A friend of Bill W

Dude, you made a mess out of your life. You need to talk with your pastor, and really sort out your feelings before you do another rash thing. Why do you thing breaking up with your wife who you made a promise to God and to her that you will honor her until death do you apart. Why do you think you can make it work with a person you call your ex? Be sure you do the right thing because you are on the road to ruin many people lives. God bless

Staci S

Why is she the wrong girl? You've made a commitment to your wife and you should really attemp to fix things w/ her. Maybe go to counseling at your church w/ your pastor.

redhead27

divorce isn't the "christian" thing to do... try seeking a counselor first. I think this is a case of "grass is greener" scenario.

Satanic Lily

Are you having problems with your wife? That might be the only reason you are thinking about your ex. Talk to your wife and get couples counseling before you jump to get a divorce.

If you are christian you should be used to dealing with guilt.

naughty

Yes, you should... It's not fair to your wife to make her believe that you love her if you don't.. If it were me, I would want to know the truth rather than being lead on. I wouldn't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with me when I know I could be with someone that actually appreciates me and feels the same...

Just my 2 cents

popeyetcj

you are playing russian roulette with someone Else's feelings. Your wife's. If you did not love your wife, then you should not have married her. Since you did profess to love her, then you would be living a lie. How Christian is that? If you are thinking of someone other then your wife, how christian is that? If you make half of the energy you have put towards thinking of your ex and invest that time and energy with your wife, I'll bet your marriage will take off and blossom.

Lala

yes...that wouldn't be fair.

jackielafemme

There are not wrong girls or boys, we make wrong choices. Its about us..
if youÂ´re a christian as I am, you should talk to your church leaders or counselors. Love is a decision, just take it. But one thing first,,,she is not the wrong girl, so you can always change your mind..by deciding to love her..( i dont understand how come you married her with the other girl in mind, that is not very christian thing to do, that is not being honest and coherent with your beliefs)

Chelsea L

well i thnk you think about ur ex, bc marriage is hard. you think of the more simpler days. i dont think its fair you went through marrying this girl, just to be in love with some1 else. you need to be honest with her and let her know....n unless hes been thinkin about an ex too, she gonna b P.O

*TiNK*

If she's cheating on you or mentally/physically abusive... I'd say leave her. Other than that, you made a commitment, be a man.

Babs R

thats a hard one. actually im wondering why you married her if you are still in love with your ex and you have to be other wise you wouldnt be thinking of her all the time. i think you really need to do some soul searching and make that very serious decision on your own . maybe talk to the church about it. good luck.

indulgeme

Remember why she is the Ex and get over her and start loving the girl you married.If you don't straighten up you will end up alone.

(WOMAN)

Since you said you are a Christian then you should know that GOD only allows divorce if you partner cheated on you OR if the non believer leaves you. Otherwise, you are supposed to stay in your marriage unfortunately lol.

EDIT: Oh and btw, even if you partner abuse of you physically or emotionally you can't get a divorce, only separation it's allowed but let's say you get a divorce after all then you are not supposed to get married again OR have a g/f because that's adultery. God's law.

Douglas B

If you can't honor your wife any better than what you are doing I think the bible would say you shouldn't be married.

-emi-

Don't even entertain the thought of divorce!

You did not marry the 'wrong girl'. She is the right girl because you married her. What God has put together, let no man part.

And even though you don't think you can, you CAN stop thinking about your ex.

Ask for God's forgiveness and for His help. God has promised us (in the Bible) to freely give us wisdom if we ask for it.

Talk to an older male Christian and keep yourself accountable, because even thinking about another girl is cheating!!

Also, 'loving' your wife isn't about FEELINGS. It's about a DECISION you made. Be a man and stick to your DECISION!

Georgio (I'm a dude)

What does it matter if you're christian or not.

And by the way, what does that mean anyway?

Does it mean you're super uptight and avoid using swear words?

poplock

Hmmm, -emi is right. It apears you are on the right track by first understanding you are a Christian and devorce is not right without biblical cause. This is impartant because you have the Holy Spirit living in you and you made a vow. In the world men run to the courts for a divorce but depending on where you are spiritially this could cost you greatly (not enough time to explane that). First understand that when you think about ur ex in a way that is not pleasing to God then you are being temped by you know who. Fight it. Now you have to replace that spirit with one of God. Start by focusing on what you do like about your wife. Pick one thing and think God. Search for another and think God. When those two have saturated your mind think about something or an attribute that you would love to see or expirence in/with your wife. Give this one time and listen to others who know you and your wife. They usually supply attributes about your wife that you fail to see or appreciate. The feelings you have for your Ex will not go away because she is not in the picture and can do no wrong. You and your wife are now one so even if you think she doesn't know, she can feel it. Discuss what you feel is healthy with your wife in love. B you are not alone. I was there and I know what you feel. Trust me it will get better. God bless you.

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