I'm dating a guy who's 4 years younger?

BlueSea

It would really help to know how old you are. Unless your teenagers, it really shouldn't matter. I mean if you're 18 and he's 14, ya problem but if you're both over 18 who cares? If he loves you it won't matter.

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You should be honest . . .

Julie

Depends how old you are. 4 years isnt really a big difference if you are adults. If he will seriously be upset about your age then he isnt the guy for you. Tell him the truth so the weight is off your shoulders.

Adam Ant

As long as he isn't under 18 you are fine. It isn't very cool that you lied to him about your age. My ex-wife did that to me, but when she told me I forgave her within a minute. You can do a "secret night" where neither person judges the other. He might have some whoppers that he hasn't told you.

Cary Grant

Don't worry about it. Listen to your heart.

age is a state of mind, always be truthful. if it matters to him then he isnt the right person for you..

bams0803

I think being honest with him, is really important if you REALLY care about him. Wouldn't you want to know something like that, if he weren't being honest. I think the woman being older, is def. acceptable in our soceity (you go girl!). But, like Isaid, if you REALLY care about this man and want to marry him, he needs to know the truth.

Kitty

It doesn't matter how the society feels about it, it matters how you and him feel about it. In and of itself, 4 years is not that big of an age difference. There might be some practical implications in the future - often women don't age as well as men do, and you might find yourself looking progressively older than your husband. Also, women have a shorter reproductive span. If these are not turn-offs for you, the only issue is how your b/f would feel about the fact that you deceived him about your age. I would tell him the truth a.s.a.p Explain it the best you can - but tell him. You can't build a serious relationship with a lie, however innocent, between you.

patrickmcc55

I am exactly 4 years and 20 days younger than my wife of 20 years. It absolutely makes no difference whatsoever. Given the fact that the average female lives 5 years longer than the average male, I think it is better to have a wife older than the husband.
good luck

Debbie D

When will people learn not to lie? If I were him. I would be less concerned with your age than the fact you lied to him from the start! Come clean with him and deal with whatever happens. For the record, I am 8 1/2 years older than my husband. The years don't matter because they don't matter to US. It seems that YOU are the one who has a problem with being older. Until YOU get over it, it will continue to be a problem.

x_aramus_x

I think it depends on the guy. Personally I think that a 4 year difference is perfectly acceptable.. younger or older. To me, age is just a number it's all in how old you act.. to a certain point at least. Don't worry too much about it.. if he really cares about you, it won't matter. Just tell him, if he isn't mature enough to be with a girl that's older then him, he's not the guy for you.
Good luck =)

dukalink6000

I don't think the age gap does matter, but you need to give a very detailed explanation as to why you felt it was vital to withhold this from him.

Be prepared for his to ask (and rightfully so) if there are any other secrets you are holding from him that are important to this relationship.

a_appleton

I'm 27 too and my boyfriend just turned 24. Four years really isn't that long. I think if anything you should be more worried about the lack of honesty in your relationship.

jcdunbar0312

If you already know that you should've been honest with him in the first place, why weren't you?? If you already know that there shouldn't be secrets in a relationship, why are you keeping one?? If he leaves you, would you blame him. I mean, come on!!! It would be wise to tell him the truth now before ya'll do decide to get married. In the long run if you keep this lie up it will hurt both of you, because he won't trust you and you will be stressed and depressed thinking about the "what if"s. So just talk to him and tell him the truth. If he really loves you he will forgive you. If he forgives you, you have to earn his trust back.

Being 4 years older than him doesn't matter. Age is just a number (in this case). Instead of worrying about how old he is, you need to be trying to figure out how to tell him you've been lying to him. That's the real issue.

God Bless

April

It ain't never the years, honey, it's the mileage. Assuming you are both over 18, it is of little difference. I was 5 years older than my husband, and told him twice before we were married, but he was a tad intoxicated at the times so it didn't sink in. Pretty sure he know I had a few on him anyway. He found out for sure in the minister's office, and thought it was funny how I avoided the question. We laughed at it often later. Didn't bother him a bit, but it was 4 or 5 months before he know the truth. Fess up later. If four years is a deal breaker then too bad for him. Sure it's acceptable. Women live on average more than 7 years beyond their husbands. So, you will still be a widow 3 years before you die.

Javy

How old are you? Because if you are 16 and he's 12 I believe that's a hard relation to keep. If you are 21 or at least 19 I don't see much trouble, but at the moment to tell him the truth you must consider his level of maturity, if he is mature enough and if he really loves you he'll understand, but if he doesn't love enough and his mature is low, believe me probably he'll leave you, but let me ask you, Who wants to live a lie anyways? May be this is tha chance for you to know how much mature he is and how much he loves you. What ever it happens you'll always have a 2nd. chance.

when_angels_deserve_to_die_999

i personally dont have a good background from younger guys,cause my dad was younger than my mom and he leaved us,so:-j,but if he loves you,he will accept you as you are,i think you should be honest,its up to him if he will accpet it or not,you shouldnt be worry,just tell him the truth,in best way you can,you shouldnt just call him and say:hey honey,im 4 years younger than you,little by little,you will tell him and if he didnt accpet you as you are,you cant trust him even if you live with him.take care and have fun

Wifa 4 Lifa

As long as he's 18, I really don't see a problem. Forget about what society says and the acceptance of others. Live life for yourself and no one else. If being with him makes you happy, then I say more power to you! Age is just a number, it's the maturity and responsibility that counts. Tell him the truth and always be honest. Good Luck!!!

CRYST

well you will neeeed o tell him because he is going to find out some other way. so you want him to find out from you. yes age matters when it is depending on muturity. if he really loves you then age should not matter to him.

sharon :)

i think you should tell him if you really have feelings for him how mad can he get. if he really has feelings for you he will accept it and you can get on with it with out any lies

sexyheater

Four years probably doesn't matter depending on the ages, however honesty is the most important thing. If I were him and found out that you had been lying to me the whole time I would be p*ssed. You have to tell him regardless. But be prepared for a bad reaction. Next time don't waste your time lying about your age. Imbrace it.

hello

You should tell him. Chances are he will find out eventually anyway, so he should find out from you and not someone else. 4 years isn't bad. I am 27 and I could see myself dating a 23 year old if he was fairly mature. My b/f is 25, we've been together 4 yrs, living together for 1 year in a house I bought.

icyhott4urmind

Man, you are over reacting. As long as you are both legal that should be enough. He's a guy and Im sure he really doesnt give a "monkeys butt". Its the 22nd century, chill.

Just Me

I was 4 years older than my first husband, and there was nothing wrong with it at the time. If he don't act like a child, then there should be nothing wrong with it, and I doubt that he will care that you are older. You do need to tell him and let him decide if he wants to stay with you, but he would be stupid if he tells you he loves you now, then you tell him that and he is upset over it. He is in love with you, not your age.. To some guys it don't really matter, my husband left me for a lady that was 12 years older so I guess I was not old enough for him...

nwnativeprincess

BE HONEST............. I AM 5 YEARS OLDER THEN MY HUSBAND.

Rockin' Mel S

It's not a big deal if you are 27, if you were 17 then that would be a problem. I'm sure if you explain to him your reasons for not being honest to begin with he's be ok with it. Four years is not that big of an age difference.

superbad~honeydip

I think that 4 years was not enough to lie about. I was dating a guy who was 2 years younger and he hid it from me for 3 years! I think that the person just feels betrayed that you could keep a lie going that long and it also makes them wonder what else they were lying about. So you should tell him ASAP but be sure to explain your reason for holding back this information. The sooner, the better and also the sooner he will be able to get it out of his mind and question your integrity-- I mean you guys are talking about marriage and he doesn't even know your real age!!
2 words- "tell him"

nan

4 yrs is not that much of a difference, as long as he's "of age" I would talk to him and fes up!

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