I'm dating a married man, I don't find it moral but I can't tell him what to do, why should I say no ?

AnswerGuy

You might consider saying no, because somewhere deep down you care about yourself. You're evidently calloused enough to allow a man to control you against your better judgment; while justifying your own immoral actions. You may think that you do not care, but you are damaging yourself. This hurt and self destruction will manifest itself. You should say no, before your risk taking behavior costs you more than you are willing to pay.

SS4 Elby

Ok ive always wondered this about ladies in general. If a man leaves or cheats on some lady to get with you. What possible sane reason do you have in your head to think he will be faithful to you?

Anyhow he is married end of conversation.

Blah Blah Blah

That's messed up. He is married and you are helping him wreck him vows. He might not be able to stay faithful, but have some respect for yourself.

Flowergirl

3 words: HE IS MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!

Duff

The reason you ask is because in the back your head there is a niggling feeling that what your are doing is wrong.

That will not go away.

"To me his wife should have been sure she could trust him 100% and forever before they got married"

- Yeah, cos people don't change over time at all and we should all be able to see into the future before we get married. It sounds like a weak justification to me. Plus, if this guy is cheating on his wife then even while if you're only dating, how can you trust him at all??

caughtup

the more i continued to read how u think the more i was able to draw my conclusion...u need therapy!!

chadmcollins1985

You should let him know that the wife he married is the one he should be committed to, not the one he and you is committing adultery with.

CrshTstDmy

Sounds like you're making excuses to rationalize something you are doing you KNOW to be wrong.

RainCloud

Would you want it done to you? If you were married, how would you feel if your husband was cheating on you?

Frenchie

He's married. Put yourself in his wife's shoes. What you're doing is wrong to the millionth degree and you're just as bad as he is for letting it go on knowing that you're helping him be unfaithful to his wife.

loves himâ˜®âœŒ more than â“’â“žâ“žâ“šâ“˜â“” S Â°

you should say no for the same reason a girl in your future should say no to your new husband.

you reap what you sow.

do unto others as they would have you do unto them

it's never too late to start being good

~blessss

spillin paint

You can try to justify it in any way you want but the fact of the matter is, it's wrong and you KNOW it's wrong. Obviously the guy is a cheater and sooner or later, youre gonna be in his wife's position. You may not know her but where is your compassion? How would you feel if it was your husband cheating with some B***h who doesn't care that she is ripping a family apart? You have just as much fault in ruining their marriage as he does, if not more cuz you probably went after him.

tinkerbell22

What the hell is wrong with you??? He is MARRIED you know a commitment that he stood before GOD and his family and promised to love, honor, and obey...etc to his wife and your ruining that! You are the reason that marriages end and couples break up regardless if you can tell him what to do or not do you have any standards? Morals? Integrity? Why would you want to be someones mistress? Doesnt make much sense to me and you are trying to mess up something that GOD put together it doesnt matter if his wife can trust him its not up to you to decide!! Yes you should be blamed and people are crazy these days so how do you know that his wife doesnt already know about you and that she could simply be waiting for the right time to approach you and the outcomes arent looking nice at all!!! You need to back off and find your own husband but remember that Karma is a B**** and payback is a mother******!!! Get ready for yours to come because both of you are commiting adultery!!! You cant have a future with him because he's already married and 9 times out of 10 you are just a side piece of *** and he'll drop you at the drop of a hat because you dont mean anything to him and he'll never leave his wife! & think about this if u were to fall in love and he divorced and married you he would do you the same exact way use your head for more than just a hat rack sweetie! I hope you dont ever come across my husband because the outcomes wouldnt be nice!!

banapples321

it's not about who is at fault, and who isn't. but it certainly isn't HER fault. it can't be, because sometimes you're so sure you can trust someone, you don't see the lies.
i think you should stop, even though you don't think its wrong, it is. because yeah, maybe it's his choice, but you're not making it any easier for him. set him straight, lead him into the right path; help him to be better. if you don't see a future with him, why waste someone's relationship like that?
before you do things like that, ask yourself these important questions.
it's just wrong!

They Don't Like Me!

The question tells me that you feel guilty in some way, if even minute about your actions, or you wouldn't post this. I think that a marriage that failing can be fixed, and another woman in the picture can hinder the chances of that. It is easy to just say forget it, it is harder to say, we can work through this. I think that one day you will be sorry about your actions. Someone is going to sleep with your husband and I hope that you are as carefree about it then as you are now.

He's married. I don't see the attraction.

porquemoi

I guess you never heard of morality, AIDS or even hell, but in time you sill see why what you are doing is wrong. Keep excusing your current evil behavior and bad things will happen to you as a result. I know you don't believe it now, but what you do comes back to you, and you are now doing wrong. You are betraying God who created us all and are also betraying yourself.

Adele S

methinks the lady doth protest too much - Shakespeare

you are right in the sense that you are not bound to anything other than your own moral code.

your moral code is your moral code so i don't see the value in attacking it because we could all tell you til we're blue in the face that .. duh you are still going to be a cause of a great deal of pain if she finds out .. but you of course will always be right in your mind

fingers crossed he's not spreading his love around a little further and you don't end up with karma biting you. or a nasty little rash

Debbie

You need to stay away from him.. and find someone who is actually available!

And for your information, if you are having any kind of relationship with that man, then you are just as guilty as he is. How dare you try to justify it! You should be ashamed of yourself!

Sweety375

It kinda is your fault that he can't stay faithful to his wife, you could make him see how important marriage is and tell him to go back to his wife and try to work it out. You are being selfish. You can't see a future with him, but yet once you are done with him, his marriage could be over. Let him go, do whats right. Find someone who isn't married.

trilok goel

withdraw at once from his company he who is not faithful to his wife how he can be faithful to u

Kat

It's harmful to your spirit to do what you know is wrong. It's up to you..

Aloha!

im not judging at all..but i think maybe you feel guilty that is why your asking...?

Emily Hobhouse

I think you're totally right - in fact, just to make sure that your conscience is totally clear, you should inform the wife, instead of us.
That way, you're not in any danger of getting a black eye when someone tells her they saw her husband with another woman.

Yvonne B

you are a liar if she knows nothing about it, she should know so she can decide whether to divorce or not, why should he have all the fun?

smiley

i was a mistress for 10 months and i was like you before--- rationalizing why im dating a married man.. (but i was guilty though)

i believe you should wait for him if you really like him... wait till he's single.. his wife is still his wife--what you're doing is wrong,..

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