I'm getting a Divorce?

Walker

Your wife might be in the anger stages and very upset with you, maybe if funds permit use an attorney right now, to help you with your rights to joint custody, but this is all sticky stuff and can get expensive, perhaps you can have a talk with her and work it out before you have to see a lawyer for more help --- and do not drag your feet on this.

address man

What? The grammar here makes no sense.

You have a right to see your child. Period. Go to court and fight for those rights.

Queen of Beer

You need to file a petition of custody through the courts. Don't wait - go file today.

tedstryker68

get a lawyer...and fast...

'_'HoT Stuff ^_^

The court should be able to settle that after the divorce.

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go to court!

Brutally Honest

I have one word for you. Are you ready?

L*A*W*Y*E*R

You need an attorney. NOTHING anybody here could say is going to be as much help to you as hiring a GOOD divorce attorney.

mJc

Depends on what State you are in, but in Michigan you would be awarded joint physical custody. You need to get yourself a great lawyer. This is about your son - not you or your wife. Put him FIRST... always.

â™¥LuV sKuLLâ™¥

you should go to court for that. ummm.... i think you get to see your child every week for a couple of days of a couples of days every month. your wife cant just take your child away.

KitKat

You need a lawyer and you need to take her to court for visitation if not custody. Tell the judge what she said...they don't like people using the kids as pawns in an adult play.

chellie8603

I am going thru the same thing. You two should agree on the days that you each get the child. That is the most easy way to do it. If not you will have to go to court and the judge will decide. But if that is what happens watch your P's andQ's til then because she could use almost anything against you. But remember the tables can turn and if she messes up it would be in your favor. Good Luck

Brianna H

All right, N, find a lawyer ASAP. If she is as psycho as it looks, she might want to put up a fight and use the child as leverage. Thing is, if you act fast enough, you may use some things she already has done in your defense.
Protect your child at all costs. You are entitled to seeing him, but this has to be court ordered. You cannot trust an angry woman.
Besides, anything you do or don't do she can also use against you, so find a good lawyer and file the petition.
Sorry to see it has come to this, but as i said, you deserve to live your life - happy and stress-free.
The first weeks are going to be awful, so your mind must remain steady at all times.
Get moving.

mustyouknow?

you're gonna have to go to court and make sure you have a really good lawyer. make sure you have a lot of good reasons why the kid should stay with you, and you should be fine. Pray about it, and let things work themselves out. Good Luck to you and God Bless!

TeKe

Go to court and let the judge decide whats best for the child...in a situation like this you two cannot make a rationale decision.

CAT

She can't just TAKE the kid. Get a lawyer. That is kidnapping. She could face serious prison time. Poor kid..in the middle of a divorce. Get an education....

cake frost

What a B!T$H .
just go to court

tom the immature polish boy

ok well check out this stub named mike hartford, 425 773 4527

Stacy ` B

well when my parents divorced they did every other weekend & every other holiday, switch em up ya know.... like one year you could have the kid for Christmas n she has him for thanks giving or visa versa find common ground to stand on with the hole kid situation..... this is what my parents did when they divorced and they had 3 including me....
well hope this helps
best of luck to ya
sorry bout the divorce

Spanishfly

You'll have to go to family court to petition for visitation rights. It would be better for you if you let them know right off the bat that you fully intend to financially support your child. Unless your wife can prove that you're an unfit father, she won't have a choice but to abide by the court ruling. Make sure you file as soon as possible, because once she's served with a court order, she can't try to run away with the baby because that's considered kidnapping. If she leaves before she's served, though, then you're gonna have a hell of a time with it.

shenika1us

Get a lawyer ASAP and go petition the courts for custody and or visitation!

magnolia_76

Yep, sounds like your going to have to go to court. The usually visitation that is set up is.. whoever doesn't have primary custody will get the child every other weekend, and one day during the week for a few hours (usually on a Wed or Thurs evening).. but it really all depends on your situation. If you get joint custody them you can have him more, the time is more split, and since he is only 2 they may do that (not going to school yet)... But you for sure need to get yourself a family lawyer and fight for you rights to see your son.. hang in there and don't give up!!...~

Trose

If differs in each state. Also, what parent gets full custody of the child or not. Sometimes who gets the best lawyer and who hires a lawyer first. There are alot of varables. She maybe venting. Some people blow in the air. Father's have more rights now. My son has joint custody of his son.

Armature

AT ALL COST
avoid alimony

avoid the money

hopefully your income is the same as hers

she more than likely will get an attorney if she doesn't have one already

she has probably filed for full custody or has it about to go in the mail, go along try to get your child to spend equal time with both of you, pay for the child's needs when the child is with you and not her unless she does not have the funds for clothing, food, etc. for the child have her send you a copy of documentation of pay she gets from her employer every month to make sure she wont abuse the "I don't have enough money for the child's food"

You may still care for her but now this is about the child, you are no longer a husband at this point you are a Father first and a Businessman second. At ALL COST get a good attorney, stand your ground.

I wish you best of Luck!!
I hope both of you will come to an understanding.

Lexi

Do you have any proof that she is saying those things? Emails, texts, voicemails? Anything?

My ex has had to deal with that stuff with his ex wife. She tried to take his child and make his life miserable. We just started recording ever ridiculous detail. Things that she says, things that she has threatened. EVERYTHING. We didn't answer the phone when she called and waited for her to leave messges. When we did have to talk to her, we put it on speaker, so EVERYONE in the room heard what she was saying.

Just try to catch her saying that kind of thing. I'm not sure how useful it will be in court, but it may be worth a try.

cadence2605 #2 due 7.27

you need to get some legal advice right away..... and her keeping your 2yr old from you is the WORST thing she could ever do to that child, because in the end, the child is the one that will suffer. The easier you two can make this, and the more "civil" you guys can be to eachother, the better it will be for your child, and that should be your main concern, not "getting back" at eachother.....she needs to grow up and I'm thinking you should file for sole custody if she's going to be that immature.

*Sunshine*

You need to go to Court and file for a modiciation of child custody and get a parenting plan in place.

I am a divorce paralegal but the advice you are asking for needs a lawyer...I do not give free advice when you are asking for so much!

Call a lawyer please.

MommyToBe91908

Yes, my husband had to take his ex to court to see his son. It may differ in different states, but we see him every other weekend, a week at Christmas, alternante Easter and Thanksgiving every year, and 3 weeks in the summer. Also we get him for Father's Day and either the day before, the day of or the day after his birthday. And they base support on what your and her income is. GOOD LUCK! We didn't want to take her to court either... and put up with her crap for over 2 years... But trust me, it's well worth it and money well spent!!

Golden_Child

I hate when people act like this.....she is sick. She needs some serious therapy. I hate when adults act like this....marriage does not come with a guarantee...nothing in life does. You need to take her to court and file for some sort of custody. I would tell the court how she thinks you ruined her life and she is trying to get revenge by not letting you see your son. If she is this bitter i wouldn't doubt if she tries to turn your child against you. Good Luck

The Wife

Hire a lawyer. She can't do that. It's the court that decides visitation not your soon to be ex wife.

~Crystal~

I find it amusing that people on here are telling you that she can't just take the kid. The truth is that neither of you have custody if you are married and the court has not given either parent custody. I am saying that you can file for an emergency hearing on a child custody matter. Or you can go and take the child just as she did. Your divorce attorney should be able to help you on this.

Millie

well it all depends if your going to fight for custody. But lets say you dont and you just get visitation you get your son every other weekend and he would have to be dropped off at a certain time. every other holiday. 2 weeks out of the summer. every fathers day and every birthday(your birthday) his bday will have to be 1 time you one time her.

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