I'm going to go through a divorce..?

cleancutspike

dump him, screw what anyone else thinks.

tlcoufan

hate to say it dump him find someone better and remember what comes around goes around he will either leave her like he left you or she will dump him .....hell who wants a cheater once a cheater always a cheater.. i say have a talk with her and tell her whats going on and then dump him like hot cakes... you don't need this or him there will be someone new who will be kind caring loving and supportive of you and mostly be faithful to you.. he will one day see he left a good thing behind and you can smile as you walk away with your new man...it will hurt for a while but go out with your friends don't answer his calls any more and let him be the one left crying. like my fav song goes MY GIVE A DAMN IS BUSTED .................

kajungirls

RELIGION??? Your kidding right? The God that I pray to every night would not want me to stay in a relationship like that. He is being totally unfair and very manipulative towards you. This is 100% his fault. You have to move on and stop holding on to any excuse to stick around - in hell! Take care of yourself and remember that you are doing the RIGHT thing.

If you file on the grounds of adultery and he contest it (and he probably will, especially if heâ€™s in the military, because he wonâ€™t want that following him), then you have to prove it (and you might have to prove it even if he doesn't contest it) There is nothing youâ€™ve said that constitutes adultery. Adultery--in the eyes of the law--requires a physical relationship.

As far as your religious questionâ€¦is the church going to kick you out if you get divorced and it isnâ€™t granted on the grounds of adultery? Becauseâ€¦ he can easily obtain a no-fault divorce, whether you agree to it or not.

LADY

â€¢ You have heard it said, "Do not commit adultery." But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5:27)

harleychickfatboy

My question to you is...... why would you want to be with someone like this? If he told you he has fallen in love with her that means he does not love you. Why are you not packing his stuff and calling a moving truck to pick up his things. This girl would not be calling and going places with him if there was not an agenda there. He took the 3 inches and ran a mile now its time to cut the rope. Blast him with child support.

jizzyroll

Let's see now;You say that your husband has told you that he loves another women and that this other woman doest know how he feels about her .Well I don't know bout all that ;But If my husband had told me that he was in love with another women,There would be no ifs ands nor buts about it I would be gone already.Why should you have to pay for the divorce and get things rolling since he is the one that cheated on you and told you that he loves this other women.You tell that sorry *** muther ****** to shell out the money for the divorce.What makes him think that you are going to pay for his **** up?If he don't want to pay for the divorce so be it don't get divorced but instead just separate cause things are not going to be the same since he has admitted to being in love with another.The reason why I say don't get divorce if he doesn't file and pay for it ,If anything should ever happen to him and you are still married you will be in titled to everything that he's got from money in the bank to his pension plan EVERYTHING.And she won't get ****.And of course in the end you will have the glory. Good luck.

Lilith

What is your question, exactly? I can only tell you to move on. This guy obviously isn't worth it. It's pointless to stay with someone who tells you that they love another woman and can't stand you - regardless of how "religion" frowns on it. Religion doesn't raise your kids or pay the bilss and should mind it's own business. Kick him to the curb.

vanessaoz

he wants to put the blame on your insteading of accepting that he is the one at fault. your better off our of the relationship with him and finding someone else who will love you without cheating and lying to you.

xjalyn

He knows he did something wrong so he wants you to blame yourself since you do not want him around her. He is declineing his responseability as a Husband & a Father. I am sure you would want things to workout, but if he is being like this, is it really worth it? And him getting mad at you for hanging with her, is something he is doing only because he wants you to leave. He figures by doing all of this, you will leave. So I think its for the best that you leave & take the kids with you & let him have NO PART in your life or your kids lives. He does not deserve it. He is acting 2 years old. I wish you luck.

Vinie B

my dear girl, you have to do what is right for you., it seems there is no Love coming from him , and it is his loss, he will find out the grass is not greener when you divorce him and he has to pay you and still find time to be with the children. usually men, while seeing someone else, have their cake and eat it too, but when the stuff hits the fan and he has to GROW UP, you can be the one who finds herself and starts a new life, Best of luck to you. Stand your Ground. it is not about what others think it is about you.

swtlilblonde31

I hate to say this but you're being played he has slept with her and why would he put a "friend" above you. Open your eyes, you're a women you know this. She is more then aware that he likes her trust me.

Bethy4

The hell with it all. Leave the loser with the tramp. Move on with your life. Enjoy your life as you continue to live your life, he does not deserve you and you don't deserve the headache and bull-crap you are receiving. You already view your relationship as the past and leave it just there, in the past, the future will be brighter, you will find someone who will love you and don't let this a$$hole dictate your feelings in the future. God Bless.

ELDER

You do not have to stand for that...........Do not allow him to take away what you stand for as an individual! If thats what he wants let him go..........You do not want to make him stay somewhere he does not want to b/c he will make your life a living hell

Shortstuff13

In my opinion, you should file for divorce, but not for "irreconcilable differences." (He's commited adultery, no matter how you look at it) That's letting him off the hook too easily. He's blaming you for his actions, so he can condone his actions. I'm glad his family is supporting you in this matter. Your husband is not functioning on all cylinders, & you need to move on. You don't deserve to be treated like that, nor do your children. Move on & make a better life for your children & you.

newyorktilson

He has committed adultery in his heart and probably in his loins. You deserve better than being treated like this. A divorce is the best solution. The fact that you have a Church and your faith will help you through the divorce. I hope. Do not share all of this information with everyone in your Church though. Find one person Priest? that you can confide in. Divorce support groups are a better forum for discussing your pain in greater detail. You would be surprised how many women in the Church think that divorce is contagious.

sweetgranny06

i think your husband is full of **** saying nothing happened oh right a man never lies yeah right what esle he's wanting to split his family up must be the ***** i would try to get a adultery divorce if possible

fuzzypetshop

Marriage is such a fragile thing, or a very strong one. But, one thing is for sure, it takes two ! One pardner loving and caring, the other not, is for sure a ............problem. Our 48 year marriage has had just a few problems (thousand), as Trust was our fragile thing, Faith became the strength (mortar). Now that the children are all gone, we can finally be teenagers again. God Bless !!

joyceeleann

You deserve better..don't wait a mintue on him..go find someone who deserves you

Malik2x

Don't waster time with a man who wants someene else. There are other fish in the sea. Throw that one back.

toonice

forget him girl. Plain and simple. Hey..we can go file for divorce together, i'll pick you up at 11.

Jersey Boy

He has done something worse to you than adultery, he has emotionally replaced you with her. File for divorce and put down adultery (emotional adultery? ask the attorney). if neither of you want to work things out. Since he left you, fight for everything you can for yourself and the children.

He sounds like a stupid horn dog and if he didn't meet her, it would be someone else.

Good luck.

sansjazz

Honey, you can't argue with the truth, and the truth is he's moved on. File for divorce. I wish you the best of luck. Remember, TX will not allow you to sue for palimony, but you can get support while you're divorcing. I recommend you request for support from the court, stating that he has left you in such a mental state that you cannot possibly continue to live in the house you now reside in. Let him pay for you to move and new furniture.. Best to you.

Quasimodo

One...my dear....the "I'm not doing anything with her" is a crock. No man would make the effort to travel the distances he has, spend the time with her and whatever else and not being receiving some type of "compensation" for this...if you get my drift. So...your hubby is a lousy liar.
Get the divorce. He's made his feelings known. I have this strange feeling that you'll find you'll be better off without him. The best of luck to you my dear.

Jade

I only read the first few sentences. please be true to you!!! It's hard to move on but do you really want someone who wants someone else? Free yourself and him of this relation. YOU will be better off in the long run.. Happiness will find you again........STAY STRONG ,It will work out.

Vincent

I think marriage is the thing that we must maintain. I mean that in a marriage, we must keep in touch and care one another. from your story, you got depressed and sad because of your husband. Personally I don`t know the answer too. It`s complicated. Why don`t u try to pray and consult about ur problem to a pastor? Maybe she can help you a little.

Noomder

I know how you feel. I have been threw that also. not in the exact same way but it all feels the same. I know you feel as if you should divorce him and just get it all over with. but please stop and think about it. he wants you to file for the divorce, why? I think what it sound like to me, is that he wants her, but she tells him no because he is married. that is why he is doing that. and I do believe she just may be telling you the truth. and the reason she goes to these places with him is because she does see it as him just being a friend.

But in time if it keeps going the way it is something will happen, because the longer she is with him the more she feels for him. and you know that old saying. when two people say they are good friends usably end up married.

But Please do not give him the divorce. if he wants the divorce tell him that he will have to file for it. If you believe in God. you know you should not anyway. so let him do it. that way you can say, you were not the one that got the divorce he was. and too, the longer you keep him from getting the divorce. and if that is what she is waiting for. do not give them the pleaser they want you to give to them. as long as he is married he can not marry her. and that is what he wants, do not let him have it. let him suffer. that way in time she will get tired of waiting, if that is what she is wanting for also. and she will leave him. because she will feel that relation ship is a dead end, and a waste of time....

I know the pain you are feeling, the best thing you can do is call your best friend and have her come over so you can have someone to talk too. it will help a lot knowing there is also someone there that cares. in time things will get better. I know that doesnâ€™t seem true now, but it is. Time will heal. I know I went threw it. even though I am a male. but we all feel the same, we just do not like to show it.

I wish I could help, but call you friend please and please take care. I did all I can, your friend will have help you threw this.

Take care and God Bless You;

robbie64

Religion is man made! and who cares what other people think.
You need to kick this Jack A$$ to the curb with a quickness.
He had absolutely No respect for you.

Debt Free!

he doesn't love or respect you. you are worth more than what he gives you and you don't have to tolerate this behavior. he's made his decision already.

women know everything!!!!

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