I'm having an affair I need advise?

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Get a divorce what you have isn't a marriage anyway.

Josh

clearly, you don't love him. you're in a ****** up relationship, just get a divorce. this can't possibly lead to a good marriage.

RedRabbit

You need to grow up and get a divorce. You should have gotten a divorce the moment you found out. Neither of you are mature enough to be in a relationship. There is no love. NONE. For either of you to truly love each other, neither of you would have cheated. Divorce and be done with it.

Naila

Just leave your husband once he cheated on you, you should just end it.

letterstoheather

If you love him, you wouldn't be seeing someone else, would you?

If he is controlling, it won't change unless he seeks a course of therapy for help... so get used to the controlling stuff, it won't change.

ironious2

You need to be honest with him and see what happens.

meatheadfrompax

Yeah, sounds like you two are really in love.

TheLovelyA

two wrongs don't make a right
get a divorce or stop the affair.

eastereuy

"But I love him plz I need advise. "
Your last sentence is more than enough for you to make decision to stop cheating on your husband. Forgive him, and have a wonderful life aheadRemember the time you marry him... the vow...

To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part."

What God has united, let no men separate =)
Reconciliation time ^^

JustChillin

to wrongs don't make a right

BERNARD C

Hi friend,
Obviously what you have in mind at first is to get back at him, which is like putting another mistake on top of the other. He might have cheated on you and it might have hurt, but going on an affair in an effort to rebound will only aggravate matters. If you still value this marriage of yours, you should put a stop on it right away. Do you tell him or not? Base on your description of your husband (being jealous and controlling), I would advise you to hold back lest you want to entertain thoughts of being physically abused. For now stop the affair and put your marriage in order. Then go from there.

TCSO

I recommend getting a divorce based on what you describe here. It'll be a little messy, but so is what you are involved in now. And I am not sure you are able to stop. Not that I am being critical, because I have done my own share of stupid things.

smitch1067

I bet part of you wants to tell your husband as a way of getting back at him for his affair... Don't tell him.... in fact if you are not happy, if you are having an affair then you are not, you should either try to work it out with your husband or leave him... Does not sound like you are in a great relationship anyway..... Also, get rid of the other guy... that is way to much baggage for your relationship to handle...

Good Luck :-)

Akki's Girl

so wat difference is there between u and ur hubby. he cheated u and now u're doin the same. i never can understand the logic, "if u can, so can i". why stoop to his level. u're both adults and know the consequences of ur actions. beside u know ur hubby more then any of us answerers so u've to decide it urself shud u tell him bout the cheating or not. cos maybe he cud take it. if yes gud for him, cos he did it too. and u can call it even then. but if he can't take it and turn abusive or decide to divorce u/inform ur elder, then u'll be facing alot of ambarassment from frens/ralative. u said urself u're not guilty by it so u have to decide if u still want to carry on or stop. but i personally feel u shudn't have stoop to his level. and i sincerely hope u guys don't have any kids yet cos it will definately ruin thier lifes if there are aware of u and ur hubby's action.

juiicy_b

if you love him enough to work it out then work it out. if you're happier with the other guy, and feel he is worth leaving your husband for then by all means do what makes you happy.

Christy

well, it's true, you shouldn't have had the affair, but what's done is done so just stay with him and stop immediately. I'm sure he will forgive you, and you will forgive him. The best thing to do is to work it out, heal the wounds, and promise to stay true ever onward. Hope I helped.

Peet S

even after cheating on u, both are you are together.. you shud stop cheating on him and work things out with your marrage

Meggie

hy should u cheat at the first place,stop it en confess then get devorced ,this is not right

Merwin420

SLOW DOWN!!!! You need to know what you want before you can do anything. If you read your question again you will see that even within that one paragraph you leapt from bed to bed. If you will pardon me for being a little harsh for a moment: before you completely trash everything you love in this world, get sober and think long term. My advise has nothing to do with either husband or lover, but you are not only tearing yourself up now, you are setting the scene for at least three people to get crushed.
This needs to get out in the open, either way. So ask yourself the hard questions and don't let yourself try to wiggle out of doing what you must. Good luck to you.

powerful_empress

You are not talking about love. Love does not at like you and he are acting. TAlk to the guy you're with and see what he wants to do. But regardless you need to file for divorce. This is not a fixable relationhsip.

The only reason I can see you telling your husband is to create drama. YOu know he is jealous and controlling. You could be putting yourself in real danger. Stop all the drama, move out and file for divorce.

dwgriffith101

Do not tell him. Bad move.

Captain Falcon

Get a divorce.

OMG I LOVE EDWARD

one word: DIVORCE

nanah

Make sure you dont get caught. A little side fling makes you feel loved and brings more romance in your married. You start to want to look good all the time, want to please your husband therefore more happiness in the marriage.

My advise is if you can have your cake and be able to eat it without spoiling your figure, go ahead. Tell the guy you are married and you have absolutely no intention of leaving your husband for him and that its just that a 'FLING' Soon you will be old and unattractive and no guys are going to look at you and you will live unhappily ever after a miserable old hug with no stories to tell. MEN CHEAT ALL THE TIME.

Use a condom all the time and again dont get caught. The affair will eventually die down.

cynthiascreams

The question is who do you like better and who do you think will be a good choice in the long run. After you figured that out YOU can decide weather you should get a divorce or tell your husband about the other guy. Make sure they're real feelings too, but you shouldn't have cheated on him.

Even if he cheated on you did you like the feeling it gave you when you found out?

Or were you just not thinking at the time cause i know its happened to me before; but i had just considered it. I remember how it felt. x:

Irene V

i would stop the affair and work on the marraige, I don;t think the affair was the responsible thing to do u should have been honest with him from the moment u had wandering eyes and told him you wanted to break it off before you messed around...after all I'm sure that's what u expected from him before his thing he had going on... there's no way u can conceal it from him now if you want to work on your marraige, it will always be in the back of your mind eating away at you, or if you dont have the balls just leave him and tell him later hopefully there are no kids involved

katigirl2007

You should end the affair no matter what and think about whether you want to end the marriage. You shouldn't expect to have it both ways. If he cheated and you stayed together you should not use the excuse to go ahead and have an affair yourself. Marriage is sacred and should not be treated so shabby.

Debra Erics

You should leave your husband and your lover. Spend some time on you. It's not a good idea to go between the two, and to be frank it's rather cruel and immature if you have a lover for payback of your husband's previous lover.

It's not healthy, and whether he had an affair or not you must have forgiven him for it..... or you wouldn't still be together. You see he would have reaped what he'd sown. You are not the one to dole out punishments. And now you have dues to pay.

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