I'm having an affair with a married man?

totallylost

Dawn, I am not going to tell you what you did was wrong or say anything ugly or nasty to you. Sometimes love can make you do things you never thought you would ever do. You ask for some advice, and this what I want to say to you.

Pick yourself up, and go out and find yourself a man that who will put your first in all things. Someone who wants to spend good times and bad times with you. A man who wants to see on Christmas morning, and share Thanksgiving dinner with. You deserve that, everyone does. This man you love has a wonderful thing going on, and at least he was honest about never leaving his wife. Well, it's time for you to be thinking about your life! Think about Dawn!

You go out there and find your Mr. Right, he's out there. Have a healthy relationship with a man, who loves you so much till he doesn't want to be apart from you for a minute much less leave your bed to go home to another's woman arms. You need more, and I pray that you find the strength to realize that you deserve a "happily ever after". So, Dawn start tonight.

Call Mr. Wrong, and break it off, and go find Mr. Right! Get dressed up and go to town, girl! Find someone to spend those years ahead of you by your side not someone else's.

God bless us all.......................

inlove

Sorry...you dug the hole you are in yourself...
1. There really is no shortage of men, so you didnt need to disturb somebody's settled life.
2. When you knew he was married...you sstayed with him
3. Hetold you he'll not leave his wife...you stayed with him
4. His conclusion-you are a *******-mate nothing more

YOU agreed to it..DONT complain

Ya-sai

You should have left him a long time ago. He's had the best of both worlds, a wife and loving family and you, who never complained. Why would he change all that? For you only? No way. The sooner you realize this the better.

-BeautÃ©-Crue-

thta's is a very unhealthy relationship...move away and cut off anything that reminds you of him...or that connects you to him...and start over...you're still young
I don't think you'd want your husband to be with another woman...so don't do that to someone else =

Sugarlump

You must break off this relationship youve already wasted 11 years of your life on him dont waste any more.

Dingle-Dongle

Women and men like you are digusting. I wish you all the misery in the world (which is what his wife will feel when she finds out about you)

bluntly answered

since he told you from day one that he wasn't going to leave his wife for you that's basically telling you that you are just his thing on the side and that he's not going to be taking your relationship seriously...spending 11 yrs with him is way too long expecially if he you haven't been able to change his mind about leaving his wife....girl, you aren't getting any younger [ no offense ] and you can't be waiting round for him especially if you want to have kids and build a family...i dont think he'd be a good guy for you being that he already cheated on his wife already who says he wont do it again...just leave him and endure the pain that comes with breaking up with someone and find yourself a REAL man who is willing to invest his time on you and maybe his life with you...

tuppenybitz

You reap what you sew.
He obviously doesn't love you.
Shame on the pair of you.
You have wasted 11 years of your live on a man that has his cake and gets to eat it too. Why the hell would he change things for you? he has the best of both worlds and his poor wife has been betrayed all these years.how would you feel if it was you in her shoes??

poleng

your getting old , so go and find a single man , he would never leave his wife

Lydia

Just stop being a homewrecker, and find your own single guy.

mikydotcom

If 'champagne' is to be believed then you are both a couple of mattresses--perhaps you could both meet up and compare notes--you never know, you may learn some new tricks off each other!! You knew what you were getting into when 'the plank' told you from day one what was required of you--you are a bed-fellow--pure and simple, nothing more, and this is really not the site to be bleating on about how you want things to change after 11 years. I refuse to give you advice with regards your 'problem'--there are other, more deserving people out there with REAL problems...you got yourself into this, YOU get yourself out. ALL cheaters are detestable--i despise the lot of you.

cisslynramdeo

Hi Girl, The bible tells us not to commit adultery. This is because it ends up in trouble.Being with a married man is a sin and this would bring many hurts to you since it was not designed this way by God. Talk to the Lord Jesus Christ and ask him to forgive you and to show you a way out of this relationship. You cannot have the guy since he belongs to someone else already. Please make an effort to end this relationship.

kelsey

This is what you get when you play with fire. I am sure that his wife wanted a faithful husband as well and neither of you is getting what you want, well except for him. You need to find someone that is available to you and will be free to give you what you want.

mickeymouse

you dont deserve happyness, you are just a home wrecker

charles s

quit being a whor$ and move on with your life. you never should have been with him.

brian t

As you say, you want more than he can give. Look for an unmarried guy.

Jezebelâ„¢

Wow that is pretty hard. After 11 years he loves you both equally or is just using you for pleasure still?
I don't understand how you could stay in such a relationship for 11 years. What does your family think? That is very complicated and your options are limited. If you suggest children and furthering your relationship it could backfire and if you leave I'm sure it will hurt you...do what you think is best.
Good luck.

BJTD

Why would you do that to a family? His wife and kids don't deserve to be betrayed like that. Have you no heart? End it now. Seek counseling and find out how you could intentionally destroy a family. Find someone without a commitment. It's women like you that give us a bad image.

Nicole M

thats not a good thing to do. But if he already old you that he is not going to leave his wife then you need to move on and find yourself a real man one that is not married and who wants to have a family

Nort

Hope your proud of the lack of respect you show for marriage.
Please don't get married because you will still screw around and destroy your future hubby and kids.
I like the way you say he was honest, I bet he hasen't been honest with his wife.

dels replies

This is a difficult decision for you to make.What you have to consider is that you are 29 and if you are to have a family and settle down you have got to make your decision before too long. You have two main choices,neither of which is ideal, that is to discontinue your affair so that you meet an unattached man with whom you can fulfil your wishes, or you could have a child by your lover but have to raise as a single mum, which again is not ideal.. Have a good talk with your fellow and tell him what you put in your question and possibly show him the answers and get his views. I hope he is a genuine sort of man and not just selfish without consideration for you. Whatever happens I wish you good luck.

bubblybassoonist

Depends how malicious you are! I would leave him and seek the right person for you - he obviously isn't as he thinks more of his wife and kids than he does you. (I know that hurts, but you must see it). You caould always tell his wife, but then you can't guarantee he'll come to you. Wake up and move on... don't waste another 11 years on this loser.

Disco Stu

It took you 11 years so far. You aren't quite awake yet, but it's happening.

You wasted your 20s with a married man. Time to put him behind you and take your lumps.

DickyNowItAll

Yes you've just realised you have wasted all those years on a relationship/affair that was going nowhere, but you knew that !. Now you want some advice.Well you need to end it quickly, get out there and start thinking about having a relationship with someone who can commit to you! Before it's to late.

pattijohughes

He told you point blank that he would never leave his Wife and Children -- And having a affair with a married man is not love

Nothing but the truth...!!

You deserve it! Go find your own man.

mendmyways

You have got to be so tired of being 2nd choice for 11 years. How could you possibly want this to go on for another 11 years! The only thing I can say about this guy is at least he was not so much of a snake that he lied and told you that he was going to leave his wife and kids. You are obviously wising up because you dared to ask this question and risk getting a tongue bashing from those of us who have never made some really bad choices in their lives.

Look....you can end this now and starting feeling the pain of losing him but then know that the positive aspect of this is that in a year or 2 this will be over and you are going to have a brighter future than you do now or you can continue this path of nowhere and in 10 years from now wonder what the hell you did to screw up your life.

This is going to hurt like hell because for 11 years you have been involved with this unavailable man but you need to get your pride back and give this woman back her husband (as crappy as he is) and find a man who wants to marry you and have children with you.

I've made the same disastrous decision you made and I paid a terrible price. Get out now.

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