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I'm married and I like this older married guy...what should I do?

I'm 22 and married...he's around 40 and married also. He talks occasionally about how he's ran around with other women. I don't want a relationship...I just want to have some fun. What should I do??
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I think I got married too young... and just to be clear I would not do anything unless I was certain we were going to be divorced. My husband also doesn't treat me very well. I've only ever been with my husband and I think maybe I just want to try something different.


    




brassinpocket
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Avoid this potentially dangerous situation like the plague!

Don't jump from a frying pan into the fire. Maybe your marriage is failing, maybe it isn't... However, any "older" (i.e.: knowledgable) man that confides that he's "ran around with other women" is just trying to get you in bed. Nothing more will come of this. His approach, and personal justification, is to try to be as "honest" in the beginning as possible, so he can have his fall back - "I told you, I ran around with other women.... not that I was looking to get married or have a long-term relationship" - I can just hear those words falling out of his mouth three months into your heart breaking affair.

You will get hurt. You husband will get hurt. You will regret this moment. A lady should be "free from accusation." So you got married too young? So did I. I regret not behaving like a lady. Don't make the same mistake.


BeBe
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Go ahead and have fun - with YOUR husband!


Lizzy_Luvs_Ben*
grl just do anything to have fun with ur own man cheating ain`t right!!!! have fun with ur man!


kittymimm
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stay away


david
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Then why are you married in the first place, you don't love your husband if you want this older man.


LIBERTY
get counselling!!! adultery is baaaaaddddd...... How would u feel if ur hubby wanted to "just have some fun"


MaryBeth
1.)Get a divorce.
2.)Go have all the 'fun' you want!


chaskfrazier
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Like you said, you're married....that's it.


sushihen2
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DONT DO IT!!! You are married and he is married.. he is saying crap just to get you involved... just remember that there are others involved also.... if you or he cannot respect your marriage then get a divorce before you ruin your spouses life too.... you probably have a nice husband who doesn't deserve this kind of treatment... please think about this, it could cause you a lot of pain.


Louis
if you mess with him you are a cheater... so is he


bibliophile31
Get a divorce if you're going to screw around.


mccmb02
Be faithful to your husband. The rush of the fling will come and go, but guilt is forever.


jajadajade
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Well you are not IN love with him, so leave that creep alone.
I don't know why you and him wanna hurt everybody.


Sally B
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Grow up and take your marriage vows seriously.


Thinking
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Go to a therapist and find out why you married so young...you might also explore why you are attracted to a cheater.
Oh, yeah...you might also explore reasons why you are considering being one.
And while you're at it, maybe you will discover what it means to be faithful, loyal and a person of substance.
Or not.


crane1951@sbcglobal.net
BE CAREFUL. IF YOU CHEAT ON YOUR HUSBAND AND HE FINDS OUT YOU WILL BE IN BIG TROUBLE AND YOU'LL PAY THE PRICE. DON'T DO IT.


labo
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you need to some serious prayer. Dont think about it, if you know you'll probably cheat, it's better to stop talking to the married guy. you are married, there is no more fun with other guys. have fun with your husband.


goodgirl62
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Please don't get involved with this man. Have some fun with your husband. Those extra marital affairs are not good and trust me someone always get hurt terribly. Stay away from him for your own good.


jenjen
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well he ran away with other women what would happen if yall were together and why would u marry ur husband if u didn't luv him. besides thats one big age difference


Nunoyvgvna Awi
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1. mature some
2. realize the oath you gave was before GOD himself
3. realize its against the Bible in many parts to cheat on a spouse
4. I hope your husband reads this and throws you to the curb, its where trash like you belongs.


mandy
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i dont want to sound mean but get your head out of the clouds. you are married. it is nice to think about it, but come on, you know deep down you could never do it.


oldman
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Its okay....your husband said he has found a older women that he "just wants to have fun with".....You okay with that?


JohnnyQuest
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Ouch! I think Shakespeare said, "Hell hath no fury as a woman scorned." Understand the consequences before you proceed. His wife may end up being the scorned one or you may be. Either one is not a pretty picture.

I am not going to tell you what to do or what not to do, just be careful and look at the ramifications of your own marriage and family and his before you cross a line from which there is no return.

Good luck.


Got Curves?
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Don't go there...you will be sorry!


zether
you should get a divorce and never think about getting married again


Chrys
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grow up...you either stay married or leave Mr Numbnuts alone.
What do you think you're doing ??? You aren't having fun, you're breaking hearts, marriages, lives...what gives YOU the right to do that to HIS family ??? Not to mention your husband....
If he wants to be a jacka**, let him, leave him alone...YOU tell your husbad whats you've been doing and suffer the consequences...





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