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I never understood why people cheat either....until about a year ago, when after i told my husband i wanted out he talked me into staying..and then again...and now i am just tired. We do have kids and i have not cheated, YET, but I sure am tempted....He keeps "changing" for a week or two and then same old same old....My best guess is that I am going to have to just bite the bullet either way....I want to leave, but it's not easy, we are in counseling now, maybe you should try it, however, the counselor just told me that she thinks it is an exercise in futility.....
Good luck, but I hope you can figure it out without hurting more people than need to be hurt. I cannot imagine that cheating can make it better at all, even though I admit i am extremely tempted at the moment....
Don't let other people call you names, they don't know your path...
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lady_phoenix39
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Gosh, it was soooo nice of you to list HIS faults. Thanks so much.
Meanwhile, you are a cheater (i.e., scum) and want to know if you should leave to make YOU feel better?
Nah, but you SHOULD probably divorce him so HE can feel better. You cheat and lie to him and then complain that he's depressed????????? Are you an IDIOT???????? |
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Cutie Pie
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I say you should have left before you cheated. That was a very selfish act. Don't blame his depression or being unhealthy on why you made a conscious decision to cheat!!!!. I feel bad for him at the same time he does need to get some help. |
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YUMMY1
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Are you kidding?? U have no business being married. |
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m0ncher1e
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why would you have married this guy in first place while you have so much to complain about him? |
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bocasbeachbum
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And why is it that you are married? |
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faith
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Sounds like you already left. Why do people cheat? I don't understand this. If you loved this man you wouldn't be cheating on him. Do him a favor and go! |
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salacious_crumb
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And the TROLLS just keep on comin'! |
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Karla T
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Don't be the type of person that cheats. If the relationship doesn't work for you then go you way and end it clean.
That way you could still be two good persons that just couldn't be a good couple.
About him and his chronic depression, you could help a lot by letting someone know and making sure they will keep an eye on him after the break up. It might not be that he "won't" do anything about it... he just "can't" (been there) |
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if your going to cheat on him you might as well go.don't hurt him anymore than you all ready have.he is not dumb ,i'm sure.he probably has some sort of idea that things are different between you two.move on and let him go. |
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lilly v
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just try just being honest |
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GA
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it sounds like your husband has alot of issues to deal with.. You married him for better and worse...if things continued to deteriorate and nothing works for you two then ask for a divorce and move on with your life instead you lie and cheat and decieve him. Im not judging you for what you do but the fact that you go to someone else for what probably is a physical attraction only you will look back and always have that feeling that you were unfaithful to him...if the roles were reveresed and he cheated on you wouldnt you be fearious and so on. |
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ateez9
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Duh!! My Jerry Springer babe, you now have a reputation as a cheat, liar and a looser and it doesn't matter what your goals are now. You have told the world what kind of person you really are. Was this part of your goals when you started this little affair? When all the family and friends find out about this, you are the one who will be on the receiving end of many barbs. Now, don't you think it would have been a lot easier to leave him from the get go??? Next time, please think of who you might be hurting before you pull your panties down for anybody. |
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billc4u
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if there are no kids involved as there does not seem to be as there is not any mention of them then the best thing since you are already cheating is to leave the poor man and let him find someone more suitable to his asperations, and if there is not any longer an attraction then in the best interests of both divorce and stop making each other miserable for I am sure that he could not be to pleased with you either else he would not be sleeping all the time |
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harold
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Leave, why stay if you are not attracted to him and cheat on him. |
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boohoo
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You are a cheater and your husband deserves more. I hope he finds a hot young chic, loses weight, gets help for his depression and then you beg for him back as he laughs in your face. |
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sleepsheepnyc
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End the marriage. You are doing both of you a disservice by keeping up these pretenses. |
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LAYLA R
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Didn't you vow to love him in sickness and in health?
Depression is an illness and can cause exessive eating and sleeping. Does he know you cheat? That would make anyone depressed! Get him on some antidepressants and in therapy right away. Stop cheating on him and give the poor guy a chance! I know you have different goals but if you ever loved him you can try to rebuild that. Marriage is not a piece of cake, it's work. Does he abuse you in any way or are you just bored with him? Don't give up at least give it a year.
Make sure you use birth control, you don't want a baby in the middle of this.... |
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brian m
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have you tried to resolve your differences with counselling before you start the final chapter. if you are cheating now and you bring that into the next relationship without asking yourself why do you cheat ,you may find you do the same int the next relationship. in these situations it all boils down to honesty not with other people but with yourself. You are entitled to be happy so be honest with yourself and then take whatever action you think necessary based on this |
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heart2heart
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Obviously you no longer love your husband and cheating is one of the worse thing you can do to someone you're with. To be fair to your husband, I think you guys should part ways if you do not see a future with him. He deserves to be with somone who will be faithful to him and who loves him. |
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femmefatale_2804
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well, no one can honestly tell you to leave your husband or not. Nor, should you allow them to. What I would suggest though, is that you both get into some type of therapy. You see, if you think about it, there must be some reason why you would consciously decide to stay in a marriage where your not happy and break a promise that you made to yourself and your husband. Better or worst......richer or poorer....sickness or health. That's not to say you are to blame but you loved this man enough to take those vows and make those promises. I wouldn't give up without a fight. |
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s f
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Did you ever think you are causing all his problems. I hope your next husband does it to you so you can feel how it feels. |
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InvicibleStar
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Stop cheating and just dump the slob! |
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Salt&Pepper Apricot
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Tell him you've been cheating on him. This way he can get himself checked out for anything you may have given him. Was he this way before you married? Probably. Unless you dated a month. With you working a full time job, going to school part time, taking care of the house and animals, I wouldn't think you had TIME to cheat on him, but apparently you have more time on your hands than you know what to do with. I'm sure that's not helping his depression any. Instead of cheating on him, maybe use that time to spend with him. Get yourself checked out as well. |
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Hotmami619
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There no children involved so leave now.. I would. |
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Lady_Vi
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Sounds like there is no real future for you 2. I say get out now before you waste anymore of your or his time. If you are not attracted to him and from the sounds of it do not love him anymore then life is just wasting away. Go find your true love and let him find his. |
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