I've been married for ten years and I feel like my husband doesn't love me anymore?

sweet savannah

Do you compliment him much? Do you say thank you to him for even the littlest things? Men need to feel appreciated, respected and needed. Trying doing these things for a while and see if he warms up to you a little. If not, find yourself a good marriage counselor and go by yourself. People do it all the time. The idea is that he will become very curious about it all, what's being said, he'll want his side of the story out there and next thing you know he'll be going with you.

Find some strength and confidence. Don't let what you think he thinks about you define what you think about you. You are worth more than just being tolerated. You are worth being loved, cherished, honored, valued and appreciated. Fight for that. Don't just lay down and let this happen.

Good luck.

Angie

I think all marriages go through this at one point in time or another. I know I've felt the way you do on occasion.

Ideally both partners will be putting in equal effort to keep the relationship new and the bond strong. However, sometimes one partner has to go beyond 50/50 and take control.

You have to try to see your partner in the same light as when you first met. Do things for him that you might have done early on, smile at him a lot. I'm not saying that he isn't guilty of allowing the marriage to dull, I'm just saying that someone has to step up, it may as well be you that starts. It may seem like it isn't working at first, but keep it up.

You might also arrange to do something new together. This is proven to improve the marriage bond.

I don't think the age difference matters. My husband is 58, I'm 38. We're as incompatible as we can be, as far as "interests" go. But for some reason we click. I like the way he treats me and I love to be with him.

Joyce B

You need to have a serious talk with your husband. It could be that you have both just gotten into a rut. Perhaps it's time to plan a "date" night once a week. No kids, and no distractions (cell phones, etc). Just remember how you each felt when you started dating.

Betty D

How much weight have you put on since your wedding night?

askme

Sounds like you don't love yourself! Stop whining about it. Learn to love yourself....take your focus off your marriage....and focus on you. You can not control your husband...only yourself. Find you, love you, do things for you. Once your husband see's that you are not waiting around anymore for him to "change and love you more".....he'll most likely start to miss you, then you will feel the love that you are missing. If he is truly over you, at least you will have learned to love you and have the strength to end your marriage. But the age difference is minimal here,I don't think that's the issue. People in general are not attracted to clingy, whiny, partners....what attracts and keeps people interested in each other is having the ability to be interested in your own life and having the personal confidence about yourself that know matter what life has in store for you (fair or not) you can handle it. Learn to be emotionally strong. Find a good therapist to help reinforce your love of yourself.

Big J

Well, there is this book, it is called the Love Dare, it is a christian book, just warning you. It is a 40 day challenge to improve a marriage. Every day it has some new skill and builds up on the previous days. Now you could either do this as a couple or do it by yourself and surprise him.

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