I Have Proof My Wife Cheated On Me. Do I Show Her?

JASiege

I do not envy you in this situation. When children are involved it makes things way harder. Staying in possibly a loveless relationship is just as bad on your children. They need positive role models (and it doesn't sound like your wife is that) but seeing mom and dad not in a loving relationship can affect a child too. You need to do what ever is best for your children. It sounds like your wife is not even thinking her family, only her own needs. I don't feel any amount of counseling is gonig to help, you've been betrayed and that will always be in your mind, the trust is gone. I would meet with a divorce lawyer and figure out your options. Let your lawyer take care of the pictures, that could be good evidence in your favor for custody. You can tell you know she has been cheating and you want a divorce, but don't let her know you have pics until the divorce proceedings. Hope everything works out.

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Dump the unfaithful cow.

sunflower

Hold it for the divorce court. She'll never know what hit her.

The Monk

well u r one to decide. if u want a divorce then hold it for then

sloegin

I'd at least show her some of it. She might have time to cook up a good story before divorce court though so save some of your evidence to present at the last minute when she won't have time to think of a lie.

sexycinderella

Poor you. I wish you all the best here. Whatever you decide to do, just make sure you have copies... then if it does turn nasty, you have back up!
I say, don't make any hasty decisions in the heat of the moment. Discussing this in your marriage counselling may be a valuable option as you will receive instant guidance of what options you can take next. Also it will mean she is unable to twist things or brainwash you.

sparkleythings_4you

If you are already in marriage counselling then you are trying to fix a marriage that is already shaky, she is not making the same effort as you to make the marriage work, sleeping with multiple partners is not trying to fix the problem, is it? Take them to marriage counselling with you and discuss it there, at least the councillor will be able to ask the right questions and draw her out to find out why she has done this.

Amethyst_Moonfairy

Save them for court ... to prove that she's an unfit mother ... then you'll get custody ...

mikebnchprss

Divorce court. The judge may rule her behavior as detrimental & pull the kids.

Larry G

I never believed in cheating, especially with multiple men. Divorce her.

Baghdad Pete !

You should show a lawyer... Since your wife commited the infedelity, you'll get the kids. If you stick in a marriage where one of the partners has cheated it won't be healthy for the kids.

If you love your girls, then get the divorce now. A little pain now versus living in hell until a divorce later on.... Grow some balls buddy.

sexybabe

No, don't show it to her, otherwise you'll give her some time to prepare some lame story if you decide to get a divorce. Have it shown to her in Court..

Isn't there some way you can prove that she is an unfit mother, I mean seeing mommy bang a bunch of guys will most definitely be damaging to your daughters.

DATTA T

your thinking and actual fact may be different , check it once again and then decide yourself.

who ??

hmmm.. well u have proof of her cheating on u.. but u have to probably have them in a compromising position {}

sweet young thing

tell her you want a divorce and take everything when she contests it make copies and let her lawyer have it. winning is such sweet victory. what she did is wrong nail her azz to the wall she deserves it.

preciousluver69

Hold it for court, that way she can think she is getting away with her slickness.....then you can say by the way........

Fast Pace

If u love her, take her to conseling and found out why she was looking out side marriage for what she did not have a home. If u want to fight and streess yourself up asking for strangers decided about your girls future, than go to a court room.

SonicMessiah

Want my advice? I am a recently divorced man, and from the little experience I do have, I say this - expose her for what she is. Show her your evidence. Rub it in her face, humiliate her. Then, do it all over again in court with the same evidence.

Justice is sweet, but I am sorry for your discoveries. No one wants to know that their spouse is not being faithful, and it hurts bad.... and THAT is why you must do as I suggest. Make an example out of her.

bluelitttt

keep it to yourself, always good to have a Ace in the hole

gagirl01

My 1st thought is dump the *****. It seems clear that she doesn't value or want the marriage. You're in counseling so you've known there has been problems for a while now. Staying in it for the kids will only hurt all of you in the end. Whatever you decide keep in mind you have kids with this woman. If it gets nasty they WILL know and it WILL hurt them. Consider that but don't let her treat you like that any longer. Almost everyone deserves better.

Alwyn C

If you are going to eventually divorce her, you should put your photographs somewhere safe until then and don't even say a word about having them.. Make your accusations if you wish and forgive her, if you wish, but never let her know of the evidence you have against her. It's like keeping an ace up your sleeve in case you need it, if or when you go to court.

Cathy M

What happened two months? Before that, were there any problems? Did she try to tell you there were problems? From what you know of her character, is this behavior tearing her up inside?

You two need to talk...without showing her the evidence...see if she is able to come clean and be honest about what's causing this behavior... and then decide what to do after that.

My heart goes out to you and to your children...they didn't ask for this...

ebenjosiah

My brother, if you really love your wife and the kids just forgive her of her sins and go on with your life. Who knows perhaps you had cheated her in your previous birth and this is the time for her to retaliate so to speak.
The point I want to put across is the fact that nothing happens by chance and that you got married to the lady because the two of you have karmic accounts to settle between yourselves and it is for this reason why the drama cycle brought the two of you together so that you can settle your karmic accounts.
Do show her the pictures but assure her that notwithstanding her amorous relationships you still loved her but you would plead that she stopped flirting around at least for the sake of the children.
I am of the view that nine out of ten of both the men and women you see around cannot be classified as being perfect so throwing her out will not solve the problem and you might end up getting someone who is even worse than the former.

Move on! and if you have proof its even better for court
ask to have share custody so you can have the kids equal time

good luck

a g

leave he rfile for divorce and show her u have proof

2sexy 2cute

If you want to try to work on it present it at marriage counseling, if not take it with you to divorce court - it may be a helpful piece of evidence.

Pepe LaPue

Skip the counseling. Hang on to your stuff for divorce court and if you have what you say you have ~ I'll bet the judge will award you custody!!

Good Luck ...

PS Staying in a relationship like you have now hurts the little girls more than you know. They are not stupid ... there's friction in the air and they feel it and see it (lack of hugs and kisses etc between u and "her").

txcatwoman

you need to keep the family together for the girls, go to work every day, do what you have to , to keep the family together. do not punish your wife, but show her what she is missing. show her love and stability, and happiness, nothing is to be gained by splitting , we all know what this does to a family. remember, honey draws more flies than vinegar

Â¡Hola! Mi nombre es Tamara.

I wouldn't show her the evidence you have, until you go to court (if that's what you decide to do), BUT do mention this in your marriage counseling, and see if she will admit to it or not.
If you do decide you want to get a divorce (which I would, but is completely up to you), I'd get the best lawyer you can afford, and continue to build evidence against her.

What state do you live in!? In some states, you can get custody of the children, if you have damning evidence of her unfaithfulness, and especially if you show that you were trying to make the marriage work by going to counseling. ALSO, you may even be able to get other things AND child support.

So sorry you are going through this crap! I wouldn't wish this on anyone, especially when there are innocent children involved. Best of luck!

bob

Run fast. She does not love u at all. Get the hint! now say nothing. Prepare to get divorced. It will get ugly. not sure of your living situation but u are best to remove all of your things out of the house as u may not have access to them once the shit hits the fan. good luck and DON'T take her back. She will cheat on u until she finds someone and then she will dump u cold turkey!

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