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Inquisitive1
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you honor what the father wants right now because she isn't old enough to make her own decisions. in the mean time if u can keep in touch with her in some kind of way do that. while she finishes school u do the necessary things to prepare for when you guys get married because when she becomes 18 she is allowed by law to do what she wants. leave the decision up to her but don't push her. its going to be a hard road for u both but if u guys love each other u can do it. focus your energy on making yourself better by either saving up for marriage or going to school and she can do the same. i wish you guys the best. don't let emotions rule u kid u will regret it in the long run. make sure when u guys make big decisions u really think about everything that comes with it. u both have ur whole lives to live and i believe if u guys are as in love as u say, u will do just fine. good luck!:-) |
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benster0g
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Become rich. |
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Maine Guy
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If you aren't man enough to talk with her Dad one on one, you aren't mature enough to get married. |
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freakboynv2000
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you better stay away until she is 18. you might get your azz beat if you come around. after 18 she can do what she wants but be ready for all hell to break loose on the family front. don't get married until you are at least 25 because you will change a whole lot in that time. |
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Cathrine K
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Wait. If you are meant to be together you will be. If you got married now statistics are so high that your marriage will end in divorce. Not only that, you will alienate her parents. My husband and I are from different religious backgrounds. Time helps things and the fact that our marriage has lasted 13 years and counting helps the relationship with his parents. |
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basketcase88
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Until she's 18, you should respect her parents wishes. After she's 18, and after she's no longer dependent upon her parents for financial support, then all bets are off. You need to finish your own schooling, and not worry about getting married at such a young age. Don't worry about getting married until you're able to financially and emotionally support a family on your own. |
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knowssignlanguage
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well since her mom thinks it is ok and the dad is just being mean. I think you should talk to the mother and see if she can get her dad to change his mind. Prove to the parents that you are a nice boy and will treat his daughter with respect and tell him even though we have different religous background tell him that you will respect his religion also.
If talking to the parents do not work and you guys can wait then i would so i would not give up since you have the mother's apporval but try not to get her involved with hiding your relationship too much bc that will strain their marriage.
GOOD LUCK. |
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♥mama♥
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Wait wait wait....thats my 3 words of advice. Not saying your not in love, or whatever, but at 17, dont go there yet. Theres a whole process that comes along with getting married, and the first one is to grow up first, then to get engaged. Its a big step, and i think at 17, youve got a long way to go before you can lay down the rest of your life, and it should be taken that way, because yes you can get divorced, but whats the point of getting married in the first place if thats already an option on your mind, you know? just wait a little while, you might change your mind, even though you think a certain way right now, you dont understand how much it will change yet, and it will, believe me. |
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bibliophile31
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Wait until she is 18, and then she can make up her own mind hopefully. |
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typical not me
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To be honest it is difficult to say the least to make a marraige work when you have different religions. Let me ask you this. How do you want your children raised? Believing your way or hers? This is the problem. Maybe you should try to move on and see what happens with time. You are really too young. I know that it does not feel that way but you are. Don't tie yourself down so young when there is a world of unknown experiences out there for you to discover |
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*R.I.P Michelle Dominguez*
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You know I think you should wait until you finish college, but that is a long time from now, and there are other people out there. I honestly think you should not get married at such a young age. You still have other things you need to take care of first, and getting married might interfere. I know its hard, but sometimes its for the best. I hpoe you two work things out. |
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Bob
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at your age, odds are you'll change your minds in a 2 years anyway but, go for it. you may never find another girl like her and, if her father is any kind of decent man, he'll get over it and accept you. |
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Darby
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Finish school, finish college, keep in touch with her, but don't date any more until you are both age 18. Date others and if she's the one, you can wait. |
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fed up
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Your way to young to be thinking about marriage. Even if you got married having a father-in-law that doesn't like you will cause problems in the relationship. Date other people and if in a few years your still in love with her and you know she the one for you, then persue her. |
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Maggie MercuryMorrisonTownshend
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You are definitely too young to be thinking about marriage. Take it as it is. Move on. First loves are hard to get over and you will never forget it and may never completely get over it, but this is extremely normal and you will later find love that you didn't even know existed. good luck on making the right decision for you. |
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Maxis
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Well, both are still young to think about marriage... give some times to maintain relationship as friends. You should think about education and your career after that and hopefully, things will turn for the better and both can be together again if the feelings are still there. Religion is not an issue here. Too young is an issue here. |
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lyricshade2003
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Stop worrying about being married.
You're young.
Go to college or get some additional education with a trade etc., and establish your career.
Date. Have relatinships. Yes. Having relationships doens't mean you have to jump into marriage with someone.
You'll be better off if you establish a career first and then date and look for that someone later if you intend to get into the meat grinder known as marriage.
Enjoy life as a single before you jump into marriage. ou may find you prefer a long term relationship with someone you love without complicating it with marriage. |
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i sharpen
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Respecting her fathers wishes is "morally" the right thing to do right now. He may just be "testing" you. Even if he isn't, she has to do what her father thinks is best for her at 16. If you wait for her and not FORCE anything, her father will gain more respect for you as time goes by. Patience brings wonders.
One more thing. Remember that he can make it very hard for you to see her if you make a wrong move. Legally he can do whatever he wants since he is the legal guardian. You decide which is wiser. Force what you want, or work with her dad? I hope you will make the right decision. |
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ash
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i would stay with her but respect her father in another way by waiting until she is 18 |
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C. rodriguez <3
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i believe that love is powerful and if you truly believe you are both in love, you would do anything for her, when you are in a room full of people and all you can look at is her, you would risk your life for her, you know you are ready for a long lasting relationship. |
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bin there dun that
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yeah, wait it out
If you and your girlfriend are still in love in two years, do it.
If you are religious, then you know that when you marry, you leave your parents. If her Dad has a problem with that, it is his problem. Don't make it yours and your wife's problem. Good Luck. |
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DEFINATELY BLESSED
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At your age and hers, you need to take more than 2 years to get serious, like marriage. Yes you do need to respect her Dad's wishes AND YOU NEED TO TAKE THE TIME TO PROVE TO HIM THAT YOU WILL BE A GOOD PROVIDER FOR HIS DAUGHTER. YOU NEED TO GET AN EDUCATION OR TRADE AND A GOOD JOB. SAVE YOUR MONEY AND BECOME VERY RESPONSIBLE.
THAT WAY, AT 20 OR 21 YOU CAN PRESENT YOURSELF AS A GOOD 'CATCH' THAT EVEN A DAD CANNOT REFUSE.
In the next two years, you should be in the middle of your future education (college or trade school). Responsible people will then 'take time to earn and save money' prior to getting married...don't let your emotions stop what is best for you and her...be patient and 'earn' her. YOU CANNOT FIND A DECENT JOB WITH NO TRADE OR EDUCATION AT 20!
Do you want to be asking her DAD for money to help take care of her:::food, utility bills, car note, telephone/cell bills, AND GOD FORBID IF A CHILD COMES ALONG QUICKLY INTO AN EARLY MARRIAGE.
BE RESPONSIBLE AND HAVE A PLAN, THEN WORK YOUR PLAN. LOVE WILL ALWAYS BE THERE WAITING. SO, WHAT IS THE RUSH. |
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Beavis Seinfeld
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Well, what exactly is his problem with you, aside from religion--or is that it? If so, what are the slight differences in your religion? Are these vital issues? Is it possible that you could compromise? Have you tried to sit down and talk to the guy? |
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sadistwitch
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It sounds like the only thing standing in your way is religion. Do you love her enough to consider converting to please her father? This may be giving up part of you simply to please another and may not sound right.
But true love is about the will and ability to put your partner before yourself when it truly matters.
My cousin was Catholic, converted to a Mennonite. was the only way he was "allowed" to marry her. But he is a very happy man.
Can you imagine giving up such a thing for her? If you aren't sure, maybe the answer is to wait until the time this answer comes to you bright and clear.
And please note I am not stating that you SHOULD convert or you don't really love her. I am just asking you to think about how willing you are, and what it may really take? At 17, are you strong enough? Are you ready?
If you in fact love her, truly love her....then nobody else can or will matter. |
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Longhorns Forever
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18 is really young to get married |
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T Tyme
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I think you should continuosly talk to her father. But also think about the bigger picture. Right now all you see is the love you have for your girlfriend, but as time goes on religion will become a factor. It could be the reason you divorce. What church will the two of you attend? What faith/religion will you want for your kids? It will get complicated as you get older. Talk to her. i'm not saying it can't work, but explore her religion and allow her to explore yours. |
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mel s
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If you are completely financially independent, and you can support this woman with no help from her parents, you should consider marrying her. Go to a pastor for marriage counseling.
If you are not prepared to begin an independent life, then find a job, go to college and wait a while |
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MikeInRI
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I don't think you should be marrying this girl under the conditions you have just stated. It sounds like the issue here is the dad which I have to say is very odd and the fact that she as a teenager wont go against his wishes. It seems that she doesn't love you enough and you should move on.
Good Luck!!! |
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chewbaccawokka341
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Not marrying someone because a person related to them doesn't agree with your religion is stupid for that person to think that way, and probably stupid for the person who won't get married to the girl because of that unreasonable person, which is what he is - unreasonable. Don't not get married because of differing religions if you both "love each other very much." Shouldn't love be more significant than religion anyway.... |
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