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LB
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well, yes 21 is young. Is it too young? Only you know that. Sometimes younger people get married for the wrong reasons. Well heck, sometimes PEOPLE get married for the wrong reasons. I know I was definitely not mature enough at 21 to consider marriage but everyone is different. IF you are in love, and have a plan and are able to support yourselves independently of your families and independently of each other then great! If you're expecting marriage to be a magic wand then fuggedaboudit... |
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#1 Lucy Fan
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If you feel that you're not ready then don't do it but you shouldn't ask complete strangers whether or not you're too young to get married. |
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definitely. you're still growing and when you reach your peak, you're going to find out it's much different than the person you are now in terms of desires and needs. consider that. |
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kurts99ford
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Not if you are ready! I met and married my wife in the same calendar year, some people said that was too fast???? 10 years later we are still happily married. The point? only YOU can answer your question! ! ! |
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MJ
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yes,yes,yes..... wait until you are in your 30s |
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ohio_kitten
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It's not the age but rather the maturity level of the persons involved. I have seen mature 18 year olds who could handle marriage & I have seen childish 40 year olds who could not.
It also depends on the commitment level. If you look at marriage as a throw-away thing that you can opt out on at any time via divorce, you are not ready.
I myself got married when I was 22 & this August my husband & I will have been together for 10 years & counting.
But as one poster said, if you are asking your self this question, you are not ready. Go out sow some more of your wild oats. Then maybe in a few years you will be ready.
JMHO ...
Good luck! ;o) |
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joyceeleann
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I have been married twice, divorced twiced and have three kids. My first kid was at 21 and My first marriage was at 24. I look back now (i'm 34 now) and I think...I was a baby and had NO CLUE what life was about...I am still too young to get married.
Love is NOT the only thing that holds a marriage togehter. |
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tearsofthemoon00
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yes.Very. |
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sweetnsourmissy6
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as long as your happy and you know that this is the one! but personaly I won't get mairried will im in my late 20's or I have a degree. Your 21! Have fun! |
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lost2forever
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Yes. |
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linda h
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21 is young. But I got married at 20 and am very happy...22 years later!
Congratulations! |
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Poppet
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It is on the young side, but it is not too young. I got married at 22. 7years later we are still very happy. |
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killa' fo' real
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alot of people will say so but love has no rules. but if your 21 and he is 30 or 35 or something, then you will prolly not love him for that long. but no one can answer this acuratly. just ask yourself when you lay in bed next to him:
could i spend the rest of my life with this guy or am i taking a chance.
but then again, love is taking a chance no matter how you look at it so marry him |
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daisyk
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It's fine, I was 22, and my husband was 21 when we got hitched. It was great starting our marriage at an age where we were just starting our careers - we were old enough to have dated plenty of other people first and know what we really wanted out of a spouse, but still young enough to be able to have that whole bonding, building a life together process. |
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PrincessK
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Since everyone's personality is different, it depends on the maturity and education of the couple. Personally, I think that everyone should live on their own for at least two years (meaning that they be successfully self-supporting).before getting married. |
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H
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Anyone getting married under 30 is too young in my opinion |
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WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE
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21 is old enough to know if you love him. but 21 is not old enough to know who you are and what you want to be when you grow up. will he love you when you figure all that out or will he want to keep you at where you are now. |
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Georgewasmyfavorite
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Are you having the pre wedding jitters?It's normal to second guess yourself at this stage,after all,you are about to make a very important commitment. 21 is not too young if you know that what you are doing is THE right thing to do. I took the plunge at 21 and been happily married for 29 yrs. So there,I dated myself. |
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knitknitpurlpurl
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If the relationship has a good foundation (trust, honesty, communication, safety) then go for it. Only YOU, no one else cann tell you if it's right or not. At the end of the day, you close the door and it's only two of you. Age is just a number. But if you have doubt, usually that means don't. Think wheather it's cold feet or dread. Good luck! |
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Inquiringmind
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Very young, but then again if you're in love I don't know what difference it makes. A friend of mine's parents married when they were your age and that was almost 35 years ago now. if you're having cold feet though, wait. If you truly feel you're too young to get married now, you probably are. Trust your gut. |
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Leyla
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for getting married no but for having children yes |
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tjmoore83102
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It depends, for some people it is to young. For me it wasn't I got married a month before I turned 21. That was 5 years ago this august & so far so good. We dated for three years before getting married. Just know that marraige isn't something to enter into lightly. It's a life long commitment. |
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sugarBear
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If your asking this question, that means your having doubts & that's not good. If you think you are too young for marriage then you probably are. Maybe it's best for you to WAIT. because love is when you don't ever question things. Love is when you do anything to be with the person without a doubt or question in your mind & especially posting it here on Yahoo Answers. For me...I got married when I was 30. I enjoyed my life during my 20's by finishing school, getting my Nursing License, working a job I enjoy, saving enough money, saving for retirement & most of all I enjoyed shopping & buying whatever I want. We now have a 5 bedroom/5 bathroom house & are very happy. We are waiting to have our first child in a couple years because we still want to take advantage of our lives by traveling to different places like Europe, Bahamas, etc. We want to really enjoy life & save more money before we have kids. We are being very responsible about it & planning carefully because the future always matters. You should do the same!
GOOD LUCK TO YOU! |
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blondie
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well i first got married when i was 17 and i wish i never did, i missed out on alot in life, i wanted to have fun and live life, and go out and do stuff, and my husband sure would not let me, if you are through with the partying and the whole going out and having fun life then i would say have a good marriage, but also you may have a great husband who will go out and party with you i didn't, but if you are not ready to give that up don't get married just yet. |
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diamonds
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well..congratulations hun..if thats what you want...but - at 21yrs..you havent lived life's rich tapestry..and i think you know that you are too young - but if the church is booked - you are in up to your neck!!
life is very short...so i hope you have made the choice from the heart...and if that is the case..you will be fine. i hope your day goes well..and most importantly - be happy..savour every moment...because its supposed to be for the rest of your life! |
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luvlisteningtomusic
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In my opinion being 21 you are still so very young. You have not experienced married life and to you it is probably some kind of nieve way of thinking. I am not saying you are dumb by all means. I have the experience of being married. I am 37 years of age and have been married twice and still married to my second husband. Marriage takes work and you have to be willing to except your husbands flaws and also when you argue you have to learn to talk it out. It takes a lot of work. Some people get married young and it works out for them while others don't. |
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christina b
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If you really love your man then go for it but if you are having 2nd thoughts you might want to wait a little longer. i am 29 and my husband is 22 and if i could i would of waited not that he is a bad husband but he still has a little growing up to do a few weeks ago i found a picture in his wallet of his x and that really got me to think that maybe i should of gave it time because he is young. and at 21 you still have your whole life ahead of you to experience life maybe waiting is a good idea. but also you need to follow your heart because if you know in your heart that your gonna spend the rest of your life with him then do it and if you know that he has know 2nd thoughts and your both ready do it but if your not sure don't rush into it. marriage is not a game once you say I do that's it your whole life changes. you have two weeks to think about it but decide now instead of your wedding day. good luck to you and hope that i helped you out . |
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linzee_06
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Not if you're ready. I got married at 18 and I'm still married lol. A lot of "young marriages" don't work out, but if you love the person and you are willing to put yourself aside sometimes and you've really thought it through, then go for it. |
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Brother Tom
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If you are seriously questioning whether you are ready to commit yourself to marraige, then, by all means, put on the brakes. Only you can know if marraige is truly what you want at this time. Only you can know if you're ready. If you have any doubts, then explore them thoroughly and honestly before proceeding. |
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BigNate
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YES! You haven't had time to experience much yet. How do you know who you are even? What challenges have you faced? Where have you been? What do you want in life?
I think 25 is still almost to young, depending on the peole involved of course. |
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Kitty
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Yes, of course 21 is young. Is it too young to get married? It depends entirely on the person. |
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