I am 22 my husband is 36 i got pregnant with his child when i was 17......?

earthwaterairfire2006

no matter your age, either of you should be able to take some time with your friends to go out once in awhile... there are things you can talk to girl friends about that you can't always talk to your hubby about which goes both ways. it's good to go out together without the kids once in awhile too.

gcash81

He's a pervert and should be tossed in jail

Butterfly74

WOW you have attracted a lot of attention with your question!!!

I'll tell you what...I got pregnant and then I got married. I love my children and I loved my husband, but he felt a woman should stay home and only be a wife and mother so he ran off all my friends. I spent 4 years at home with the children, mentally and emotionally rotting (not their fault, I just needed some fun and some intellectual stimulation). If you don't come to some agreement with your husband your marriage will suffer and probably end, much like mine did.

Everyone makes mistakes, EVERYONE, I commend you for accepting the responsibility to take care and provide a home for your child. You could have taken an easy way out, but you didn't!!! So don't listen to anyway saying that this situation is somehow your fault, and "oh well just suffer with it" they don't know what they are talking about...or they have just accepted that life shouldn't be enjoyable.

jdavisauto

You have a husband and child to take care of, that's is call marriage. If you wanted to be young and have fun then you should have stay single and had no children. Remember that you was the one that open your legs to him, you was the one that said "I do" now you have to live with it or get a divorce. What you have to is ask your self this, are you going to be a normal woman, go out sleep around with anyone, become a sl$t and forget about your oath to your husband? Or will you be one of the very very few women and stay true to your responsibility as a wife and mother?

linkgurlie06

you made a decision when you got pregnant and married, and now you have to deal with that decision. you have other responsibilities. if you wanted to be young and have fun, you should have thought about that before you hooked up with this guy and got pregnant

chick-a-dee

that 's a downside of marrying an older person. You should be able to have fun.

nax_alone

well yes u should be able to go out and be young once in a while

Smudgeward

Best keep your eyes on any babysitters though.
Thought you were going to say your child is 17!

Jesseluver

whoa......all i can say is go have your fun girl send him to jail!! he trying to act like your daddy and move out or something!

dirk_vermaelen

Sure. Perhaps take a few girlfriends along. Mutual if possible. It might re-assure him. Like a parent sent along the older brother to guard the youngest child ;-).

Mandy

You should get to party every once and a while. I mean this guy stole your youth from you. Tell him that you feel you are missing out on things in life and you would just like to have some fun every other Saturday night or something like that. If he still dosn't agree you should tell him that if he really loved you he would let you enjoy your life and let you go out every once and a while. GO HAVE SOME FUN!!!!!!!!! Not too much fun though, I know what that looks like and its not pretty.

princess_jaled_92

YOU SHOULD OF THOUGHT OF THAT BEFORE YOU HAD KIDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

aim_22001

What do you mean it?
Are you not happy with your husband ?
you May if happen in your society.

THIS IS WHY THEIR IS ALWAYS A PROBLEM WITH MARRYING YOUNG (17)YOU HAVEN'T ENJOYED LIFE YET, ALSO MARRYING SOMEONE WHO IS THAT MUCH OLDER THAN YOURSELF BECAUSE THEY HAVE BEEN THEIR AND DONE THAT. EVEN THOUGH IT'S NOT FAIR TO YOU FOR HIM FEELING THIS WAY YOU SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THIS BEFORE YOU GOT INVOLVED AND HAD CHILDREN.

sandcatsle

Everyone needs a vacation from their routine every once in awhile. As an adult, you are able to go out and do whatever you want to do, whenever it. As a parent, you have an obligation to your children to make sure they are cared for. What kind of fun are you talking about? Many people mean getting drunk, doing drugs, or picking up guys when they say be young. Sensible fun, like lunch with friends, or a movie shouldn't be an issue. Stupid fun, meaning activities you may regret later, would probably raise a question in my mind if I were your husband.

donielle

yes you should be able to have fun and you will still be a good mom just dont do it all the time

PuterPrsn

Depend on what you mean by "be young". It was your choice to take on the responsibilities of adulthood. While there's no reason not to have an occasional "ladies night out", you do have responsibilities that must be met, including being there for your husband and children. If you wanted to party hearty and be young, you should have done so when you were young and unencumbered. Sorry.

yars232c

ha ha ha...I thought you were gonna say you were still pregnant based on how you formed your question.

It's a partnership, he has to understand your needs.

bambi

of course, but this isn't going to happen, your age difference is just too big, hes at a different stage in his life, he already had that before he ever even met you. men don't go for change very well, hes insure your young and he probably is remember the things he did at your age and is afraid you will be the same. so id suggest you go out anyways but be tasteful about it, check in constantly remember your a mother and it was your decision to get married and have kids at such a young age, now its not about you being a kid and having fun anymore its about you being an adult and a mother to your kids. you have to live with all the decisions you make in life, remember that when you want your childhood back. Most people your age that you are probably planning on going out with don't have kids or aren't married and wont understand your responsibilities, so like i said its healthy to go out on occasions but you cant be out there clubbing and acting a fool like most people your age, be tasteful...

o0OSMOKEO0o

Well yes you should be able to go out and have fun, but you also have to wonder if having a kid is coming back to bite you in the ***.

Panacea

No....you gave that up when you became a mom.

chelle

i would say that the two of you need to agree on a decision.. maybe go out once a month with the girls. you decided to get married young and have kids and now you have to deal with the responsibilities. i am 25 married with 3 kids and my hubby is older and i went through the same things with him. we decided to go out together once a month and he goes out with the guys once a month and i have one night a month to do what i want. good luck p.s. i live in iowa also

confused

He is older and he isn't used to this!!! Same situation except I don't have kids and my husband is 34. Have fun while you can because you are going to look back and regret it. we need to enjoy ourselves that's what being young is about

sumit81

he is pedophile, do not listen to him, would you like to go with me on date... it is perfectly normal

boomerang3que

Yes. The truth of the matter is that he was already finished with the stages that you are about to go through BEFORE you all got married. He has to take that into account. This is why I am a strong advocate of marrying someone around your same age (too late for that now) so you all can grow TOGETHER. He has already grown and you have to grow.

Christina

well i hate to break it to you but you are no longer young, you have a baby and made the desision to have that baby and be in this older relationship so now you have to settle for it, your first mistake was settling down at 17, i'm sure plenty of people told you not to do it because you will regret it , he is too old for you, well he had his fun, he was 17,18,19,ect... and he had his fun, now he just wants to settle down and be a boring old guy. well thats what you get for marrying an older guy.all i can say it you gte what you asked for . good luck.

judith r

Yes, you should. However, your husband has already sown all his wild oats, and doesn't realize how stiffled you feel. I suspect he feels that you will leave him if you discover that life can be fun for someone your age. I also suspect he doesn't like the idea of you going out to places where there are lots of single men. Get a part time job, and just go out asking him to go with you, always making sure there is a babysitter available that you have paid for. This is one of the problems that often face couples where the age difference is so great.

never_alive666

well why didnt you think of that before you got married... try speaking to him about him about it if he says No well im sorry theres no other choice try making him happy then ask thats wat i do with my parents hopefully it will work see ya

JOSEPH C

Certainly you can go out. But, married folks usually go out together. If you expect to be able to go out with other young, probably single people to clubs to party, dance, and socialize; you might as well file for divoce now, and save the dranma of getting caught playing around on your spouse. Face it, while young, your days of being able to go out as single people do ended when you married. The same for him. Be a married couple, or get a divorce. Can't have it both ways. You gotta choose

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