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Senator D
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Well let's start off with the fact that he is not the one carrying the baby. You are. What do you want to do? If you want to have it who gives a damn what he thinks. If you don't want it. Then there are two options. I am sure you know what they are. |
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Jay
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Children are forever and he made a conscious(I'm assuming) decision to have a third child with you. Now that reality has set in he should not try to force you into a guilt mode because he changed his mind.
Do what you feel is right for you and the children... if that is to leave, then do so. If not, seek marriage and parenting counseling so that his current resentment doesn't turn into rage that could possibly harm you or the children. |
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J L
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Leave him. If he doesn't want the baby, he may end up resenting the child once it's born. I don't believe in abortion and it's too late to abort anyway.
Remind him that it took two of you to make the child and he should have protected his juices if he didn't want a third child because it's too late now! |
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ricksgrl2005
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Leave him. You didn't do this on your own. |
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johnnydean86
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He probably thought y'all were in a deep enough hole already. Geez!! It's a little late for second thoughts, don't ya think? |
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smartypants909
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Keep the baby, get rid of him. |
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nena
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leave him !!!!!!!!! dont kill ur baby what ever u do its urs 2 who cares if he dont want it then he dosnt want u |
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TracyBee
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If you are a member of a healthy church family, go talk to a marriage mediator. If that is not an option, discuss a christian adoption. There are organizaions out there that will take the baby and place it it a christian home.
PLEASE - NO ABORTION!!!!!!!! |
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gypsy g
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Do you want the child? I'd venture to guess that the child most likely isn't the real issue. You don't talk about having another child and then get pg and then decide you don't want it anymore. How f*cked up is that? And him not accepting it by now leads me to believe he had other plans, one that most likely didn't include you and children. Right minded people just don't change their minds in the middle of such major life experiences and then act out because they are pissed. Something isn't jiving. |
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patricia
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Your children are a blessing from God.1 more dose not make that big of a difference.And if you do this it will Kill your heart.Stand strong and tell Him you might as well hush because I am not murdering my baby...Like it or not.What do you want matters to not just what He wants..When you play you pay tell Him..This baby is meant to be or it would not be...It has a purpose in your life.And it might be the only child He will have around for Him when He gets to be an old Man...We all have to get old...And you have to meet your maker God some day.I would not do this.I would give it up if I were going to do anything at all....Bless you in your decision...I am praying for you,,,Just look into your other children,s eye,s. |
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rhonda_seiler
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My 1st at 16, my 2nd at 19 also! PLEASE GO SEE A COUNSELOR!!!! And your doctor , church?, someone before u do something u cannot fix. |
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mushygalny214
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Well, it seems as though you want to have the baby. Your husband has to decide if this preganacy is worth making his family miserable. And if it is worth the medical risks for you to have a termination at this point. Besides, he shouldn't resent you for getting pregnant, it "took two to tango". He may resent the fact that you don't want to terminate the pregnacy. To make it better? Thats a hard question to answer. I suggest that you find a couples counselor or therapist to help you mediate and resolve the situation as fast as possible. |
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Jennyc
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I am 30 years old with 2 boys. I was in a similar situation except I didn't want anymore kids (that would have been # 3 for me ). I chose to terminate my pregnancy and regret it greatly. You have to do what your heart tells you. You will most likely work through it since it seems like you have been through a lot together. I wish you the best.
Good luck!!!! |
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atiana
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sweetheart, I am so sorry for the way your husband is treating you. the stress he's causing is not good for you or your unborn baby. I honestly don't understand how a man could not want his own child, and this just breaks my heart for you. I understand that you had your first child when you were both very young, but that's no excuse for him not wanting the baby you are carrying now. he needs to straighten up and act like a man. because right now, he's acting about as immature as he possibly could.
there is nothing you can do to make things better. he is the one who needs to choose to make things better. you haven't done anything wrong.
you deserve to be treated right. the 2 children you already have deserve to have a good, stable home life, and the baby you are carrying deserves to be wanted and loved. if your husband doesn't stop this behavior and change his heart and mind about this baby, he will tear your family apart. he's obviously not being supportive of you while you're carrying his child, what's does he think he's going to do when he/she gets here? is he going to ignore the baby and have nothing to do with it? this little person is part of him, and didn't ask to be brought into this world. and you don't need to feel guilty, because you didn't get pregnant on your own. like it or not, your husband needs to start behaving like a responsible man and father of 3.
if he won't accept this baby and support you in this pregnancy, you need to find another place for yourself and your older children to live. you and the children deserve happiness, not misery. I don't think your husband understands how blessed he is to have a wife and three children. If he did, he wouldn't be behaving like this right now. tell him to picture his life without you and the children. tragedies happen every day. and if something happened to you and those kids, his life would be changed forever. just ask him to think about that. I pray that he will. and I pray that he will come to his senses.
I will keep you, your 3 children, and your husband in my prayers.
just remember that even though you don't know me, and I don't know you, I care. and most importantly, God cares. |
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Stacy H
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Unfortunately the damage is already done and whether or not he wants the baby it is obviously coming so he needs to learn to deal with the fact that the two of you are having another child. He should have thought long and hard about it prior to you stopping your birth control. Why is he making everyone miserable??? After all he participated in making the pregnancy happen. He needs to buck up and learn to deal with his responsibilities. I am sure once the baby arrives things will change. Once he sees the baby he will be more excited. Good luck to you all. |
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Rachel F
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Talk to him. Tell him how you feel...if you already have 2 children, this one shouldn't be a problem. And if he still doesn't want another child, tell him your having it anyway, he'll get over it. |
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~*Godz_ANGEL*~
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it's up to you whether or not you want to keep this child. me personally, i think you should keep it because the baby already started to develop. i know that later on down in your life you will regret it if you abort the baby. but it is up to you. |
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moonlillies
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Shame on him for putting you in this situation. That is an innocent child that did not ask to be put in this situation. He should have compassion for you and that child. It is his flesh and blood. He wanted to create the baby so he should stand up and be a man and take care of the baby and you. Apparently he knew you were off the pill since a third child was discussed. Now is not a good time to decide he didn't mean it. They always want to lay down and have a good time but they never want to deal with the consequences.. |
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hotbutter
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do the right thing and have your baby and love this baby. maybe he will come around. |
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truthseeker221
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There is a reason God gave you this child. You should have it. If he loves your other children, he'll love this one also. And if he doesn't want to accept responsibility for this pregnancy, he isn't even half the man you thought he was. A real man takes on his responsibility even when it doesn't suit him. You didn't get pregnant by yourself and sometimes the unwanted babies turn out to be the greatest gifts. Don't let him talk you into choosing between him and your child. Could you choose him over one of your other children. This baby needs your protection more than ever. It is completely helpless and depends 100% on its mothers protection. Tell your husband to grow up and if he refuses, kick him to the curb. |
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realistic
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'For a man it is very easy to say ,have one abortion and it is ok.you have to see what is best for you,if you can handle another child.Don't let he acts like it is just your fault that you got pregnant..Talk to him.Abortion is one of the saddest thing could happen to a women and,you have to think if that is the real reason why he is make your family life miserable. |
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jessy
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Your too far to change anything.Give up on your dude and concentrate on yourself and the Baby.You may have to raise it on your own .Your guy is kinda a dog.He made that Baby so he might want to act age appropriate! Look if you have to do this alone do it and dont look back. |
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watergirl
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You need to do what is best for you in this situation. Consider all alternatives before making any type of decision. |
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lisa_08
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its not the baby fault for the mistakes you'll made.don't get an abortion. |
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zil28ennov
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Adoption or maybe a family member could help out. |
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kitcat
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Oh the things we do when we are young. I will never advise any woman married or not to get rid of baby. You are too far along now. The only thing you can do is go on with the pregnancy and hope for the best but if it doesn't work out for the best you can always give the baby up for adoption. Your choices are to keep the baby or give it up for adoption. Get some counseling and do some heart searching. You are too young to make this decision on your own or by yourself. Your husband is thinking of his freedom, he's just being selfish. After this baby is born get on some birth control. Good luck. |
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fucose_man
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Either give it up for adoption or tell him tough boogies. If he didn't want you to get pregnant he shouldn't have discouraged you from using birth control.
After this one, get your tubes tied. |
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