I am a married man. Is it really so wrong to have a extramarital affair?

TNL

Would you say all of this to your wife, if not then obviously there is something wrong with it. I think that if you are to that point then you shouldn't have the privilage of being with your wife anymore.

Good deeds

so is it ok for your wife to do the same?

mickey g

it is wrong. when you married her you promised her that she would be the only woman for you. now you want to have her and any other woman who comes along? how selfish is that?!? there is apparently something wrong in your marriage that you refuse to see.

how would you feel if she was sleeping around?

andalucia

You made a promise to your wife. Are you a REAL man that keeps his promises, or are you the poster-child for the "me" generation?

If there are kids involved, tough it out till they are out of the home. If there are no kids, be honest with your wife... tell her your feelings. Maybe seek counseling.

BTW, the only reason perfect strangers are so enticing is just that you don't know what their baggage is yet. Everyone has their own problems. Nobody is perfect. Strangers only SEEM that way because we don't know them. The grass is not greener over there,

SunValleyLife

As long as YOU get your needs met.

Forget the wife who gets hurt, betrayed and ruined.
Forget the "passing fancy" who is used.

Sounds like a win for YOU.

You need to repent for these feelings and love your wife and maybe concentrate on HER needs and you will forget your own selfish so called needs.

Marriage is sacred. You will be accountable.

Lorina

Well....Well...Well..
You big fat >>>>>>>PIG>>>>>>>>

turnertot1992

Well if you don't want to hurt her then why in the hell are you thinking about an affair? It is purely wrong and if you do this I hope you get caught!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

watergirl

Yes, it is wrong to seek companionship outside your marriage. I understand your needs, but do you realize how much you could hurt your wife if she should discover your extramarital affairs?

Perhaps you should seek marital counseling.

kny390

Put the shoe on the other foot. How would you feel if your wife told you the same thing. Not very happy I would imagine. Temptations are always out there from work to walking down the street. A man does not have to act on "Just because I want it", he makes his commitments and stays with them. Give some careful thought before you take that next step, look at what you could possibly loss and determine if it is worth a quick role in the hay.

mikehalliev

Ask your wife and see what she says

Joanne B

Yep, you're a pig. Now that that's out of the way. What you are talking about is NOT a need, it is a desire and a fantasy. If you have an affair it's a violation of trust that most women would find unforgivable. When you got married you took a vow to "cleeve only unto her." If you don't want to lose your wife and marriage get over it. It doesn't matter how long you've been married. It matters that you are.

hermione3291

that is very wrong. it would hurt her if she ever knew. u r married to her for a reason u r supposed to be with her and ONLY her. u need to ignore that "need". think about her with another man. u shouldnt like it, think about how she would feel. that is horrible to even think that.

john b

Duhhhhhh!!!! of course itis wrong..

Fen

You have desires, that's natural. But it is absolutely not okay for you to have an extramarital affair unless your wife is okay with it. And if she is, you also have to be willing to let her do the same. We're talking about marriage here, and marriage is just a promise to completely devote yourself to another for the rest of your lives. Now, this promise doesn't always work out. In fact, it's becoming more and more common for marriage to fall apart. But think about the promise you have made here, and what it does and should mean to you.

zsmit65

well put yourself in your wifes shoes how would you like it if she did the same thing i was on that end and i found out i ended it just took the kids and left so thing about what the outcome may be and you will find the answers within yourself you be your own judge

Raven

We all have urges but we also have control.
Did you know beforehand what marriage
meant? Did you listen to the vows? Is it OK to potentially hurt your wife and, God forbid, your children? Any woman who would fool around with a married man anyway is already a LOSER. She might make sure your wife finds out sooner or later. Don't be a weak fool, a cheating husband, and a deceitful father. Grow up
and follow the rules.

CoLeY

Have you talked to your wife about your urges? Maybe you guys can become swingers. No, really you need to tell her how you feel, maybe ya'll can spice it up in the bedroom. You CAN'T cheat on your wife and think that it is ok. You took vows and they should have meant something.

poohbear's_girl

well... i think that maybe you should just put the thought out of your mind and every time you think about it to hit yourself or someting. You are only thinking about YOUR needs what about your wife of ten years dont you think that she needs you? do you know that commiting adultery is disobeying one of the ten commandments that is just error trying to tell you that you need something that you dont

ragged

Rather than asking strangers, who don't know you, for advice online, please confide in a trusted friend, clergyman or counselor who can advice you according to your situation and your needs. Please understand that you are not the only married man who has had these feelings. Please understand that you are in dangerous waters and you need excellent advice and counsel. Good luck to both you and your good wife.

Affan

I hope your wife tells you that she had an affair!

sugarbud

Oink oink, oink oink....oink oink oink oink. Oink oink oink oink oink. Oink oink oink oink.

P.S. Oink

:0(

devde

YES IT IS WRONG ! WHAT EVER IT IS THAT YOU NEED YOUR WIFE SHOULD BE THE ONE TO GIVE IT TO YOU . MAYBE SHE DOES NOT KNOW YOU ARE NOT SATISFIED OR WHATEVER THE PROBLEM IS YOU SHOULD TELL HER . SHE MAY BE WILLING TO GIVE YOU WHAT YOU WANT . THERE IS AN OLD SAYING "ASK AND YOU SHALL RECIEVE "

moebiusfox

We males are hard wired to "stob it in."

So no,It isn't wrong to feel the way you do,

I felt that way when I destroyed my 16

year marriage with an affair.

In retrospect,I wished I hadn't.It wasn't worth it and now I will go to my grave
without her , all those beautiful hopes
and dreams we had together are destroyed and at a certain point,there's no going back to the way it was.

I thought as well that MY needs were not being addressed but I realize it was because we weren't communicating effectively. .

And I was seized in my ego.

Victor O

Maybe you should tell your wife what you just told the rest of us. "you don't want out of the marriage" ... "you don't want to hurt her or the kids" ... "you have a good wife" ... "your needs are just as important" ... "you want another relationship with another woman" .... Maybe you should tell her. If you keep it from her, either she's going to find out and not be happy about it, or (because a "relationship" with another woman would take time, money and commitment) it will take away from your time, money, and commitment with her and the kids) and you'd be seen as a bad father and/or bad husband because you will be missing in action without any sort of explination. Perhaps if you're missing in action with an explination that everyone knows from the beginning (or at least your wife knows) it will be more ok.

Obria

if your marriage does not satisfy you get a divorce.

bigirv@sbcglobal.net

It may be wrong but it sure is fun

~just_jd~

only if it is fair for her too.

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