I am attracted to my hubbys friend/serious answers only?

Isis

You are playing with fire. If you love your husband and kids, stay away from this man. It is that simple.

Amanda

You just have to realize what is at stake. He is probably not worth it. Try not to be around him. It is normal to have those feelings. But, just don't act on them again! You can do it, hang in there!

Also he is not a very good person, if he is putting you in this position and obviously doesn't have any respect for your family.

Oh and ignore the idiots above me. They are being judgemental themselves, so they have something coming for them.

fireball226

hes forbidden fruit but please dont destroy two relationships...tell him sometime when you can that it will never happen again DO NOT FLIRT Think of your whole life your kids ok? Make them proud of you please girl.. OOO

~*Megan N MaRc~*

I think you may have developed feelings for your hubby's friend and if you want to be with his friend ask him and let him know how he feels before you make any hasty decisions... Your husband's friend flirts back at you and obviously shows that it wasn't just a one night stand that he may have feelings for you, but if you want it to work with your husband i think you should let him know, just realize there is a chance of your husband leaving you and alot of trust issues will delve lop if you tell him that you cheated and especially with his best friend... If you don't want anything to happen with the friend then simply tell your husband don't you don't' want him coming over or when he comes avoid him as much as you can and you can always keep this from your husband but will consensus i think thats how you spell catch up with you will u be able to live with that guilt really think about it ? good luck 2 you

bluedanube69

first of all .. I don't buy that crap about it being an accident.. and second you are not one bit sorry you cheated on your family..... admit it and deal with it. you are not a child stop acting like one..

Angel Eve

Because you got away with it. Ya know... what goes around comes around... and one day your husband is going to figure you out and leave you.

You seem to be enjoying the kick out having a extra martial affair. Its better you treat yourself through a marriage counsellor. Dont give in to small little pleasures instead of the larger ons which will make you regret forever.

amgpsycho

you should be a REAL wife and keep your pants on. The worst thing is your kids were probably home when you ACCIDENTLY messed around with this other guy....What kind of friend is he to your husband...You are supposed to be your husbands best friend, his life partner and this is how you take care of him....Wow women like you are the reason other wives get bad names....Try being faithful, and if you can't then let your husband go so he can get a real woman that loves him he deserves it. Also you need to think of the example your setting for your kids what would you say if they seen you? Who needs enemies when they have a spouse like this?

My dear, you are treading on dangerous ground. Its normal to sometimes stray mentally because of daily routines and you seek something different but put yourself in your husband's place.
I hate to hand over a cliche but believe me, what goes around does come around. I agree with Mrs. Carter, this other man cannot be good if he so readily disrespects his friend and most of all the family. In the long run he's obviously just looking to get a piece. That in itself speaks for the kind of person he is. You don't need to ruin your family for a quick fix. Remove all temptation.

Rica 82

You get butterflies in your stomache because it must have been the most exhilarating thing that you have done and had in a very long time. You know its wrong and you can't do it because of your husband and his feelings, which makes you think about it even more. Temptation is what's killing you, not the guilt. Deep inside, you wish there could be another night, but you know it can't happen because of your man. Don't ever tell him, ever. I think that ever woman thinks about an ex or a fling that they have had and wonder. You get happy when he's around b/c it was good. Then you have to think about your husband, how would you like it if he slept with one of your best friends behind your back? how would you take it?

rhonda h

If your sorry about cheating before you wouldn't dare even think about it again .

ksdeer_hunter

First off you really need to stay away from this guy no matter what.You're playing with fire and liable to get burnt, very badly. From both sides- your hubby and this guy. Remeber that you have little ones to consider. It's not just your life that you're playing around with. You need to talk to someone close to you about the feelings that you are having, maybe you pastor or a counselor. It sounds like you having some self esteem issues. Good luck

Darkangel1111

i think that you need to realize that there might be something missing fromyour relationship with your husband--maybe you both could use some counseling to help realize why you feel so attracted to somebody else--it always seems to be the excitement of somebody else around us--but it sometimes isnt the only reason--------------trhough conseling you can get it for yourself you know--you can find out the deeper reason youve been feeling this attraction and then do something about it before you end up messing up your marriage-----------

Serenity

That's a very difficult situation, and I know what you mean. My husband's a wonderful guy, but... there's probably not an easy answer for us. I found that it was harder for me when I was staying home. Maybe if you go out more it will help. Also, exercising outside will help clear your mind and help you control your emotions.

When you begin lusting after this guy, you need to stop it as soon as it starts. Think about other things, or concentrate on your husband and things you can do to show him you love him.

Also, it really helps alot to talk to your husband about how you feel. Some people think it's odd, but my husband and I are really up-front about being attracted to other people. It helps us to help each other and keep each other out of situations that could cause temptation, and it helps us to trust each other because we know we tell each other everything. Depending on how far you went with this man, perhaps it's best not to tell your husband, because it will hurt him. But you should tell him that you find his friend attractive, and ask him to help you in this area, while you try to shift your emotions for the guy over to your husband where they belong. Good luck! I know it's not easy! But it's so important!

purpleskym1

You obviously didn't feel to horrible if you never told your hubby. Something like that would eat at my conscience forever until it was told.
If you still get a "high" when this guy is around, then you need to make sure your never around when he is because you have a fantasy crush on this guy. I don't think it is because you really want to have him for life, I think it just may be that "I can't have him" but have the hots for him thing going on in your mind and it is a thrill to hide.
Stay away.

boozer

obviously your husband is not paying you enough attention,the attention is whats giving you the high.steer clear this is enough to make you lose your husband,the secrecy is also a high

tom4texas

From what you have said it sounds like you are having an emotional tug of war with yourself. You know what you did was wrong and that pulls at your moral strings but yet there was a fire and a passion which seems to be missing and that also pulls you. It is normal to have someone turn you on but the differance is you have to channel that energy elsewhere. It sounds to me like you still love your husband and do not want to do anything to hurt him. So I would recommend that when his friend is around that you try not to put yourself in a precarious position and if you are still feeling those flutters after he leaves, get the kids to bed and shower your passion upon your husband. I hope this helps some. In all truth you are the only one who can make the decisions. I wish you good luck.

Wendy Jean

He doesn't sound like a very good friend to you or your husband. Every marriage has rough spots, but if you really love your husband you will back away from the things you know are tempting you. Write down what attracted you to your husband in the first place, how you use to be so in love, make a romantic dinner....get the spark back. Telling your husband would most def end their friendship, but you are the only one that knows if he would leave you over it. But put yourself in his shoes, would you want to know if he did something like that. I don't know what I would do ~ I would hope I could tell my husband, that way the friend could quit coming around and hopefully my husband would forgive me. But you have to decide that part. Good Luck.

PS I know what you mean about feeling excited and such, but you know what, I learned that my husband can give me those same feelings.

floridaman39us

If you two are busy flirting with each other, then you shouldnt be married. As Mr. T says, " I pity the fool who flirts with my woman"......Either quit your flirting or leave your husband to be with this guy so that you can really mess your life up....Good luck woman.....

chrissy20us

My suggestion is to stay away from your hubby's friend but you also are going to need to tell him or the guilt will eat you up inside and it will get to the point that it will feel like your going to explode if you don't tell him. It's better to tell him now about the affair then later because it will hurt him a whole lot worse later then now. You also have to prepare for him to go both ways to. Whether he forgives you again or he divorces you and leaves you for good. Either way you need to tell him he has a right to know. I just hope everything doesn't go sour for you and your hubby, and try to go to marriage counseling to work on the relationship that you both have left, if any.

Earth Queen

Therapy. Lots of therapy.

Nanniekc

Your self-esteem is really low, you are at home with 2 kids
and some guy makes goo-goo eyes at u, are u nuts?
This guy sounds like a player to me and now he has your
number too. He figures you gave it up once, u will do it again.And sounds to me like u would in a heart beat if u weren't to get caught.. Shame on u!!! I would tell this guy
that u are sorry this happened but when hubby isn't home
he can't be there either. I'm disappointed in you for being
so weak, is it fair to the kids that there mom is so loose
Or your husband's for that, keep it to yourself and never
talk about it again. don't ruin everyones life because you
had a moment of weakness!!!

Quasimodo

"You forgave yourself"? Gee...that was mighty nice of you. Perhaps your days at home should be spent searching for your lost morals. Maybe you left them under the bed along with your husband's buddy's underwear.

crank

then maybe you should be with the friend but eitheir way what you did was so wrong it has left me speachless.do you know what your husband would do to eitheir of you if he found out . does he own a gun. oh hell i dont think id need any wepon to do to you what id do. id be so enraged no judge would convict me. and same for him. does stupidity run rambid in your family? you know whats right or you wouldnt ask that guestion in first place.

pirateron

Then your a sinner and in trouble noe .

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