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msdnmo
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Yes, he's cheating. He's having an emotional affair. He'd rather risk you leaving than give her up. Guess you know where you stand in all this? |
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notyou311
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That is definitely cheating and it is a betrayal of your relationship for him to tell her private things. Your marriage is in trouble. See a marriage counselor. |
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snowboarding1236
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uh he is cheating
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6ofUs
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Why are you asking anyone else if it is cheating? People have different standards ... for some, kissing is not cheating ... for others, the mere thought of intimacy with someone else is betrayal and a form of cheating. Does it feel like cheating to YOU? Because you are the only one who can judge that ... if it violates a boundary for you and you are very uncomfortable about it and the conversations are intricate and detailed and private ... is that cheating to you? |
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Intp female
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If you feel that you doing the same thing would be cheating and that your husband wouldn't tolerate it, then it is. |
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Five G
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yes |
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Mum of 2
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So obviously he is telling you in no uncertain terms that he is going to put her before you - How would he be with an ex of yours?
Personally I would walk away, I would not play second best to any ex
Good Luck |
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doingthepanic
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It's cheating. |
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yacwithtee
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Seems like he is still in love with her. Especial if he said that he will not give up his friendship or loose her again. does that mean even if you asked him too? He might not be cheating only because she might not want to sleep with him, but I am sure he wants too sleep with her. either way, whether it is mental or physical he is cheating |
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♥ Black Adder
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Sounds like he has given you an ultimatum. So he will not give up "her friendship" and loose her again but will destroy his marriage to you? I think that marriage counseling is definately in order.
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oncebtn
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yes he is cheating it may not be physical yet he is cheating on the trust you are supposed to have between you. |
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kennyboy
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He's cheating on you ! |
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The Future Mrs.
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Seems to me that he hasn't actually comitted the "act of" cheating, but that in the mind he has. This for me would be completely unexceptable.
He has disrespected you in speaking in that manner to her.
So, even though I have said that he hasn't actually cheated by actually sleeping with her yet, he has cheated you.
Good Luck and I hope things get better for you. |
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owlfanatic
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I feel for you, it must be difficult. I think you need to ask him what it is that he gets from her that he doesn't get from you. He needs to make you understand why she is important. if it is all innocent, there is no reason why you can't arrange a meeting with you all and a partner of hers to make you all mutual friends. If he refuses all this, then there is something more to the relationship and you need to make him understand that is not right. If he doesn't understand, is he worth it? I would be very upset if my husband did this. A friend can always be given up for your soul mate. I hope it works out for you. x |
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Veronica
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He still loves her. That's pretty obvious. I was in a relationship just like this not that long ago and it ended pretty badly. But what i ask myself is why would you even marry him before knowing these things about him. |
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I'm sorry Dave.♥
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He still has feelings for her obviously... |
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Josie
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Hmmm, I don't know if it's really cheating but I sure as hell wouldn't be very happy about it. If it makes you uncomfortable, I would give him the ultimatum. |
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iltmaemc
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here is where life choice come into play.
you need to choose. good luck |
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Buffy Summers
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He doesn't care very much about your feelings or he wouldn't be playing this game. He is the one who should feel conflicted for putting you in this position. Don't believe the crap.
Ask him to go to counseling with you. |
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prescientone
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It is difficult for you...however, if he is willing to share with you any communications with his ex and keep it at the friendship level and never ever see her in person...maybe it is not cheating. Since he was hiding the emails, etc. he is a cheater and I don't hear any remorse in your question...that is a problem. He needs to realize that he is with you and let her go...not good. |
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Deena R
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wow if he turly loves you he will respcet you, but what he is doing is wrong, i almost left my boyfriend cause he was doing the same thing but we sat down and talked about it i told him it out of respcet for you to be talking to this girl like shes your girl, he did it few times i was packing that day but he realized i was serouis so he told her it got to stop because he couldnt afford to lose me but you and your husband should sit down and talk about how you feel and hope that goes well |
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Hawkeye
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It could be construed as such.
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Nasty Na
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LOSE HER AGAIN!!!!! What about you? hell no, that's a problem. it's not an unreasonablr thing to not want your b/f telling his ex that he loves her and if he can't understand that then you need to tell him he can love anyone he wants because you don't need it. he's wrong and yes if he ain't cheating he will be |
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laceykitty2004
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sorry to say i don't think its ' just friends'. |
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strew
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Hes cheating. The only relationship he shouln't want to loose is yours and his. Email her and tell her to p**s off. |
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Amy Amy
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Your husband is emotionally cheating on you (maybe physically too). You deserve to be treated better than this. Who knows why he is doing this, maybe he thinks he is in with another shot with his ex. Its no matter how, why, what, the evidence is there so he either ends the relationship with the ex or you end the marriage, simple. |
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Ŧ Bill Kaulitz Smexy Ŧ
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on your computer go on recycle bin click on view on top click explorer bar and history youll se everything and also buy a really small camera put it in his car ( also a tape recoder ) and use them and then talk to him or his ex wife. hide camera when your at work !!!! good luck !!!! |
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Terry
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This is a tough situation. I don't believe that he is cheating. Just make sure to remember he is married to you, and he only talks to her via myspace. You are the privileged one. look out if he decides to start visiting her a lot though.
Now, the details about your relationship is wrong for him to tell and you should confront him about it. I would suggest seeing marriage counselor |
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A
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He respects her more than you as he is telling her private stuff. I wouldn't stand for it! |
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