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rkrell
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I think it is normal. However instead of actually telling him which won't do any good and probably just result in an argument try writing down all those things on paper and then hold a ceremony where you burn that piece of paper. It can be a recognition of letting go of your past and all the hurt and anger that you have been carrying around. |
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Avid
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Just let it go. Look to the future - you can't change the past.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! :) |
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Lori R
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Move on. Why tell him what he did? He knows, he might not admit it but deep down he knows what he did. You need to focus on your new husband and new relationship and forget your ex |
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blueblossom33
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yOU NEED TO PUT THE PAST BEHIND YOU. THE EXPRESSION THE SINS OF THE PAST HAUNT THE PRESENT IS REAL IF YOU DON'T THEN YOU WILL BRING THE ANGER INTO YOUR NEW MARRIAGE AND DESTROY THAT. WHAT'S DONE IS DONE. MOVE ON AND BE HAPPY! |
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Right on
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Move on.....you cannot live in the past..... |
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Amber W
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I got remarried. The best thing to do is let your ex alone. Once he realizes you are getting married he will be hurt and that will be the best revenge you can get for all the hurtful things he did to you. |
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Kitty
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Yeah, it's kinda crazy. I don't think one can fully engage in their future, or their new relationship, if they're harboring a large amount of hatred/resentment towards the past. It's probably normal to feel this way for a while after the split-up, but it should really be fading away with time, especially being that you have your new relationship. Good luck. |
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mimi22
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if he didn't get it when you were together he won't get it now either. People like him NEVER see that part of the problem lies with them.
If you really feel the need to purge your anger, write down all the hurtful things he did to you. Then pick a friend to read it to, in order to validate your feelings. Then burn the letter as a symbol of letting go of the hurt and resentment of the past and moving forward into your new, improved future. Not forgiving him is like keeping yourself in prison with the key to freedom in your pocket.
Get it out and let it go, and remember...the best revenge of all is living well. Good luck! :) |
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just leave it alone |
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gmconlan
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Sit down and write him a letter. This will get all of it out of you. It's up to you if you mail it or not. |
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KathyS
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I would do it. It's called closure. |
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bodinibold
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Drop it. Leave it alone. Move on. If you want, write down everything you want to say to your ex, then either put it in a bottle and toss it out to sea, or take it out to the back yard and burn it in a bonfire. You'll feel better and not stoop to his level of trying to hurt someone to make yourself feel better |
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jenlovely01
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Write a letter to him, pour your heart out, and then rip it up or burn it. DO NOT send it to him. It helped me. |
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Click
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What comes around, goes around. He'll get his! Don't worry about it. |
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to_sassy4_u
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I would right everything down on paper that is driving you crazy. Address it to you ex husband and then burn it. You will get it out of your system that way. Good Luck
P.S. It worked for me. |
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Sara
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I'm sure it's normal to feel resentful towards your ex, after all there's got to be a good reason he's your ex. But you did the best thing by leaving him. If you really want to lay into him and have kids with him then I would hold back for their sake. |
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misydoll
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Yes, that is normal. Tell him so he can try to change for the better, it doesn't hurt to hear all the bad that you have done. |
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superboredom
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since you're getting married to a different guy, why tell him all that stuff? it's not worth it, just don't think about it, and think about your wedding and your new marriage. |
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Bugz B
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I think you should tell him how you feel so he will know not to make that mistake again. |
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Marissa S
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you should calmly tell him you don't want this to ruin any friendship but that you need to get this off your chest before you get remarried and try not accuse him so it doesn't get ugly ....i wish you good luck <3 hope all is great after...i'll pray for you |
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dee
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u should tell him absolutely everything!it's perfectly normal and u should definately go 4 it! |
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Lucky 7
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Time will heal all wounds; but you could write it out in a letter to your ex, but burn it after you write it!!
You need to concentrate on your new man and try not to bring any baggage from the last marriage!!!!! |
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schoolot
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Write a letter. Don't mail it, just write what is inside of you and get it out. Then look at the now and the future. The past is just that, the past. You have moved on to a better and happier life. |
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justwondering
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if you want to start a new life with the man you are marring, then you need to forget about your ex. how are you going to bring your ex into this new relationship. |
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dwh12345
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You might get a response you don't like..Like what he doesn't like about you..Let it go |
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AsianPersuasion :)
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You should focus on your relationship now and forget the past. Your new marriage is never going to work unless you truly get over your ex and by the sounds of it, you haven't. |
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Melia
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call him up and tell'em. |
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misty w
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before i got marries to my husband i was with a guy for 5 yrs loved him to death really thought he was the one i would walk to he screwed me over in more ways than one time an time again we departed on bad terms when i met my husband i was still hurt an sortof wanting the prior back but i hated him at the same time so i tok advise from friends n family an went out with my husband an we ended up falling in love about a week after the wedding i sat down an wrote robbie a letter telling him how i felt what he did an where my life had ended up i dropped it in his mailbox the next day an i felt a lot better .. heres why we split he had cheated ton of times i chewed him out the ladt time an he left oh i was hot never thought it was my friend they tok off that very same night an got married i wanted to kill him but i got over it an im married to levi an love my life.. |
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U.WANT.ME
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I would leave it alone for you fiance's sake. He doesn't want to hear about or think about your ex, and he probably doesn't want you to either. If you dwell on this it will only look like you're not over him. If you must get it off your chest, write him a letter or email. Then be done with it. Forget about him whether he responds or not. If you're getting remarried, then it's time to move on. That was a different period of your life and your starting a better one, be happy. And one more thing. If your ex wouldn't listen to you to save the relationship, then he probably won't now either. |
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F. Perdurabo
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You'd better let go of that crap now, or you will project it onto your new husband.
Forgive Forgive Forgive - just forgive him - forgive him and erase whatever you are holding onto.
Don't bring any bad juju into your new marriage.
FP |
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