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magnolia_76
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It can happen, but it's rare. Get yourself a good family lawyer..~ |
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Ashton S
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if they are better off with you the court will decide and plave them there. but of your wife is in a better position to take care of them then they will be placed there |
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Shana D
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You have a chance. It depends on the situation (who can support the kids, who usually spends tome w/ them.... and much more). The mother usually gets custody or it is joint but, the father getting custody isn't that rare or unheard of. Don't give up |
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rebecca
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Yes, men get full custody of their children all the time, but please put your children before yourself. I know you love them very much, but be sure that having them with you is in THEIR best interest and not in YOURS. My heart breaks for you. |
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Gingerbread Man
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Partner if your initiating the divorce you can forget it. I hope she has a job or career, because when that court and judge gets through with you, whew! Look go to the music store and get the record by Johnny Taylor "Its cheaper to keep her." If you want to have full custody of the children well its a package deal ie. keep the wife. |
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t. mcgee
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only if you can prove that she's not as fit as you are to raise them. it'll be tricky, with today's court system's record. i'm sorry :[ |
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vimesfan01
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Yes they do. But the mother has to be a mess.
If she is deemed a fit parent, then the courts usually go with the mother. It is a sad fact. |
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Matt M
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try for it! you sound like a good father and she is being a not so good parent by trying to take children away from there father. In court try to play the good guy. act like you open for joint custody. anything but losing the boys you love. right? |
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VICKY
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well it depends here in the u.s.a a woman has more power then the man!! the only way that they will give u custody of the kids is if she is not taking care for them, or hitting them... but if you get a divorce they will probably re-arranged something for you and her could see the kids. maybe on the weekends or 3 times a week!! ((before you guys get a divorce u guys should go to counceling)) it will probably save the marriage! and it will make the kids more happier instead of having them upset everyday and wondering what happend! they going to think is their fault, so please do it for your kids ((tell your wife to attend counseling with you)) i think is the best idea!! but anyways hun =) good luck.. wish you and the family the best<3 and whatever happends in the court i hope they give you joint [with joint your wife will NOT be able to leave minnesota] but i would go to counseling first.. |
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Curious
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You'll have to prove her unfit..but you can stop her from leaving with them. |
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Krissy.
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If you're a fit father and she is a fit mother you will probably get joint custody. So, she may not even be allowed to go to Utah. I think they can make her stay in Minnesota if you have joint custody.
But, unless you can prove her to be an unfit mother, it's not likely you'll get full custody. |
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ripetshopboy401
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Generally the biological mother gets preferential treatment in custody matters,,unless for any reason you can show you can provide a more stable home for your kids versus your ex,,,distance really wont take a factor in the cutody decision if both parents have equal qualifications for proper care
sorry |
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drewxjacobs
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Unless she is a substance abuser and/or mistreats the children (documented), the most you can hope for is joint custody and that doesn't necessarily mean joint physical custody. |
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jj02
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Unless you can prove that she is unfit then there is a slim to none chance that you will get your kids. Have you thought about Marriage counseling?? Why not work on the marriage then you will never need to worry about seeing your kids. Good luck!! |
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hazeltine4
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Only if you prove she is an unfit mother, or that moving them will put them in danger. Split custody will be very difficult with that distance, so your lawyer needs to do a good job to protect your rights as a dad, and so it isn't a hardship on the kids or your wallet. If he's really good, he may convince the judge that she should not move the kids so far away from their father.
Good luck to you!!! |
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littlelady0005
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yes i know alot of men who have custody of their kids. Of course the mother has to be unfit to get full custody. men can be the primary caregiver. primary caregiver would have the kids more often than the other. It is very hard to prove a parent unfit. It is going to be very hard to go through court if she is in another state. they will have to interstate the case which means either she will have to come back to Minnesota or you wil have to go to Utah. I'm not going to lie it will be a very long and drawn out mess, alot of time may go by before you get to see your kids if she takes them before it goes to court. do some investigating before you let her in on any divorce proceeding talk to a lawyer. Good luck if your interest is giving your kids a better life and not just to hurt your wife. |
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cheryl4785
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The ONLY way you can get full custody of your kids is to prove that the mom is an unfit mother.
Therefore, if she doesnt care about the childrens development, uses drugs, etc. The courts ultimate goal is to have the kids 50/50 with the parents, but their main concern is for the well-being of the children.
Just an FYI - there will be a lot of court hearings for this to be determined as they will have a court appointed therapist try and evaluate the situation and possibly monitored visitations. |
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Drakestone
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If your children ever get inside the borders of Utah, they will not leave again until they are voting age; so unfortunately if you really want your children with you and really believe she would take them to Utah, I suggest you take your boys to where she can not find them and transport them to Utah. Having said that let me state that the actions I propose are going to make you look unfit, so the challenge will be to make her and the environment she intends to raise them in look even more unfit. Additionally, if you believe, as I think you have good cause to, that Utah will be for your sons a place of no return, insist that she not be allowed unsupervised visits.
Good luck, there are fathers everywhere whose prays go with you. |
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ScSpec
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Yes, men do get custody of children. Generally however, both partners would share custody if neither could be shown to be unfit. Filing for custody and proving your ability will help persuade a judge in your favor should the opportunity arise. If your wife chooses to move to another state she may find herself responsible for providing transportation for the children to visit you, or might have to allow them to stay with you. Judges are more conscious of being fair to men today than they used to be, get a really good family-law attorney immediately. |
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debbiecc01
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You will more than likely get joint custody. A judge is very funny about removing children that small from their mothers unless there are good reasons like child abuse. |
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that girl
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I've been told courts/judges USUALLY favor mothers, but that's just usually. |
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sillyzoedog
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if you don't get full custody, the chances are good you can get joint and the wife won't be allowed to leave minnesota.....there are a lot of factors involved though (are you a competent parent? any history of legal issues? substance abuse issues? domestic violence?) good luck |
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Corina A
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It's kind of difficult to. But my brother-in-law has full custody of his 3 kids, so it's not impossible. It's up to the judge. |
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Mom of 4
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Why would you ever want to take your children away from their mother? No matter who is at fault, they need her. They need you too, but be honest with yourself, they need their mother and that is what the court generally rules. |
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hazel eyes
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fat chance on that...they need a mom as well..not to many will just do one parent..unless one has been putting them in harms way or street living as a drugie... |
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brigitte
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maybe if ur wife is a ganstar. an anybody can prove it. ur get full custody. but if not ur just have to let go. but i wish u luck man |
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celticbuddha
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i seriously doubt it. but you could at least attempt to make sure that they do not move away, thereby severely limiting your visitation rights. make sure that your lawyer knows that from the get go. |
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Tai Shan
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I'm hoping to get this nanny job here soon. Anyways... My friend is a dad of twin boys (8 years old) and his ex wife had three kids of her own from her first marriage. Well he actually got custody of ALL FIVE kids! even though 3 weren't his! |
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lostatpacific
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My mother got custody of me when I was younger when my rents went througha divorce.
The older child MIGHT be able to make a choice - but it's doubtful. The judge will decide what is best for the children, and sadly they think MOM is best.
Advice? GET A GREAT LAWYER |
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Anne L
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Well, you can force her not to move if you have joint custody...that way, she can't leave the state, sometimes even the county.
As for full custody - nobody really gets full custody unless one person relinquishes parental rights and/or the other person is found to be an unfit parent - and proving that is very difficult, but it can be done if it is indeed true. |
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