I am have marriage problems please help?

me and my wife have been married for 8 years and have two boys we both have drug problems i left her last year to quit i went back in hopes she would to but she hasnt since then we have had a terriable time seems we fight about every thing and i always have to be the one to swollow my pride and just make changes to make her happy and she does very little and expects me to be excited over it she said she is affraid to let me in her heart again because i left is she just trying to control the situation or what she is still using and said i am tryin to control her by manting her to stop
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I am clean and sober and keep my kids away from her drug use the best I can she said she wants to work it out but wont quit only reason i stay is for my boys

Mean Carleen

her current using is not helpful to your being sober and since you guys do have small children, I would demand that she goes into a rehab or kick her to the curve. SOMEONE has to think about the children.

saniig

take your kids and dump the no hoper on the side of the road on your way out of town forever

jammin

Counseling and lots of praying

A Guy And A Girl

You guys definitely need to get off the drugs. Drugs will get you know where besides a hospital or jail and your kids will be taken away. You need to take care of your kids and yourselves and be there for each other. Your children love you and they dont want to be seperated from you. Tell your wife she needs help take her to a rehab place and tell her she cant see her kids until she gets better because you dont want your children growing up like a drugatticed mother. Your kids will think it is ok to abuse drugs and they will end up doing it and then your grand kids will do it and so forth. You have to set an example for your kids. Please get her to rehab so your family doesnt fall apart... I hope i helped..

know.it.all;)

This is what I know for sure......

As long as either of you are on drugs, this will not work. If you cant do it for eachother, do it for the kids. Get help getting off drugs and I think everything else will begin to fall into place.

Good luck

Danielle

If you are clean and she is not then that is a huge problem for your marrige and for your sobriety. Its hard to remain clean when you have someone so close to you using still, it's too much temptation. I know you probably love her but you need to leave her and let her find her own way. If she isn't ready to change, there isn't jack sh*t you can do about it. You will just push her away by trying to help her when she isn't ready for help yet. Look out for yourself right now, take the boys, and live your life the right way. Be there for her, b/c she is the Mother of your kids, but love her from a distance. Good luck to your family:)

wondering

You have to be very careful that you keep your Program together so you don't fall back into your addition. Everyone is responsible for their own addition, she owns hers and you own yours. Stay clean and look after your children. She keeps this up and she will lose her children. You will have to be there at that time to pick up the pieces for the boys. She is still choosing drugs over her and anyone else. She has to hit her bottom to stop. Some never do. Thank God that the boys have you, and you have the strength to stay clean while being around the person you used with. Be very careful ! I say keep close to the boys and go somewhere you can maintain your sobriety Good Luck and congratulations on staying clean.

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