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rayne
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I am in a very similar relationship.
My lover is 30 years older than me, he is the best thing that ever happened to me, I don't know what I'd do without him.
He is married still, but separated. I wonder the same things as you, and I worry a lot. He has three kids, but he says he wants a life with me.
If you love him, stay with him. Love is what life is for. Don't give up. |
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Sargeant B
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Simple answer .............. The old git shouldn't be banging a twelve year old. Report him to the police. |
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♥♥™Tia™♥♥
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well its obvious your young, why else would he be after you
age doesnt matter if theres about 5-10 years but NOT 31
it sounds like your a dirty little secret why else see each other in secret, dump the OAP and get someone your own age
besides its NOT love as its someone elses love your trying to steal |
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msociety
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if you can handle the name calling and finger-pointing, potential loss of relationships with friends and family... then go ahead. Personally, I belive if he is doing this with you in his middle-ages then he is just fighting aging and is proving something to himself. you are probably just an object of his desire and not a lifetime companion. besides, if he strays from his wife he will stray from you. You may be labeled as a homewrecker in your community. choose wisely. |
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ian r
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No age does not matter but the chances of the relationship lasting as you presume it will are very very slim as eventually (in most cases with a large age gap) the age age will become an issue. When he is struggling with old age you will be a spritely 40 ry old who will be tied down with your old man.
Good luck...you'll need it and all the best |
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jet-set
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Yes, how old are you both? 31 years is a hell of a difference. It might not matter SO much now, but what about in 10 or 20 years time?
Anyway, there's the small matter of his family! You know the old saying, "You can't make an omelet without breaking eggs"? Well it's very true. You say you don't want to hurt your families, but what do you expect is going to happen when the s*** hits the fan? You don't say if you're married.
No-one can tell you what to do. Just be aware that you're in for a very rough ride. Hope you think it's worth it! |
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mimegamy
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31 years may not make a difference to you right now but it will. He is too old for you. The only real problem I see in this relationship right now is HE"S MARRIED. He may tell you he is splitting with his wife because that is what you want to hear. Wait til it happens before seeing him again. The age difference will soon be too large for you, |
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Sparkles
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You bought this story he told you? You and countless women have been in relationships with married men who are going to leave their wife, but they can't because....... Do not waste your life on someone who cheats. You will not be the first nor the last. He will not leave his marriage to be with you, they never do get divorced unless the wife gets tired of the infidelity and divorces the husband. You should think about his wife and children and their feelings if they found out about you. That is why he hides you away from anyone finding out. |
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champagne
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Age is not the problem here...The fact he is married is !!! |
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Raspberry
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Where are your morals and values? He is married and you are having an affair with him!!!!! You are going to hurt his family regardless for ending a marriage. His kids are never going to like you either because you are the other woman. There is NOTHING right about this relationship. |
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CHARISMA
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I would like to check first that you are over 18? If not then I sugest you end this crap right now. If you are then you need to tell your family when you are ready. I also hope you don't mean he is leaving his wife for you, because thst'd you having an affair and I bet he won't even leave her, that's why he wants it a secret. The path of true love never runs smooth. |
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Phartzalot
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Age doesn't matter at all. I had a successful relationship with a great age difference. Where I would say to exercise caution is involving yourself with a married man with 2 kids. There is the possibility he is not being truthful and you are being used. |
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presleygirl
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normally i say not but 31 years.? what kind of future is there-surely this is really only physical, do not be a part of his destroying his marraige, and yes, you are the reason. that is lowlife. |
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michael
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i think it's destiny for u guys not be with each other. He is married and has children and is married. even though you love each other, there is nothing u can do about it. He has children and if the dude leaves his family, then there will be no one to support the family. It's all about what's important to him, you or his children and his wife? If you ask him, he will defenitely say his children and there's no way he will leave them. Well if his wife or children dont mind u two seeing each other, then ur lucky. or u cud continue seeing each other as long as they dont find out.
the answer for the 2nd question is no, age does not matter. as long as you love each other till death. |
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Spider
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This dude is a cradle robber ! |
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The BudMiester
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31 years difference will later on . |
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I Love Cats
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in some situations age does matter. How old are you not to be rude.And if your sneking around thats not good. I know you love who you love but If we don't know ages we can't really give an honest opinion . But good luck to you. |
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DREAMER
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well legally if your 16 that means hes 47!! i have to say that is too much hes old enough to be your dad and if he has kids older than yourself why not go out with one of them instead!! |
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Bugs
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Only you can answer this one, if it feels right to you then it feels right.
Having a 31 year age gap could cause problems though so be prepared when you do tell people. Then there's the question of does he want anymore children and how long can you two leave starting a family with the age gap almost certainly going to make things harder. |
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yakutumutu
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Age is just a figure if you really love and trust each other go for it and don't mind anybody,explain to your families that this is your life and you want to live it the way you want eventually they will accept both of you.good luck |
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sweet-cookie
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you are in love
and love can overcome almost ,any difficulties ;
When you are in love , common sense,
goes out of the window .,
You will ,hurt both your families , You can't avoid that,
by secrecy . Sooner or later you will be found out .
you will ,always be, so much younger than,
the man you love ,
He will be old ,long before you are , and need supporting
Nobody can really advise you , (we are not you .)
It is possible, to love each other enough ,
to overcome all obstacles
But it is rare
I wish you both luck and happiness
>^,,^< |
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Crayon
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If you cant get out in public with this there is no point continuing. Gonna have to brave it out. It'll either work or it wont. Do you want to be a secret all your life? I wouldn't |
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GoToHellYouPoser
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that person could be your aunt or uncle. This is wayy to much of an age difference...it might ruin you relationship later on.. |
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Atheist Eye Candy
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How old are you? |
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tim69_2003
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depends on how old you are. I had a 12 year age difference with my ex and that didnt work out in the long run. She swore that my age didnt matter then after we broke up she'd throw it in my face. |
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isleofskye
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If you're in love age doesn't matter, I am 11 years older than my husband and it makes no difference. Go with you're heart. |
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