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I am married for 12 years but I'm about to take on a GF, is this really so wrong?

My anniversary was last week, my wife and have been together for 12 years and I love her deeply. There is another woman at my job and we are very attracted to one another and she has not been able to find a good man. SHe has a 11 year old son and he loves me. I told her I want her to be my Girlfriend and she was estatic and accepted.
There's not enough good men to go around I feel obligated to help my community and this single mother who is a good person by being the man in her life and providing some financial and psychological stability to her and her son's lives. Is this such a bad thing?
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No wonder why you women ar so lonely and bitter... geesh!
Have you ver heard of the old saying, beggers can't be choosers?


    




Lorrie W
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You are doing your part for humanity! Goody for you! HA HA! Very funny!


~NIKKI~
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Your right she does have a hard time finding a good man. (Including you)


Opinion101
Its not easy being stupid but you do it so very well.


Julie H
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So the other woman is looking for "a good man." She hasn't found one. She found a cheater. You are disgusting and selfish.


Joy
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Does your wife know about this? Is she okay with it? If not... yes, you are doing a very bad thing.

Sounds like you're looking for more of an ego stroke than anything. If you're such a good guy, why do you think cheating on your wife is okay? What happens when this woman wants you to divorce your wife and marry her?

You are making a huge mistake and are going to hurt many people.


pictureshygirl
Your girlfriend has still not found a good man, she found a man that is married and is making excuses for reasons to validate cheating on his wife. Good luck, it's your marriage, do what you want with it.


Mrs D is expecting #2
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What's bad is your ugly avatar!

LOL


MARLEY8
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ummmm............. You are obviously a saint/good Samaritan. Your wife must be so proud! Keep up the good work!


♥ Sinéad ♥
Of course it bloody is!!


andy253
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you are a silly,silly man.You are using this as a false pretense to get layed.You really don't love your wife.If you did you would'nt entertain these ideas of committing adultery.And as far as helping your community,join the Peace Corps or something .This other woman at work has been doing fine with out you.All you will do in the end is hurt your wife,girlfriend and her son ,than last but not least yourself


dinny's engaged!!
omg I hope this is a joke. If so, it's a pathetic one.


big kahuna
come on dude , do you hear yourself, you are married, grow up, get your chit together, go to counseling or divorce your wife but this is not the way, you wont find any sympathy here.


Jacquot
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You are doing something that is truly wonderful. You are going to give this girl the leadership that she is craving, and I can understand why she was ecstatic.

Have you thought about giving her son a brother? Just something to think about.

God Bless you!


Danielise
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Whoa! Providing some psychological stability for her and her son? Well, aren't you the saint with a large ego. Not only is this not psychologically stable for the single mother and son, it's psychologically damaging to the wife you love deeply. Any children with her you would like to destroy? Get a brain. So what if you are attracted to her, this does not mean you act on it. Do you think you are the only married person who developed attractions and feelings for someone else? Clue... everyone does. The psychologically stable ones do NOT act upon it. Do everyone a favor and seek therapy. You are not a good man, far from it buddy!


<3MommyofACutie&anAngel<3
Yes, it's a bad thing. Because eventually when this all blows up in your face, you're only going to confirm her fears that all guys will hurt her in some way. Let her find another man for her.


JackiKC
I'm sure this question is a joke, right? If not, why don't you ask your wife what she thinks?


amiyr b
Dude its not a good idea one of those chicks has got to go


Turning Gray
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It is terribly wrong. I hope you lose both of them.


Maureen P
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OMG! I can't believe you actually posted this question.
If you're looking at this woman to be a GF, you're obviously looking for something other than providing "financial and psychological stability" for her.
Yes, that would be bad!!
How would you feel, if the woman you have loved deeply for 12 years decides she wants to have a guy on side... just for support, mind you.
Does this other woman even know that you are married, did you even bother to tell her?
And who says you're a good person, if you're thinking of cheating on your wife!!! Sheesh!!!


Kelly V
it would deeply hurt your wife's feelings....have you considered that?


Samantha
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yes this is really wrong you are going to have to choose one or the other and you are now going to break one of their hearts... And just think you have been married for 12 years what is your wife going to say when she finds out!! .. if you really loved her you would not have asked that girl to be your girl friend.. or maybe your relationship with your wife has got boring so you wanna have a bit of fun .. dunno but just sort it out you cant go out with 2 people that is just wrong.. And I'm 15 and i know more than you and can see that this is wrong .. If you really like that girl then tell your wife nicely and then go with her... i know you are only trying to be nice by asking her as well to be your girlfriend 2 .. but in the long run you are being out of order to both of them ..


Woof!!!
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WHAT PLANET ARE YOU FROM??? IS THIS WRONG??? THAT IS LIKE SHOOTING SOMEONE IN THE HEAD CAUSE YOU HAVE A GUN HANDY AND WONDERING... IF IT WAS WRONG OR NOT TO HAVE DONE THAT....

GROW THE F*** UP!


Nancy Grace
Why not ask your wife or soon to be GF if this is wrong? Really, if you have to question this then HECK YEAH IT"S WRONG! You can come up with any excuses to make this right if you want but you know in your heart it's bad moral.


deathcom5
Everyone here is stuck on “What’s Right” and how we are supposed to live. Who’s says we have to live a certain way to be accepted?

Stop being so bitter and living by the book. I bet every female here got married straight out of high school. Live a little.

If your wife is with it go for it.


ReasonsWeLive
Being captain save a hoe to a single mother is not really the answer since you have your own family. Perhaps she needs to find a single man, while not getting preyed on by you.


roseannetb@verizon.net
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Your thoughts are all wrong. You are a married man, you are off limit to her or any one else. This is not your responsibility, you have an obligation to your wife and family, to be their for them and only them. If you do this, you will end up regretting it. and the other thing is, never go with any one who you work with. Wake up, and end this crap now, before you end up losing your family'.


oldstinkyuglywivesnightmare
Man, why do you even ask this question here? See, only accusations are the response. All of them comes from loser women who are ugly and old and have problems to keep their husbands and not lose them to other women who are more attractive, prettier, younger and hotter than them. Go for it, man! Add some spice to your life!





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